Do you know what a high bride price means for an average family?
This video may be a microcosm of most rural households in China. Money car house, difficult to pass, gritted teeth.
In the countryside, two very ordinary families are talking about marriage leave, these two young people who are about to enter the city sit behind their parents, at this time they are expressionless, after all, it depends on whether the two families exchange views or not, at this time, the man's father looked at the woman's parents with a flattering face, eager to put the date of marriage on the agenda.
The woman's father simply threw out the bride price, 300,000 yuan! Not a single cent is missing, and it is not easy to raise his daughter by himself. At this time, the woman's father's tone is undeniable, the man is not good at saying anything, maybe he wants his son to get married, the man is afraid that there will be no family business after discussion, so he quickly agreed, the 300,000 is also the market price of the surrounding marriage and love, they have no choice, for an ordinary rural family, it is already a lifetime of savings for him and his wife, and it is worth it for his son to inherit the lineage.
The bride price money gritted his teeth and gave it, after a while, I didn't see how the woman let go, the phone call has been perfunctory, the man here is so anxious to the ants on the hot pot, what does it mean that the money has been given and the date has not been set? The woman's father also expected this time, and directly pointed out that I am also very anxious about the baby's family business, but it is not convenient to do anything without a car after marriage. As soon as the words fell, the man's father and son glanced at each other, although they were at a loss, they still made a promise with a sad face, in-laws, you can rest assured that the car will be there.
gave the bride price to buy a car, the woman's side and the mouth room, the man understood that only with these items can there be results, so he had to make up the east and west, borrow from the east and west, and finally make up a suite, the son here has actually retreated, and the old father said his thoughts, or forget it, was scolded back by the father. It's a big deal that after getting married, with the help of the whole family, each of them will pay off his debts by working a few jobs! He doesn't want his son to become a single.
The old father worked several jobs a day, in order to pay off the debts of a lot of years and did hard work on the construction site, the son was very guilty, in order to get married, the family almost made up the wealth of this life in advance, the father saw through his son's mind, and comforted him, son, you relax, we are an ordinary family, so much money is not something you can save, the big deal in the next few years I and your mother will work a few more jobs.
Let's take a look at it, this day the mother's family and the daughter contacted the phone and learned that the daughter was recently sick and hospitalized and there was no one to take care of the mother-in-law's side, the old couple wondered if the daughter was abused, and hurriedly went to the hospital to see, but it was amazing, the daughter was hospitalized alone and had to hold the baby, the doctor over there appeared, blamed the old couple, the patient was hospitalized for so long and had not eaten, how did you take care of it? When my father-in-law saw this scene, he asked his wife to take care of his daughter first, and he ran to the man's side angrily to ask for an explanation, leaving my sick daughter alone, and this day will not be over?
He ran to the brick factory where his son-in-law worked, and when he saw his son-in-law who was moving bricks at this time, he scolded him with his head and face, Erdan, why don't you care if my daughter is still sick and hospitalized? What about your parents? Erdan explained, he is at work, and his parents have also gone out to work far away, where can they take care of it? Although there is a saying, but the father-in-law still thinks that it should not be, since your parents have gone out to work, as a husband, you should help your daughter take care of everything at home, instead of being sick now and no one cares.
As soon as the words fell, the son-in-law here was aggrieved first, when my father got married, the bride price was 300,000, the down payment for the house was 400,000, the decoration was 100,000, the wedding banquet was 200,000, and the mortgage and car loan were 5,000 per month, the property water and electricity bills and the children's milk powder money, my parents' lifelong savings were all put in, and I am now also carrying a debt, can the family not work?
The old man was silent at this time, and at the end of this video, the bride price of 300,000 yuan was returned to his son-in-law intact, thinking that his daughter would marry a car and a house, and her life would be better, but she didn't expect to cause so much pressure to her daughter's small family, and she hollowed out the money to marry her daughter into that hole.
Wen Tiejun, an expert on agriculture and agriculture, said that the bride price in the countryside is only the direct cost of marriage, which is already 40 to 50 times the per capita GDP, which means that in fact, people have to work almost all their lives to pay for this cost, and now with the marketization of marriage relations is a series of social problems, especially the decline in fertility will exacerbate the seriousness of rural hollowing.
Modern people are so difficult, a recent set of data has caused a huge response on the Internet, in 2023, the population of the mainland will achieve negative growth, and the number of births this year is only 9.03 million, which is only half of 2016. The volume of all walks of life has made the current Chinese young people not want to regenerate. It is said that the countryside surrounds the city, and now go to the countryside and close one kindergarten after another, and some schools even have more teachers than students, and the pressure of life has made the peasants who regard the inheritance of the family as very important are no longer born, let alone the cities.
So how many materials should be appropriate for marriage?
A matchmaker aunt who has swept the blind date market for many years said how much conscience price should be given for the bride price over the years, she said, the bride price is a point, but it is unreasonable to want too much, if you don't want it at all, we don't agree, after all, a hand-raised girl has come to your house, and it is not appropriate to give a bride price from the etiquette. This is a kind of sincerity, which makes people feel that you are sincere and remarry someone, with her experience, the least is 60,000, but there are more than 120,000 anyway, generally 66,800,000, which is relatively normal. On the surface, the bride price for the child, some are more accompanied by the woman's family, and they all help the child, which is the end of the form.