Have you ever been miserable for love? Have you ever traveled around to find true love? Have you ever wasted your time waiting for the right Son? If your answer is yes, then you may have fallen in love, that is, the river of destruction. You think you're loving, but you're just satisfying your desires and expectations, you think you're enjoying yourself, but you're just hurting each other. You don't know the truth about love, and you don't know how to truly love yourself and others. What you need is not one person to fill your void, but one person to help you become enlightened. What you need is not a romantic fairy tale, but a marriage of practice. What you need is not an attachment emotion, but a state of ease.
What is love? Is love a feeling, or is it an obsession? Is love a kind of happiness or a kind of pain? Is love a kind of dedication, or is it a kind of taking? Different people have different understandings and definitions of love, but most people do not really understand the essence and meaning of love. They regard love as an external seeking, a dependent relationship, and an exchange of conditions. They believe that as long as they find the right person, they can be happy and satisfied. They think that as long as they give everything they have, they can move and keep each other. They think that as long as the other person is good to them, they can fill their emptiness and shortcomings. They ignore one of the most important questions, and that is whether they truly love themselves, whether they are truly mature and complete.
Let's take a look at some examples of how these people sink in love.
Xiaohong and Xiaoming are a pair of lovers, they have been in love for three years, Xiaohong has always felt that Xiaoming is her true son, she gave up her career and ideals for Xiaoming, she changed her personality and Xi for Xiaoming, she endured the cold eyes and ridicule of his family and friends for Xiaoming, she gave everything for Xiaoming. She thought that in this way, Xiao Ming would be able to love her forever and make their love eternal. But she was wrong, Xiao Ming didn't cherish her more because of her dedication, but felt that she was too clingy, too impersonal, and too unattractive. He began to be cold to her, began to be ambiguous with other women, and began to find all kinds of excuses to break up with her. Xiaohong couldn't accept such an outcome, she felt betrayed, deceived, and abandoned. She began to resent Xiao Ming, began to pester Xiao Ming, and began to threaten Xiao Ming. She felt that everything she was doing was for him, how could he do this to her? She felt that her life was all for him, how could he leave her like this? She felt that her happiness was all for him, how could he ruin her like this? She fell into deep pain, she lost herself, she lost her reason, she lost her dignity.
Xiaohua and Xiaofang are a couple, they have been married for five years, Xiaohua has always felt that Xiaofang is his favorite, he works hard for Xiaofang, saves expenses for Xiaofang, takes care of the family for Xiaofang, forbears concessions for Xiaofang, and sacrifices himself for Xiaofang. He thought that this would make Xiaofang happy and make their marriage happy. But he was wrong, Xiaofang did not appreciate him more because of his efforts, but felt that he was too incompetent, too stingy, too uninteresting, and too tasteless. She began to be dissatisfied with him, began to date other men, began to find various reasons to quarrel with him, and began to ask for a divorce from him. Xiaohua couldn't understand such a change, he felt that he had been let down, used, and abandoned. He began to suspect Xiao Fang, began to spy on Xiao Fang, and began to beat and scold Xiao Fang. He felt that everything he was doing was for her, how could she do this to him? He felt that his life was all for her, how could she betray him like this? He felt that his happiness was all for her, how could she hurt him like this? He fell into a deep anger, he lost his trust, he lost his reason, he lost his humanity.
These examples tell us that when we put everything we have on others, when we depend on others for our happiness, when we take all our love from others, we lose ourselves, we lose love, we lose happiness. We think we're loving, but we're just sinking. We think we're enjoying ourselves, but we're just hurting each other. We think we're giving, but we're just quidging. We don't know the truth about love, and we don't know how to truly love ourselves and others.
So, what is the truth of love, and how can we truly love ourselves and others? The answer is simple, enlightenment. What is enlightenment? Enlightenment is to realize one's own nature, to achieve one's own fulfillment, and to get rid of one's own attachments. When we are enlightened, we can truly love ourselves and we can truly love others. After enlightenment, we will no longer be miserable for love, we will no longer run around to find true love, and we will no longer waste time waiting for our true destiny. After enlightenment, we can truly enjoy love, we can truly experience love. After enlightenment, we will no longer pin everything we have on others, we will no longer depend on others for our happiness, and we will no longer demand all our love from others. When we are enlightened, we can truly love ourselves and we can truly love others. After enlightenment, we can truly give, we can truly share, and we can truly be grateful. After enlightenment, we can truly see each other's nature, we can truly accept everything from each other, and we can truly respect each other's choices. After enlightenment, we can truly let go, we can really follow fate, and we can really be at ease.
Let's take a look at another example and see how this person became enlightened in love.
Xiao Wang and Xiao Li are a pair of lovers, they have been in love for ten years, Xiao Wang has always felt that Xiao Li is his favorite, he changed his lifestyle for Xiao Li, gave up his dream for Xiao Li, endured the pressure of his family and society for Xiao Li, and gave everything for Xiao Li. He thought that this would make Xiao Li happy and make their love eternal. But he was wrong, Xiao Li was not happier because of his dedication, but felt that he was too restrained, too sacrificial, too unfree, and too unhappy. She began to get tired of him, began to date other men, began to find various reasons to break up with him, and began to ask to be separated from him. Xiao Wang could not bear such a blow, he felt betrayed, deceived, and abandoned. He began to hate Xiao Li, began to question Xiao Li, and began to take revenge on Xiao Li. He felt that everything he had was for her, how could she do this to him? He felt that his life was all for her, how could she leave him like this? He felt that his happiness was all for her, how could she ruin him like this? He fell into deep despair, he lost his confidence, he lost hope, he lost the meaning of life.
Just as he was about to end his life, he met someone, someone who could help him become enlightened. This man was an old monk who was practicing in a monastery, and when he saw Xiao Wang's distress, he took the initiative to talk to him, told him some Dharma, pointed out some truths to him, and opened him some wisdom. He told Xiao Wang that love is not what you think, and love is not an external seeking, a dependent relationship, and an exchange of conditions. Love is an inner fulfillment, a state of self-sufficiency, a state of non-action. He told Xiao Wang that you are not suffering because you love Xiao Li, but because you don't love yourself. You are not suffering because Xiao Li doesn't love you, but because you don't love Xiao Li. You are not suffering because you lost Xiao Li, but because you did not lose yourself. He told Xiao Wang that if you want to get rid of suffering, you must first realize your true nature, you must first achieve your own perfection, and you must first get rid of your own obsessions. He told Xiao Wang that if you want to truly love yourself, you must first let go of your desires, accept everything you have first, and respect your choices first. He told Xiao Wang that if you want to truly love others, you must first let go of your expectations of others, accept everything from others first, and respect others' choices first. He told Xiao Wang that if you want to truly enjoy love, you must first let go of your attachment to love, you must first experience the essence of love, and you must first reach the realm of love.
Xiao Wang listened to the words of the old monk, and felt that his heart was clear, he felt like he had woken up from a dream, he felt like he had come out of the fog, and he felt like he had seen the light from the darkness. He thanked the old monk for his teachings, he decided to follow in the footsteps of the old monk, he decided to practice in the monastery, he decided to become enlightened in the Dharma. He let go of his hatred for Xiao Li, he let go of his love for Xiao Li, and he let go of his thoughts about Xiao Li. He only hopes that Xiao Li can be happy, happy, and comfortable. He just wants to be happy, to be happy, to be at ease. He just wants all sentient beings to be happy, to be happy, to be at ease.
This example tells us that when we let go of everything we have, when we internalize our happiness, when we do nothing about our love, we will truly love ourselves and truly love others. We will truly enjoy love, and we will truly experience love. We will be truly giving, truly sharing, and truly grateful. We will truly see each other's nature, we will truly accept everything from each other, and we will truly respect each other's choices. We will truly let go, we will truly follow fate, and we will be truly at ease.
The truth of love is enlightenment. Only those who are enlightened can truly love. Only those who love can be truly enlightened. The realm of love is freedom. Only those who are at ease can truly love. Only those who love can be truly at ease. The essence of love is inaction. Only those who do nothing can truly love. Only those who love can truly do nothing. The meaning of love is consummation. Only a perfect person can truly love. Only those who love can be truly fulfilled.
I hope you can get some inspiration and insights from this article, and I also hope that you can share this article with your friends and relatives, so that more people can know the truth and realm of love, and let more people take action to give themselves and others some real love and freedom.
That's the story I'm going to tell you, a story about love, a story that makes you enlightened.
What do you think of this story?
Have you ever been inspired by it?
Have you ever thought about your love?
Have you ever wanted to change your love?
If you have, don't hesitate to do it!
If you don't, then please reflect on whether you are a wise person and whether you are a caring person.
The purpose of this article is to arouse your wisdom and love, let you know and realize the truth and realm of love, let you love yourself and others, and let you do nothing and be at ease.