#头条创作挑战赛#
What is the best way for a person to live?
Keeping your own rhythm is the best way to live.
The nature of anxiety and internal friction,
In fact, he just didn't keep his rhythm.
The essence of anxiety: not being able to keep your own rhythm
Have you ever found that most of life's anxiety comes from comparisons.
Because if there is a comparison, there will be a gap, and if there is a gap, there will be troubles.
The more you compare yourself to others, the more likely you are to be anxious.
In fact, everyone has their own unique brilliance.
Therefore, we don't need to envy others, let alone compare ourselves with others, because what you have, others may not have.
As Mo Yan once said in "The Late Bloomer":
"I used to be anxious that I didn't have a good life with my friends, so I kept imitating and chasing others, and finally I was exhausted. In fact, there is no need to compare in life, keep your own rhythm, move forward step by step, life will slowly become clear, and your life will be envied by others. ”
Anxiety, in the final analysis, is not keeping your own rhythm.
Instead of being anxious about other people's lives, it is better to grasp your own pace.
You know, not all roses bloom in the same classical estate, and not all seagulls inhabit the same sea.
The life you envy may not belong to you, and the days you look forward to may not be suitable for you. Instead of envying what you don't have, it's better to calm down and cherish what you have.
Be yourself immersively, don't look around
Everyone has their own time zone, doing their own thing, and living their own life.
There may be times when someone else moves faster than you and overtakes you, but don't panic, maybe in the next second you will overtake him and do better than him.
Don't be jealous or laugh at them, they're all in their own time zone, and so are you.
So relax, you're not behind and you're not ahead.
In your own time zone, everything is on time.
Don't compare, don't be anxious. As long as we are on the way, everything will be in time.
Being immersed in oneself and not looking around is the best way for a person to live.
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Don't be disrupted by someone else's rhythm
Everyone is unique, and finding the right track gives you the opportunity to make a difference.
Life is not about doing math problems, there is no standard answer, everyone's background is different, the opportunities are different, and the path taken should naturally be different.
If you blindly follow others, it is easy to be led astray and unable to find your own way.
One writer once exclaimed, "I want to spend my day at my own pace rather than go with the flow." ”
The best things always come when you don't expect them, so instead of rushing in a hurry, it's better to walk through each day at your own pace.
Happiness is not to live like others, but to be able to listen to one's own heart.
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Don't be swayed by other people's evaluations
What is more terrifying than the eyes of the world is actually your own heart that cares about the eyes of the world.
Everyone's experiences, cognitions, and thoughts are different, and what they think and do is not consistent with what they think and do, which is the norm in life.
Choose your own path and ignore the gossip from the outside world. Most importantly, be the best version of yourself.
The definition of happiness never comes from the evaluation of others, but from the satisfaction of the heart.
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Don't be contagious by other people's emotions
There is a saying: if you are tired of living, it may be because you are too easily swayed by the emotions of others.
Everyone's life is in control of their own lives, so why get caught up in the quagmire of other people's emotions and lose yourself?
There's a word in psychology called "emotional freedom." It means that the emotions of others have nothing to do with you, and your own emotions are not affected by others. And maturity is to gradually learn to block out other people's emotions and immerse yourself in yourself.
Don't be disturbed by other people's words and deeds, and don't affect your mood because of other people's mistakes. When we only focus on our emotions, we will find that there is always beauty and life is worth it.