In addition to parents, siblings are the best fate.
When our parents are still alive, we often get together with our siblings to support our parents.
But when the parents are gone, or the parents are very old and can't manage the big family, conflicts emerge.
The most tragic thing is that siblings hurt each other, leaving the surviving parents in pain, but they can't help them.
How can hatred be resolved? It is obviously not advisable to balance the family's property, to have parents not be biased at all, and to let everyone help you.
Wang Wei, a poet in the Tang Dynasty, wrote a lot of poems about family, and chose three of them and read them carefully, and his heart will soon become transparent.
The key is that we should look at people's strengths, tolerate people's weaknesses, and repay the grace of dripping water.
01
When you travel far away, someone cares.
"Memories of Shandong Brothers on September 9th": "Alone in a foreign land as a stranger, every festival is more than a family; ”
Wang Wei's hometown is in Puzhou, east of Huashan.
When he was a few years old, his father passed away, and as the eldest son in the family, he worked with his mother to manage the family business.
When he was fifteen years old, he went to Chang'an, studied, and gained fame.
Two years have passed, and the fame has not yet been obtained, but the person seems extremely lonely. It was another year of Chung Yeung Festival, and when he saw that the people around him were reunited with his family, he thought of his family and wrote poems to express his feelings at that time.
Someone described Wang Wei's poem as follows: "I don't say that I miss him, but I say that he misses me, which doubles the desolation." ”
Yes, when we have traveled a long way and made a home in a distant place, although we have made friends, we will still be lonely. Especially when life is not going well, at a crossroads, friends are going to be separated.
Only the care of our relatives, we will never be able to leave. You are far away from the earth, and you can't stop this feeling.
On the "Southern Metropolis Daily" online platform, Ms. Huang from Shaodong, Hunan Province, picked up her mobile phone to watch a small video, and occasionally found a homeless man, very similar to her brother. It is near the Nanhai Dali Guijiang Bridge in Foshan.
So, Ms. Huang sought help from the police, hoping to see the homeless man himself.
After going around in a circle and looking for many days, Ms. Huang and her brother were reunited.
It turned out that my brother went to Shenzhen to work five years ago, and then lost contact with his family, and his life was also in trouble.
We have seen countless stories of searching for relatives, but which one did not burst into tears? This love is enough to show that the love of brothers and sisters comes from the bones and cannot be parted.
The years make us gray-haired, and the contradictions make us feel guilty, but what is it for the bloodline?
02
When successful, someone shares.
"Accidental Works: Seeing Taihang Day and Night": "Seeing Taihang Day and Night, Shen Mo failed to go." Ask you why, the world network baby I died. The little sister grew up, but the brother did not marry. The family is poor and thin, and the savings are not sufficient. A few times I wanted to fly, and I hesitated to look at each other. ”
Wang Wei was twenty-one years old, won the Jinshi, and served as Taile Cheng. Although the official position is not high, there is also a salary, which can make the family no longer poor.
In the officialdom, there were many twists and turns, which made Wang Wei very uncomfortable, but he still persevered, after all, he was the pillar of the family and couldn't live only for himself.
When he was an official, he also took into account that his little sister had grown up, and his brother had not started a family. And their own savings are too small to give them a better life.
The bits and pieces of life are all sent to my hometown through poems.
When the family read the letter, they must be happy for Wang Wei and grateful for his care.
There is joy in life, but in front of outsiders, you can only be happy but not silent, happy but not happy. For your family, it's different, you can rest assured that you can also share what you get with your family.
Usually, the most powerful person in a family is the "big parent". This is an authority, but also a heavy responsibility.
When you are doing well, take the initiative to help your brothers and sisters, and you will find that all the hardships are worth it.
Many people make enemies, the root of which is that they are too selfish, they also like to turn over old accounts, and they are still worried about the acres and thirds of land in the big family.
Think about it, you have worked hard to build the world, you have thousands of family fortunes, and you always think about a few taels of silver from your parents, and your brothers and sisters occupy a room, which is really boring.
Learn to share, that is joy, there is giving and taking.
03
When you are in trouble, someone helps.
"Farewell Brother Jinhou Ascends Qinglong Temple to Look at Lantian Mountain": "Mo Shang New Parting, the vast suburbs are obscure. Ascend and don't see you, so the mountain is outside the clouds. Distant trees cover pedestrians, and the sky is hidden in autumn. The heart is sad and the wanderer, where to fly and cover. ”
Just when Wang Wei's life was slowly rising, the Anshi Rebellion broke out.
He was forced to become An Lushan's subordinate.
When the Anshi Rebellion was put down, he became a prisoner. At this time, his younger brother Wang Jin worked under General Li Guangbi, and he was meritorious in guarding Taiyuan, and was promoted to the squire of the Criminal Department.
Seeing that his brother was in trouble, his younger brother Wang Jin wrote a letter and asked to cut off his official position and exchange Wang Wei's life for a safe life.
Therefore, Wang Wei was released from the cage, and Wang Jin was arranged to go to Shuzhou to do the assassination.
Seeing Wang Jin leave Chang'an, Wang Wei had mixed feelings, they were all old people, but he didn't expect to be separated for a long time.
Later, Wang Wei stabilized himself, and then wrote a request to resign from his official position, so that his younger brother could return to Beijing, and he could not die of old age in a foreign land.
As the saying goes, "The tree falls and the tree scatters." ”
When a person encounters a disaster, most of his relatives and friends will hide for fear of provoking trouble. Brothers and sisters, on the other hand, will stand up and bear right and wrong.
In the countryside, how many brothers are usually noisy and noisy, and once outsiders come to bully, they will immediately fight side by side. In the end, relatives are relatives, outsiders are outsiders, and they can't be the same.
04
In "Selected Tang Poems", Wang Wei was commented on: "If you want to come to your brother's place, you will be far away." ”
In the long run, the love between brothers and sisters is long-term and endless.
When we are old and our parents are gone, if we think about the road of life, we will find that when we were children, we ate around a table with our brothers and sisters, and when we grew up, we helped each other, gathered around our parents, and had a reunion dinner.
During the New Year's holidays, everyone visits each other to send blessings, and the younger generations also get everyone's love and have more fireworks.
It would be foolish to leave with hatred one day, and it would be even more tragic to tell hatred to your children as a family heirloom.
It is really nothing to consider one's own small family in the big family, and to put one's own gains and losses in the replacement of family business.
Disturbed, joys and sorrows coexist, scattered and impermanent, what do you hate?
Author: Cloth Clothes Coarse Food.
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