Zheng Xiaohong married into the Shu family and was bullied by her father-in-law and aunt
In the spring of 2010, an ordinary family in Jiangxi ushered in a new member - Zheng Xiaohong, the daughter-in-law who married into the Shu family. She thought she could live a happy life, but she didn't expect her father-in-law Shu Chang and aunt Shu Ying to have prejudices against her and often make trouble unreasonably.
Shu Ying had a short temper and scolded Zheng Xiaohong at every turn, making her feel uneasy; Shu Chang often used the excuse of inspecting housework to unreasonably accuse Zheng Xiaohong of being ineffective.
The two teamed up to bully their daughter-in-law, and Zheng Xiaohong felt the hardships of married life.
She wanted a warm and harmonious home and was cared for by her husband and family, but her expectations were disappointed by the difficulties of her mother-in-law's family. Zheng Xiaohong tried hard to be a competent daughter-in-law, but her parents-in-law and aunt always found fault with her mistakes and didn't give her a good look at her at all.
This made Zheng Xiaohong feel aggrieved and painful, and her life was clouded. She envies the happiness of other people's families, and wants to get rid of the control of her in-laws and find her own happiness again.
Xiaohao's words caused family conflicts
One weekend, the little boy Xiaohao had lunch at his grandfather's house, and casually said to his grandfather Shu Chang and aunt Shu Ying who were present, "Mom often takes a man home at noon."
He was purely unintentional, but this sentence attracted the attention of Shu Chang and Shu Ying. Shu Ying had a quick temper and immediately blamed her daughter-in-law Zheng Xiaohongyu; Although Shu Chang did not say it explicitly, he also had suspicions about this daughter-in-law.
So, Shu Chang and Shu Ying carefully looked at Xiaohao's appearance and felt that he did not look like his own species. A child's joke actually tore open the fragile wound of this family and buried an irreconcilable misunderstanding.
The Shu family speculated one-sidedly, but did not communicate with Zheng Xiaohong for verification. Their suspicions made this supposedly warm home instantly hostile. Xiao Hao's unintentional words were like a tiny grain of sand, which eventually wore away the trust and friendship of this family.
Shu Chang insisted on doing a paternity test and found out that Xiaohao was his own blood
Grandpa Shu Chang decided that Xiaohao's appearance was different from his family's characteristics, and insisted on taking him for a paternity test, but his daughter-in-law Zheng Xiaohong didn't know about it. After the test results were found, the whole family was shocked that Xiaohao was indeed no different from the Shu family's own flesh and blood.
Shu Chang's move is tantamount to rubbing salt in his daughter-in-law's wounds, which makes the already damaged family relationship even more difficult to repair.
As a parent, Shu Chang should not do such a thing that damages trust behind his daughter-in-law's back. Subjective assumptions alone negate flesh and blood, putting the cart before the horse. It turned out that his suspicions and hostility were groundless, not only hurting a mother's heart in vain, but also plunging this supposed warm home into a freezing point.
The whole family was stunned by the results, but they were powerless. Zheng Xiaohong was hurt and saddened that the Shu family no longer trusted her; Shu Chang and Shu Ying were also embarrassed by their sloppiness.
A simple paternity test changed the fate of the family. They finally understand that feelings and blood ties cannot be brought and lost by experiments, but one step too late, the rift has already formed.
Shu Ying continued to spy on her daughter-in-law and found that she was taking care of her nephew and nephew
Even though the paternity test results have come out, her aunt Shu Ying still can't let go and continues to suspect that her daughter-in-law Zheng Xiaohong is having an affair. She often secretly monitors Zheng Xiaohong's every move, hoping to find clues.
Finally one day, Shu Ying found that Zheng Xiaohong went out frequently and looked sneaky.
Later, I found out that Zheng Xiaohong was going to help her nephew and nephew who had just arrived in the city to find a job and provide living assistance to her relatives. This was originally a good deed, but it became "evidence of crime" in Shu Ying's eyes.
Shu Ying's surveillance and suspicion made Zheng Xiaohong feel inexplicable and frightened, and her act of caring for others turned out to be the reason for the Shu family to continue to suspect her.
This once again shows that the conjecture and hostility of the Shu family are unreasonable. Their one-sided judgment and lack of seeking the truth led to the family falling into a quagmire of rupture of rupture Relatives should care for each other and support each other, but the Shu family regarded Zheng Xiaohong's kindness as a crime.
This distrustless marriage has existed in name only.
After mediation, the divorce was still obtained, and Zheng Xiaohong, as the innocent party, obtained more benefits
After a series of suspicions and misunderstandings, the Shu family finally filed for divorce. Zheng Xiaohong was deeply disappointed, she was unwilling to give up the family like this, but after mediation to no avail, the Shu family still had a tough attitude.
According to the law, because Zheng Xiaohong was not at fault in the whole incident, the court finally ruled that the two were allowed to divorce.
In dealing with the division of property and child custody issues, the judge ruled that Zheng Xiaohong could obtain more rights and interests based on the fact that she was not responsible in the marriage. This gave Zheng Xiaohong a certain comfort, proved that the law was just and fair, and defended her, an innocent party.
Although Zheng Xiaohong is emotionally unwilling to give up, this marriage has come to an end. After the divorce, she regained her freedom and was finally able to break free from the control of her father-in-law and aunt and start a new life.
This is an important step for her to get rid of her pain and find her own happiness again.
Reflection on the lessons of marriage breakdown
The lesson from this incident is that the marriage relationship is already fragile and requires both parties to manage it carefully. The Shu family should not deny Zheng Xiaohong based on subjective speculation, let alone insist on suspicion without conclusive evidence.
Zheng Xiaohong should also take the initiative to communicate with her father-in-law and aunt to gain understanding and support.
In our lives, we should not take our assumptions as established facts, otherwise it is easy to hurt the innocent. Feelings need to be treated with caution, and suspicion cannot arise over trivial matters.
Husbands and wives need to use love and wisdom to resolve conflicts, and not let the backlog of old things lead to deeper and deeper suspicions.
To maintain a marriage, both husband and wife need to learn to understand, support and encourage each other. Between in-laws and daughters-in-law, they also need to open their hearts and communicate and understand more in order to become a big family.
When problems arise, you should control negative emotions, look at them calmly, and give the other person a chance to explain or admit mistakes.
If every couple can do this, maintaining a basic understanding and trust, believing that many family problems can be solved. A happy and harmonious home requires the joint efforts and dedication of every member.
Remorse the loss of family affection and lament the impermanence of fate
Because of a momentary suspicion and misunderstanding, Shu Chang and Shu Ying broke up the family, and they lost their most precious relatives. When the results of the paternity test come out, they will surely regret it and be incredulous about their sloppiness.
Listening to and believing partially, and living the belly of a gentleman with the heart of a villain, they have caused irreparable damage. Relatives are the most precious support in life, and there should be no dissatisfaction over trivial matters.
The behavior of the Shu family is undoubtedly putting the cart before the horse, and it is difficult to recover the water due to the calculation.
The tree of marriage needs to be watered by both parties, if the Shu family can tolerate and understand and give Zheng Xiaohong a chance to explain, maybe the misunderstanding can be solved, and the family can still be happy. But their meanness ruined the marriage.
Life is unfortunate, they can only reluctantly accept the reality and sigh that fate makes people.
Once the family affection is lost, it cannot be regained, and the Shu family will definitely regret it now. Their lessons warn us to cherish the people in front of us, to handle relationships carefully, and not to lose our loved ones because of arrogance and recklessness.
This also reminds us to recognize the true meaning of life and maintain the most important feelings.