Alan Tam was born into a football family, and his father, Tan Jiangbai, was a famous member of the Chinese national team, who had participated in the Olympic Games held in Germany, and had a soft spot for football.
As the eldest son of the family, Alan Tam has been learning to play football with his father since Xi he was a child, and is regarded by his father as the only successor. Tan Jiangbai hopes that he can inherit the family business and become a good football player.
In order to fulfill his father's expectations, Alan Tam has been training hard since he was a child. Wake up early every day to go for a run in the playground and then work your skills. He has certainly shown great talent, with quick movement and a great sense of the ball, and is expected to become a professional footballer.
However, life's chances often cross the established track. While studying at university in Singapore, Alan Tam's life trajectory took a major turn. A sudden serious illness crushed this sunny and cheerful youth.
As a last resort, he had no choice but to take a leave of absence, return to Hong Kong with sadness and disappointment, and begin to recuperate.
This serious illness destroyed Alan Tam's dream of becoming a football player. After regaining his health, he never wanted to leave Hong Kong again. And decided to give up football, no longer chasing what his father expected of him, but to choose his own path.
In 1974, 23-year-old Alan Tam met Yang Jiewei through a friend's introduction. Yang Jiewei was two years older than Alan Tam and was a well-known stage designer in Hong Kong at that time.
She has superb artistic attainments, especially in the design of stage lighting and sound effects. The two fell in love at first sight and quickly developed strong feelings for each other.
At first, Yang Jiewei's family strongly opposed the relationship between the two. Because Alan Tam's family is not wealthy and has no stable job, he is considered to be a bad match for Miss Yang, who is a good match.
But Yang Jiewei did not hesitate and chose to be with Alan Tam. For the sake of love, she resolutely quit her original job and became Alan Tam's personal assistant and designer.
With the help of Yang Jiewei, Alan Tam's stage image is becoming more and more glamorous and gradually showing its edge. Yang Jiewei carefully designed the stage costume for him, and carefully guided his outfit and style.
Alan Tam was radiant and emotional on the stage, conquering the hearts of countless fans. With the assistance of Yang Jiewei, Alan Tam finally completed the gorgeous transformation from a small singer to a superstar in the Hong Kong music scene, gaining fame and fortune, and achieving the glory of "King of Singers".
In 1981, the two secretly registered as husband and wife in Las Vegas. The days after marriage are Alan Tam's happiest time, because Yang Jiewei is by his side.
Yang Jiewei's dedication and support to Alan Tam has made his career, and she is the driving force behind Alan Tam's success.
In 1996, 41-year-old Alan Tam met 19-year-old college student Alice Chu backstage at a concert. Zhu Yongting is gentle and moving, and she talks well, and the two hit it off and quickly fell in love.
Alan Chu has a gentle personality and a passion for music, she is empathetic and will take care of all aspects of Alan Tam's feelings. This is in strong contrast to Alan Tam's original match Yang Jiewei's strong personality.
Accompanied by Alan Chu, Alan Tam regained the passion for love when he was young.
In the same year, Alice Chu gave birth to the crystallization of love for Alan Tam - son Tan Xiaofeng. As a father, Alan Tam decided not to hide this relationship anymore, but to make it public.
For a while, Alan Tam was caught in the quagmire of the two-wife problem, he not only wanted to keep Yang Jiewei, the legal wife, but also wanted to give Alice Chu a legitimate position.
With the appearance of Alan Chu, Alan Tam's life trajectory has changed. His originally smooth life path was suddenly turbulent because of this youthful love.
Faced with the entanglement of two relationships, Alan Tam's heart was full of contradictions and anxiety, and he couldn't sleep for many nights.
In 2006, Alan Tam's father-in-law, Tam Jiangbai, unfortunately passed away and held a funeral. This moment, which should have been sad and unforgettable, has become a key occasion for the two ladies to fight openly and secretly.
At the funeral scene, Zhu Yongting made a high-profile appearance and stood in the main house with her 5-year-old son Tan Xiaofeng. This is undoubtedly a declaration to everyone that she has replaced Yang Jiewei and become the new housewife of the Tan family.
Yang Jiewei could only stand silently to the side, her face full of humiliation and grief.
After the funeral, Yang Jiewei chose to become a monk and no longer cared about Hongchen. She became a devout Buddhist, chanting sutras and praying for a child who had been miscarried years ago.
Yang Jiewei could never find the trajectory of her former life, and she dedicated the rest of her life to Buddhism.
And Zhu Yongting officially entered the Tan family and became the hostess of this family. She gets along well with Tan's mother, and often takes little Tan Xiaofeng out to play. Zhu Yongting also began to take care of the Tan family's huge property and lived a luxurious life of a wealthy and decent person.
This funeral became a key point in the confrontation between the two wives. Alice Chu eventually became the winner of the contest, and she successfully replaced everything that Yang Jiewei had in the past. And Yang Jiewei, who was once in the limelight, was completely blind after experiencing this catastrophe.
In 2011, 61-year-old Alan Tam officially announced at the birthday banquet that he recognized the concubine Zhu Yongting as the main room. The guests at the scene had a lot of discussions about this, but Alan Tam's tone was firm, obviously he had already made up his mind.
Since then, Zhu Yongting's position has been firm and has become the only hostess of this family. She lives with Tan's mother and has a close relationship, often going out to shop and spend.
The Tan family has Zhu Yongting as the new housewife, and Yang Jiewei has been completely marginalized.
At the same time, Yang Jiewei practiced Buddhism in an ancient temple. She spends her days copying Buddhist scriptures and praying for the blessings of her unborn children for a good fate in the next life.
Yang Jiewei no longer asks about Hongchen, her heart is dead.
Once a successful woman, she now spends the rest of her life in the Buddhist hall, and she can no longer find the happy times she used to have. Alice Chu replaced all her glory and dreams as the ultimate winner in this story.
And she herself has since collapsed and fallen to the bottom.
Many years later, Alan Tam said in public that it is really hard to be a husband and wife, and everyone must not learn from him. But what he really thought in his heart is still controversial and cannot be determined.
One view is that he regretted hurting Yang Jiewei's feelings. Yang Jiewei once single-handedly created his status as a singer, but he repaid her kindness with violence. Alan Tam may have felt guilty about what he had done, but it was too late.
Another view is that he regrets not having children with Zhu Yongting as soon as possible. Because he and Zhu Yongting are in love with each other, the compatibility is very high. If he hadn't been conformist and left Yang Jiewei early to combine with Zhu Yongting, maybe he would have been much happier.
In any case, Alan Tam has been torn between the two relationships for many years, which not only hurt Yang Jiewei, but also delayed his love with Alice Chu. It is impossible to know whether he has remorse, but this is the fate and regret of his life, and there is no escape.
The most embarrassing thing in this story is Yang Jiewei's tragic life from a successful woman to a frustrated civilian.
Yang Jiewei could have relied on her own wisdom to achieve professional success. She is a popular stage designer with a successful career and a bright future. But for the sake of love, she chose to give up her career and wholeheartedly helped Alan Tam achieve her dream of being a singer.
For this, she not only sacrificed her job, but also chose to have multiple miscarriages and could no longer have children of her own. She doesn't ask for anything in return, she just wants to grow old with Alan Tam. The married life could have been happy, and she was happy with it.
However, the appearance of Alice Chu changed Yang Jiewei's fate. She also generously chose to forgive each other, hoping that the two wives could get along in harmony. But in the end, it was a complete defeat and lost everything.
After becoming a monk, Yang Jiewei lived a very different life. She is no longer the designer Yang Jiewei, but a pious and good woman in the temple. Every day, I chanted in front of the Buddha statue and planned for my future life.
She could never get back to her old ways, and everything was in vain.
Reflecting on this history, we should not agree with or emulate Alan Tam's approach, because he has been left and right on the road of affection, but there is too much negativity and infidelity in it.
First of all, he shouldn't walk into Zhu Yongting's life as he wants and give birth to a child with her. This is a huge betrayal and hurt for his wife Yang Jiewei. He once promised Yang Jiewei that he would never have children, but in the end he repented, which was too unkind.
Second, feelings need to be restrained by reason. Even if you fall in love with Zhu Yongting, you shouldn't frame Yang Jiewei. should have broken up peacefully, rather than allowing his wife to suffer physical and mental damage.
He was too selfish and made tactful excuses for his feelings.
Furthermore, marriage requires fidelity. He shouldn't be half-hearted, shooting left and right. Feelings need trust support, but he failed Yang Jiewei's sincerity and made her fall into despair.
This marriage didn't have to come this far.
To sum up, Alan Tam owes too much love and responsibility for what he did, bringing rifts to many people's lives. We should not glorify or emulate such selfish practices.
Only loyalty and rationality can go the long way.
This history has left us with a profound revelation that we need to be more wise and rational in dealing with marriage and relationships.
First of all, marriage requires mutual understanding. Never make a promise like not having children, it is likely to hurt your partner's feelings. Having children is a dream for many people and needs to be treated with caution.
Second, feelings need to be guided by reason. Loving someone does not mean that you can do whatever you want, and you can do things that are hurtful to nature and reason. You need to be careful to restrain yourself and not to injure the innocent by mistake.
The involvement of a third party can cause irreparable damage to the original family.
In addition, women are expected to be independent. You should not give up your career for love and serve each other wholeheartedly. When a relationship breaks down, you will get into trouble.
Women need to find a balance between love and career.
Finally, don't be gullible with rhetoric. A person's sincerity is not in the oath, but in the bits and pieces. It takes time to test a person's sincerity before deciding whether to commit their life to it.
Alan Tam's story is full of tragicomedy. We need to learn from the lessons of history and look at relationships and marriages with a more mature and rational attitude, so that happiness can be achieved.