"I understand that I don't have to say it without my mouth, and I don't have to say it without my mouth. ”
Shen Congwen wrote this sentence in "Border City", telling us -
Love or not, deep or shallow, the person in it feels the most distinct.
If he still has you in his heart, then this emotion cannot be hidden.
Even if his eyes are not directly on you, his afterglow will quietly follow you countless times.
And when his heart no longer loves you, you will also clearly feel the change in his attitude and the coldness of his words.
Especially when he always replies to you with the following two words, you should understand that his love for you has long since dissipated.
01
"Whatever"
There is a saying:
"A man's memory, like a fish, is only 7 seconds. ”
I don't think it's appropriate, this sentence should add a premise-
Only when he doesn't love you will the memory be only 7 seconds.
You might as well recall that when he chased you or when they first got together, he would treat your words and deeds as treasures.
He will buy the food you mention casually, and he will remember your vague wishes and fulfill them for you.
Even your every mood swing, he can sensitively perceive.
But when love fades, everything changes.
The ups and downs of your mood, the stories you share, and the pain you pour out all become insignificant to him, so his answers become perfunctory, often with only one "whatever".
Feelings, it doesn't matter, they will be careless;
Sincerely, it doesn't matter, it will be unscrupulous.
If the relationship between the two has come to this point, why do they have to barely maintain it? The more they give, the deeper the wound will be, and the longer they wait, the greater the disappointment.
Only by turning around decisively will you not be hurt too deeply.
02
"It's annoying"
Lu Qi once said:
"In a relationship, if two people have nothing to say at all, then the loneliness of these two people together may be sadder than the loneliness of one person. ”
If you think about it, it makes sense.
When the passion fades and the triviality strikes, if two people can still speak freely, the relationship will definitely go on for a long time.
If not, no matter how strong the love is, it will eventually wither.
A netizen shared her experience:
When she and her boyfriend first got together, there were always endless topics to talk about.
I don't know when time passed, and the man who used to talk and laugh with her seemed to have become a stranger.
He goes out early and returns late every day, and the warmth of greeting her is no longer there. Whenever she tried to communicate with him, he seemed absent-minded and often even responded to her with a "very annoying".
In the end, she couldn't bear the torture and chose to leave.
A man is like this, his heart is not in you at this time, even if he does not take the initiative to break up, his words and deeds will gradually become impatient.
Therefore, everything you do becomes insignificant in his eyes, and your efforts will only be exchanged for his boredom and indifference.
03
"Busy"
In a busy life, time has become the most precious existence.
Because of this, people only spend their time on the people and things that are most valuable.
For someone who loves you, even if you are busy, it will make time for you just because you are the most important person in his heart.
But for people who don't love you, your existence may be just a wisp of smoke that can be blown away by the wind at any time.
The phrase "I'm busy" becomes an excuse for them to run away, unwilling to devote time to you and unwilling to pour out emotions for you.
So, women don't make excuses for men stupidly, even if they are busy, as long as they still have you in their hearts, they will make time to love you.
As said in the movie "He Actually Doesn't Like You That Much":
"If a man doesn't call you, he really doesn't want to call you. So take my word for it, if a man doesn't seem to care about you, then he really doesn't care about you, no exceptions!"
The indifference you feel, the ignorance you perceive, the change of mind that you are aware of, is not an illusion.
There is only one reason behind a person's eternal availability for you, and that is that he doesn't love you anymore.
Wang Jingwen's "Fickle" sings:
"Once upon a time, you would rush to see each other through storms
Later, you don't even bother to score a little bit on the edge of the umbrella
It is we who underestimate the fickleness of time
It's too easy to turn over the pages of a strong story. ”
Emotional things, such as people drinking water, know whether they are warm or cold.
In the journey of love, we are all our own helmsmen, and in the face of wind and waves, we need to make our own choices.
However, no matter what the outcome is, I hope that we can love soberly and not lose ourselves.
If you find that a man's attitude is gradually changing, you don't need to keep it, just turn around and leave in style, so as to leave a dignity for yourself.
May you and I be sober and self-loving, have the ability to love others, and have the confidence to turn around, work hard all our lives, and be loved all our lives!