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My daughter is finally getting married, and I plan to give her a house as a dowry. It's a fortune that I've been able to scrape through years of frugality and even some venture capital. I've always felt that getting my daughter married is the most important moment in my life, and I wanted to do something special for her.
When I told my husband about this idea, he sat on the couch and frowned and was silent for a long time. I know he doesn't approve of it. After a long while, he finally spoke: "How can you let me provide for you like this?" His words fell coldly on my heart, making me feel a pang of despair.
"I didn't think that far ahead, I just felt that my daughter's marriage was a big deal, and I wanted to give her a little substantial help. I struggled to make my voice sound firm, "And we have savings now, and we don't have nothing." ”
"But you know that our savings are not enough for the elderly!" he was a little excited, "and even if we can provide for the elderly, what will we do? Can't we enjoy the fruits of our labor? Won't you feel distressed when your daughter gets married?"
I was silent for a moment, his words piercing my heart like needles. There was truth in what he said, but I didn't think I was wrong. I just want to give my heart and add a piece of security to my daughter's marriage. I sighed deeply. Either way, it's not easy at all.
"I know you don't agree, but it's my decision, maybe I'm a little paranoid as a mother. I tried to keep my emotions under control, "I hope you understand me." ”
"I understand you, but ......," the husband smiled bitterly, "I just think it's a little impulsive for you to do this." After all, we are not very rich now, and you have to take care of your parents yourself, so we should save a little money for retirement. ”
"But this is my daughter!" I was a little excited, "she is our flesh and blood, how can we not think about her?"
My husband was silent for a moment, as if thinking about my words. I looked at him, wondering what to do with it. My daughter's marriage is a big deal, and I hope her life will be secured, but my husband's concerns are also justified. Reality is always so cruel, I understand that.
"Let's talk about it in a few days," the husband finally said, "and maybe we can find a better solution." ”
I nodded, a little relieved. I know it's unlikely that this matter will be resolved all at once. I'm not a stubborn person, I'll consider my husband's idea and maybe we can find a better solution. As long as we can get along as a family, I think my daughter will understand my painstaking efforts.
A few days later, I saw my husband drinking tea in the living room. I walked over and sat across from him.
"I want to talk to you again about my daughter's marriage. I said, "I don't want us to be unhappy about this." ”
My husband looked at me and nodded slightly, "Say, what do you think?" ”
"I thought about it, maybe we could find a compromise. I cleared my throat, "For example, I can take out a portion of the proceeds from this house and put it in our pension." ”
The husband's brow furrowed even deeper: "But then the daughter's dowry will not be complete." ”
"I know, but we also have to plan for our future. I said, "We can't always rely on our children to support our old age, and you know that." ”
"But......" My husband was silent for a moment, and he seemed to be aware of my concerns.
"And I thought we could explain it to our daughter and let her know that we were still giving her the most support in her marriage. I continued, "As long as we are open and honest with each other, I am sure my daughter will understand us." ”
The husband stood up, walked to the window, and looked at the scenery outside. I knew he was thinking about my words.
"Maybe you have a point. He turned his head slowly, "The future of our family really needs us to plan together." ”
I breathed a sigh of relief in my heart and looked at him gratefully: "Thank you for understanding my thoughts. I know I'm not without reason. ”
"I also understand, it's just that there are some things that I may not have thought about very well. He smiled, "Let's discuss it again and find a solution that works best for our family." ”
I nodded, and my heart was happy at the moment. Every run-in in a marriage is an opportunity for growth and communication, and I believe that in this matter, we will eventually find the best solution for the sake of family harmony.
In the days that followed, my husband and I had a series of in-depth exchanges about pension and our daughter's marriage. Gradually, we found a solution that was acceptable to all. We decided to make some adjustments to our property and pension to ensure that we could not only help our daughter, but also not have to worry about it in the future. This exchange made me feel that the communication between us was smoother and more open.
After some discussion, we communicated our ideas with our daughter in detail. My daughter expressed her understanding and gratitude for the efforts we had made in her marriage. She said that she would manage this dowry well and would do her best to support us in the future.
When the son-in-law's nephew heard about it, he came to make a fuss. He said angrily: "If you give her a suite like this, she won't have to support you and your husband in the future, and she will not have filial piety at all!"
I took a deep breath and tried to stay calm. "You're not quite right, young man. I said slowly, "Our family plan is something we have discussed with our husband and wife, and I know you are a little worried, but we need to adjust our own family affairs." ”
Unconvinced, he continued to denounce: "Who said that? You are asking your daughter to marry, but you are actually a burden on your daughter! She has not just started working, so how can she take care of providing for your old age?"
I tried to control my excitement: "I understand your concern, but we don't expect our daughter to support us for a long time. This is just one of the things we do to help her get married, and we plan for our future. ”
He looked at me and seemed to be somewhat convinced of what I said: "But, you must know that the cost of pension is very high now, and such a house is too heavy for her." ”
I smiled and tried to lighten the mood: "Yes, I understand, we don't force anything either. It's just that when our daughter gets married, as parents, we always hope to do something substantial for her. ”
He thought for a moment, then finally stopped talking. I know that this nephew still has some misunderstandings about us, but I hope that time will slowly tell.
After communicating with his daughter-in-law and nephew, the situation was eased. In this process, I also felt a little growth, and realized the importance of family relationships and future retirement. The friendship with my daughter also made me more confident in my own arrangement. During this time, I struggled to adjust my mindset and family planning.
On the day of the wedding, my daughter was dressed in a gorgeous wedding dress and stood on the stage with the groom, and I looked at her happy smile with extremely mixed feelings. My husband leaned over and put his arm around my shoulder, "Look, our daughter is grown up now. ”
I smiled and nodded, "Yes, the child has grown up, and she is going to start building her own family and future." I said with emotion.
"This house is still very important to her. "I believe we made the right decision." ”
I looked at him deeply and nodded in agreement. At this moment, watching my daughter get married, I deeply understand that our decision is the right one, and we are willing to take responsibility for our children's marriage and future. This is not only material support, but also spiritual recognition and blessing.
"What a wonderful wedding!" said my friend, who came over and put his arm around me, "you look so happy." ”
I smiled and responded, "Yes, I feel like I did something worthy of my conscience." This is what I should do as a mother and it is our responsibility as a family member. ”
"Yes, you guys did a great job. The friend blessed and said, "Home and everything is prosperous, and your family will definitely become happier and happier." ”
I am truly grateful that this experience has strengthened my faith. I don't regret my choice, and at the same time I feel more confident about the future of my family. I will continue to work hard for the happiness of my family and be proud and proud of my choice.
In the joyful atmosphere of this wedding, I felt the warmth and inclusiveness of family feelings. I know that our family will be stronger and more happy because of this choice. I looked at the happy smiles of the newlyweds, and my heart was full of satisfaction and joy. Because we insist on our own choices and give our love, we will become happier.
Halfway through the wedding, I saw my daughter's groom stand up, raise his glass and say to the audience, "Thank you to all the friends and family who attended our wedding today, and it's an honor for us to be able to share our joy with you today." I would also like to thank my parents-in-law and especially for all the support and help they have given us, which we will always remember. ”
My eyes were full of tears, and I knew that my daughter had started a family, had her own choices and lives, and my husband and I were about to enter another stage of life.
"It's our responsibility. My husband smiled and said to me, "Seeing my daughter so happy, our efforts are worth it." ”
I smiled and nodded, feeling heartily satisfied. I understand that no matter what the future may change, the decisions we make are made out of love and responsibility, and it is all worth it.
After the wedding, we went home. The whole family is enveloped in an atmosphere of joy and happiness.
"I think the wedding was a great success!" I said, looking at my husband.
"Yes, everything went well. The husband smiled and said, "Family unity and harmony are our greatest happiness." ”
In this happy atmosphere, I understand that we made the right decision and that we are willing to take responsibility for the well-being and future of our children. I believe that our family will become stronger and better because of this choice. I looked at my husband with gratitude and love in my heart.
All because we stuck to our choices, and we gave our love and efforts for the harmony of the family and the happiness of the future. The decisions we make will be the beginning of our fond memories.
Back at home, I was thinking about the changes that had taken place during that time. Standing on the balcony, I saw the groom and his daughter smiling happily in the garden, and my heart was filled with emotion.
"Mom, why are you standing here in a daze?" the daughter asked, walking up and smiling softly.
I turned around and smiled at her, "Ah, nothing, just thinking about your two lives here in the future." ”
The son-in-law also walked over, "I think everything will be beautiful in the future, Mom, you have to rest assured, we will run the family well." ”
"You two look so happy. I looked at them gratefully and said, "I believe we made the right decision." ”
"Yes, I think our family will be closer now. The daughter said with a smile.
These words reinvigorated my conviction that we had made the right choice. I think of the doubts and entanglements I had before, and now looking at my daughter's happy smile, all the hard work is worth it.
After a few moments, I turned to my husband and rested my head on his shoulder. "You know what?" I whispered, "I think we made the right decision. The children have grown up, and we have to plan for our future. ”
"Yes, I think so too. My husband patted my hand and said, "We've done a lot for our children, it's time to think about ourselves." ”
Yes, I understand that the family and the future require our efforts and responsibilities alike. Watching my daughter leave the family, I realised that a new phase had arrived where we would be more focused on governing our family and building a strong foundation for our future.
This experience has taught me that everything we do for our children as parents is deeply motivated by love and responsibility. Our choice is made out of sincerity and love from the heart, and I am confident that our family will be stronger and better because of this choice. This happiness will remain in our hearts forever.