#头条创作挑战赛#
Why are you always the one who is persuaded when communicating?
Why is it that your views are not accepted when they are clearly correct?
How can we get others to accept our ideas and act according to our own ideas?
This kind of thinking is impossible to do in the traditional workplace concept, because the workplace is a place of interests, and everyone is persisting and struggling for their own interests.
Only when the goals and interests of the two can be tied together, will they walk hand in hand and in the same direction. Dale Carnegie's Human Weakness said that everyone only cares about their own business, and wants to move a person unless you stand in his shoes and think about him and give him what he wants.
Knowing this weakness, do you understand what to do?
If you want to achieve a goal, you need the help of a person, think from his point of view against humanity, and always put yourself in his point of view.
I want to give an example in Zhen Huan's biography, Zhen Huan persuaded Cao Guiren to stand in line with herself and help herself, instead of Concubine Hua, so she kept mentioning her princess, saying that Concubine Hua did not hesitate to use Cao Guiren's princess to make a fuss in order to get on the throne, and Cao Guiren should consider the princess.
He also said that he was favored by the emperor, so he could help recommend, let the emperor let Cao Guiren sleep more, and so on.
Cao Guiren, who was so coercive and tempting, immediately obeyed.
So, if you want to convince someone, you have to keep humanity in mind.
Getting others to do what they want requires a certain amount of skill and strategy. Here are some suggestions:
- Be articulate: Be clear about your intentions and let others know what you want them to do. Avoid using vague or vague language to avoid misunderstandings.
- Provide a reason: Explain why you want others to do what you intend them to do. Explain the benefits of doing this, or explain that this is the best way to solve the problem.
- Build trust: Build trusting relationships with others and convince them that your intentions are motivated by kindness and cooperation. Trust is the cornerstone of getting others to do what you intend them to do.
- Provide support: Provide others with the necessary resources and support to help them act the way you intended. This can include information, tools, human or material support, etc.
- Incentives and rewards: Encourage others to do what you intend through incentives and reward mechanisms. This can include material rewards, recognition, praise, or providing opportunities for development, among other things.
- Guide and inspire: Guide others to the need to act in accordance with your intentions by asking questions, offering advice, or inspiring thoughts. This can help them accept your intentions autonomously rather than being forced to carry them out.
- Adapt and adapt: Be flexible and adaptable as others act according to your intentions. Adapt your strategy and approach to the situation to better achieve your goals.
- Establish good communication: Maintain open, honest communication, resolve issues and clarify misunderstandings in a timely manner. Listen to other people's feedback and suggestions and make adjustments accordingly.
- Show success stories: If you've been in a similar situation before, you can show success stories that show that doing what you intended was going to be successful. This can increase the trust that others have in you and inspire them to take action.
- Emphasize the common good: Emphasize the common interest between you and the other person and make the other person understand that it is beneficial for both parties to act according to your intentions. The common good is an important driver for cooperation.
- Leverage authority or expertise: If you have authority or expertise in a certain field, you can use this to influence others. People tend to prefer to trust the advice and opinions of experts or authority figures.
- Build social pressure: Use social pressure to push others to do what you intend them to do. For example, motivating others to take action through public praise or criticism.
- Provide convenient access: Try to provide convenient access to others to do what you intend to do. This can reduce their resistance and make it easier for them to take action.
- Cultivate good relationships: By building good relationships, you can increase the goodwill that others have for you, which can help push them to act according to your intentions. Relationships are the foundation of long-term cooperation.
Be aware that forcing others to do what they mean can cause feelings of disgust and resistance. Respecting the wishes and choices of others, and achieving goals in a cooperative and win-win way is the most effective way.