#头条创作挑战赛#
There is a question on Zhihu: "What is the best state of life after middle age?"
Gao Zan replied that it was "disease-free and successful".
In middle age, some people have already started a family, while some people's lives are still not satisfactory.
At the end of the day, it's the way we think that makes us who we live today.
Once you get some mental "diseases", life will easily go downhill.
Only by upgrading a person's cognition and truly seeing himself clearly can he cure his illness and cultivate himself.
In the new year, if you want to be calm and steady, don't get infected with these three "diseases".
Poor and busy
There was a topic of "busy life" on Zhihu, and netizen @林冉 shared:
"I go to work on time every morning, do my best during the day, and drag my tired body home at night, hoping that one day I can change my life.
However, the repetitive busyness is like an infinite loop in a circle, which seems to have done a lot, but does not feel any change. ”
In reality, many people have also fallen into a similar cycle of "poor busyness".
As everyone knows, low-quality diligence can neither accumulate ability and experience, nor can it change the confused life.
Only by learning to think deeply and see the essence of things can we add value to ourselves and reap the transformative growth.
Joe Girard, a famous salesman in the United States, left school at the age of 16 and started working part-time.
Before he became a salesman, he had always been diligent and motivated, but he never achieved much.
For the first 20 years, he worked as a boilermaker, an architect, and even a casino.
He, like many people, immediately follows when he hears that there is money to be made in any industry.
Despite his hard work, Girard did not make much money until he was 35 years old.
At the same time, his health is getting worse and worse, and he is also saddled with a debt of $60,000.
It was only then that Girard began to reflect on his experience.
He found that he was only thinking about making money, but he had never thought about how to make money consistently and steadily.
Source: Visual China
After much consideration, he decided to keep his feet on the ground and start as an Xi student at a car dealership.
Girard continues to accumulate relevant knowledge, Xi practice his communication skills, and build up sales contacts.
Three years later, he became the store's best seller of the year.
In the 12 years since, he has also broken the Guinness World Record for car sales.
Lei Jun once said: "Don't cover up strategic laziness with tactical diligence. ”
If a person always works hard without a plan and repeatedly does the low-difficulty tasks that he has mastered, he will never be able to jump out of the cycle of exhaustion.
After all, inefficient efforts will never pay off at a high level.
It's really wise to put your time and energy to the right place.
When we stop depleting ourselves and start cultivating our scarcity, life will eventually take an unexpected turn in the future.
Adhesion disease
In psychology, there is a concept called "adherent identity".
It means that people always think that others are right, and they are Xi to follow other people's advice in everything.
In this way, at first glance, it seems that it can not only avoid selective mistakes, but also find the optimal path based on the experience of those who have come before.
But in reality, it only makes us bound by other people's opinions, so that we gradually lose the ability to judge and think independently.
We media person @Frank Young, shared a piece of his own experience.
When he applied for college, he followed the advice of his elders and studied chemistry, but he never felt interested.
Looking for a job after graduation, he found it difficult to find employment as a chemistry major, so he wanted to switch to the Internet.
He went to ask the professor of the college, and the teacher suggested that he stay in the industry for graduate school.
So, he went on to study chemistry for a few more years.
During their graduate studies, students who were engaged in Internet work all caught up with the good time and made a fortune.
And he listened to the advice and went to study for a doctorate.
He didn't like chemistry all along, but he missed several opportunities to change careers.
For a long time, he felt that his future was bleak.
Yu Qiuyu said: "The road of life, walk step by step on your own, what can really protect you is your own personality choice and cultural choice." ”
Source: Visual China
Blindly listening to other people's opinions will not be able to control your own direction after all.
Only by learning to establish your own value system and make bold decisions can you find your own way.
Writer Zhang Liangji often massages in a shop, and the owner is a masseur.
Zhang Liangji saw that his business was so good, so he curiously asked him why he didn't expand the scale.
The master said that in the past, his family and friends suggested that he accept more apprentices and open more branches.
However, he felt that the technique could not be copied, and even if the technique was taught to the apprentice, the strength might not be the same.
After a long time, he smashed his own signboard.
Later, the master insisted on his own ideas, and his reputation became better and better, and his personal brand became famous far and wide.
The writer Bernhard said, "The misfortune of man is that they do not want to go their own way, they always want to go in the way of others." ”
Everyone has their own trajectory, and they keep copying the path of others, and sometimes they go far away.
The consequence of receiving it all is to draw tiger dogs, and the gains outweigh the losses.
For the voices of the outside world, we must learn to filter and screen, neither rigid nor blindly acceptable.
Only by rational analysis and evaluation and courageous judgment can we live our own lives and create a confident life.
Source: Visual China
Pink eye
Lu Xun once wrote in the book: "Many people can't see others living a good life, they don't have it, if others have it, they will hate it." ”
The smaller the pattern, the more people like to envy and slander others.
In order to achieve their goal, they would rather hurt themselves by 1,000 than by 800.
Such people often can't wait for something to achieve, and they will be eaten up by their own behavior.
In the TV series "You Are My City Camp", Xu Yanshan and Mi Yan were good friends in college.
After graduating, the two entered the same hospital.
When they were assigned to the department, they were again assigned to the best neurosurgery.
Mi Yan was very happy about this, but Xu Yanshan was not happy.
She believes that she is far stronger than Mi Ya in terms of strength and achievements, and should be the only person who has been focused on training in the hospital.
But the instructor at the hospital appreciated Miya's dedication more, so he often let her observe some major surgeries Xi.
Xu Yanshan is very jealous because of this, and always makes a stumbling block for Mi Yan behind her back.
Source: Visual China
The mentor asked her to divide the patients for Mi Ya, and she deliberately assigned the patients who were the most difficult to communicate with Mi Ya.
The department wanted to evaluate the best, and Xu Yanshan was worried that she would not be able to compete, so when there was no one in the office, she secretly deleted Mi Ya's information, resulting in the lack of support for key data in Mi Ya's paper.
As a result, Xu Yanshan won the department's evaluation as she wished.
However, soon after, her deletion of information was discovered, and rumors spread in the hospital.
In the end, Xu Yanshan couldn't resist the pressure and could only choose to resign.
Spinoza once said, "Jealousy is a kind of hatred that makes a man bitter about the happiness of others, and happy at the calamity of others." ”
Jealousy is like holding a blade with an empty hand to stab someone, but it is actually ourselves who are the first to be hurt.
Instead of seeing the bad and pulling others down in every possible way, it is better to recognize the strengths of others and stay close to the positive magnetic field.
Really smart people know how to put their minds on improving their own strength.
When we begin to appreciate the light of others, we will find that our lives are also shining.
Source: Visual China
Zhou Guoping said: "A healthy mind comes from a wise mind. Modern people are susceptible to mental illness, and most of the root causes of the disease are not able to understand the fundamental truth of life, so they cannot see the small things in life. ”
When people reach middle age, the responsibilities become heavier and heavier, and life leaves us fewer and fewer opportunities for trial and error.
If you want to go to the next level in the future, you must reflect on yourself in time and always be vigilant against these pathological thoughts.
Get rid of the disease of poverty and busyness, upgrade cognition, and pay for yourself will get twice the result with half the effort;
Get rid of adhesion disease, think deeply, and only then can life be stable and far-reaching;
Get rid of pink eye, healthy competition, and growth will go hand in hand.
For the rest of our lives, may we all be able to live more lightly and freely, and all our thoughts and desires can be fulfilled.