When people reach middle age, do they have no friends?
When people reach middle age, there will always be a sense of loneliness that follows them. This loneliness does not come from the lack of relatives or partners, but from the growing alienation of friends. Some people lament that after middle age, friends become fewer and fewer, what is going on? Today, we will discuss this topic.
We need to clarify a concept: what is a friend? A friend is not only a partner with whom you eat, drink, or chat, but also someone who lends a helping hand when you are in trouble and is willing to give you time and energy. As we grow older, our social circles will gradually change, and some former friends may be estranged due to changes in living environment, differences in values, etc. This is the law of nature, and it is also the only way to grow in life.
So, why do people feel friendless when they reach middle age? There are several reasons:
1. A shift in the focus of life. Most middle-aged people have started a family and have their own families and careers. While running for life, it is difficult for them to spare enough time and energy to maintain their original circle of friends. And when the focus shifts, people naturally feel less connected to their friends.
2. Differences in values. As we grow older, everyone's values and outlook on life will change to a certain extent. Former friends may be estranged due to differences in ideas, and even contradictions and conflicts may arise. In this case, even if you want to maintain friendship, you are often unable to do so.
3. Renewal of social circles. People are social creatures, and our social circles are constantly updated and adjusted over time. New friends come into our lives, while old ones may fade out. This metabolism is a natural law and a necessary way for life to grow.
4. Increased psychological stress. Middle-aged people face pressure from family, career, health and other aspects. In such a situation, it is easy for people to have a feeling of no friends and think that they cannot have as many relationships as they did when they were younger.
So, how to deal with this feeling of not having friends? Here are a few suggestions:
1. Cherish existing friends. Don't neglect your friends because of estrangement, cherish them and keep this friendship alive with your heart. Even if you can't see each other often, you can keep in touch through phone, WeChat, etc., and care about each other's life and recent situation.
2. Take the initiative to expand your social circle. Being middle-aged doesn't mean you don't have the opportunity to make new friends. We can actively expand our social circle and make like-minded friends by participating in various social activities, interest groups, etc.
3. Learn to be alone and enjoy solitude. Loneliness is not scary, it is a normal state of life. Learning to be alone and enjoying solitude can make us cherish the time we spend with our friends more, and it also helps us grow and cultivate our soul.
4. Adjust your mindset and embrace change. When people reach middle age, we must learn to adjust our mentality and accept all kinds of changes in life. Don't be too anxious when your friends are estranged, learn to adapt to this change, and at the same time believe that true friendships can stand the test of time.
In short, when people reach middle age, although they may feel that they have no friends, as long as we cherish our existing friendships, take the initiative to expand our social circles, learn to be alone, and adjust our mentality, we will be able to resolve this loneliness and have a colorful life.