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I have always had a good relationship with my mother-in-law, she is very good to me and the children. But there's one thing I don't quite understand.
Every year during the Chinese New Year, my mother-in-law will give the three children in the family New Year's money. But the amount given to each child is never the same, with the eldest son having the most, the second son second, and the younger son the least. I've been aware of this discrepancy for several years, and I've been wanting to ask my mother-in-law why, but I feel that this issue is a bit sensitive and hasn't brought it up.
A few days before the Chinese New Year this year, I saw my mother-in-law counting the New Year's money again, and after a closer look, she gave the eldest son 100 yuan, the second son 80 yuan, and the younger son only 50 yuan. I couldn't help it, so I mustered up the courage to walk over and ask my mother-in-law, "Mom, I noticed that the amount of money you put on your children is different every year, why?"
The mother-in-law was stunned at first, then smiled and said, "I knew you would definitely ask this question." You've seen it all these years, but you've never dared to ask, have you?"
I nodded a little awkwardly: "I think this question is more sensitive, I'm embarrassed to ask you." But seeing that the gap in the amount this year is still so big, I really can't help but want to ask. ”
My mother-in-law patted my hand and said, "It's okay, just ask." I've been waiting for you to ask this question all these years!"
I was a little surprised: "Wait I ask this question? Why?"
The mother-in-law said: "The reason behind this problem, I have always wanted to find an opportunity to explain it to you clearly, so that you can understand my intentions. Since you asked today, let me explain it to you slowly. ”
I nodded, pulled over a chair and sat down, looking at my mother-in-law earnestly.
The mother-in-law sorted out her emotions and began to talk about her experience:
More questions arose in my mind, what does this have to do with the New Year's money? Could it be because of the family's difficult situation, my mother-in-law didn't give her children as much money at that time? I couldn't wait to hear my mother-in-law continue, but I couldn't bear to interrupt her memories.
My heart was full of doubts, and at the same time, I felt sad about my mother-in-law's hardships back then. I asked softly, "Mom, it must be not easy for you to live alone with three children." But what does that have to do with the amount of money?"
The mother-in-law sighed, and a trace of sadness flashed in her eyes: "In those days, life was too difficult, I worked alone to support my family, and the food and clothing of my three children were all problems. Do you know, some days I can't even give them a little pocket money, watching other children have New Year's money, but your dad doesn't have a penny, my heart is broken. ”
I was very distressed when I heard this, and I held my mother-in-law's hand and said, "Mom, you must be sad that you have endured too much alone." ”
The mother-in-law nodded and shook her head again: "I'm not sad, I just feel sorry for your father and uncle and aunt." How frustrating and sad a child should be if he doesn't have the New Year's money compared to other children. ”
When I think of the New Year when I was a child, I also look forward to the New Year's money. What a sad thing it would be to get nothing out of it.
The mother-in-law continued: "So, when life finally improved and I had savings, I made up my mind that I must compensate them with the New Year's money. ”
It dawned on me that this was the case. My mother-in-law had a difficult time, but now that she has a comfortable life, she wants to let her children reap the joy of the New Year through New Year's money.
"Actually, I always remember very well the disappointed look on their faces every year when I didn't give them the New Year's money. The mother-in-law sighed again, "Therefore, according to the number of times I didn't give it that year, there will be a difference in this year's New Year's money." ”
I finally understood my mother-in-law's good intentions, and she was using this way to compensate for the lost New Year's joy for the children.
"Mom, I understand you so well. You are helpless not to give New Year's money, and now you want to compensate them with a kind of intention. "I can't help but get a little excited.
The mother-in-law nodded: "I just hope that they will have no regrets in their childhood." I'm glad you understand me. ”
"Mom, you must have been very difficult back then, I can't even imagine it. I admire you for pulling us up alone. "I can't help but have a sour nose.
My mother-in-law touched my head: "My child, the past is gone, and now we are living well, and that's enough." ”
I nodded, I understood my mother-in-law's good intentions. She was responsible for the livelihood on her own, and she couldn't afford to give her children New Year's money, but now that she has a better life, she wants to compensate them for the lost New Year's happiness through different amounts.
I sighed again: "Mom, it's not easy for you. From your experience, I have seen the greatness of motherly love. ”
The mother-in-law waved her hand: "This is what I should do as a mother." I'm glad I can give them a little bit of New Year's joy. ”
I thought of another question: "Mom, since you remember so clearly who you don't give money to every year, why is the eldest son the most and the second son second? Was the eldest son the saddest at that time?"
The mother-in-law smiled: "I just want them to feel fair and compensated." The eldest son was the most sensible at that time, he understood the difficulties of the family, and never asked me for money. So now it's the most to compensate him. The second son was more lively at that time, and he often asked for money to buy small toys, and when I couldn't be satisfied, he would be sad. Your uncle is the most skinny, and I often have to compensate him for fights with children, so he feels relatively less New Year's sadness. ”
I now fully understand my mother-in-law's intentions, she is compensating the three children fairly according to the situation of the year.
"Mom, I admire you so much. Not only do you have such a good memory, but it is really not easy for you to compensate your three children so fairly. I was amazed.
"Actually, I remember it so clearly, and it is also a kind of compensation for them. I want them to know that mom hasn't forgotten and isn't partial. The mother-in-law said.
"Mom, you're the greatest mother I've ever met. I'm proud of you. "I can't help but moisten my eyes.
My mother-in-law touched my head: "My child, you can understand my intentions, which is my greatest gratification." The past is gone, we are alive and well now, and that's the most important thing. ”
"Yes Mom, we don't lack anything now, and the love you give us is enough. I said gratefully.
"Actually, I just want you and your children to understand that money is not the only measure. What is more important is the love and understanding between family members. The mother-in-law said earnestly.
I nodded: "You are absolutely right. Money is only a material form, but real feelings are the most precious. ”
"Yes, that's what I want you to understand. The mother-in-law agreed, "You see, now we are living very well, and money is no longer a problem." But the different amounts of money I give you for the New Year's are actually a kind of spiritual sustenance, a kind of compensation, and also my intentions. ”
"I fully understand your intentions. I say from the bottom of my heart.
The mother-in-law smiled and nodded, and when she thought of something, her expression became a little sad: "Actually, the money I pressed you this year may be the last time." ”
I was a little surprised: "Mom, what do you mean by that? Aren't you going to press the New Year's money in the future?"
The mother-in-law sighed: "I'm already old, and my health is not very good this year, so I may not have a few years to live." So I want to fulfill this last wish and make up for all these years of regrets, so that I can have no regrets. ”
I felt a sour feeling when I heard this, and clenched my mother-in-law's hand: "Mom, what are you talking about, there are still many years! We will always be with you." ”
The mother-in-law shook her head: "My child, I have lived for most of my life. Now that you are all grown up and have your own families, I have no regrets as a mother. I can't hold on for long, but I'm relieved that you're all doing well, and I'm relieved. ”
"Mom!" I couldn't control my tears anymore, "You will definitely live a long and healthy life, and we will always be with you and take care of you!"
My mother-in-law wiped away my tears: "Good boy, don't be sad. I am already very content, and your peace and happiness is my greatest gratification. I don't have any regrets in my life. ”
I squeezed my mother-in-law's hand, tears blurring my vision. I know that time will not stand still, but I still pray that my mother-in-law can live a long and healthy life. We will always be with her, just as she did when she grew up with us.
This conversation made me thoroughly understand my mother-in-law's intentions. The suffering of her generation is beyond the imagination of our generation. But my mother-in-law supported this family with her love and strength, and I will always admire her.
After a while, I regained my composure and said to my mother-in-law, "Mom, thank you for talking to me about these past stories today, I really understand your good intentions. ”
The mother-in-law nodded: "I'm also glad you understand me." As a mother, I just want my children to feel fair and compensated. ”
I thought about it again and said, "Mom, in fact, my biggest feeling today is that it was not easy for you to bear everything alone! I can't imagine how you could raise us alone without my father's help." ”
The mother-in-law smiled: "It was not easy for all mothers in that era, and we could only rely on our own strength. Now that I think about it, with you by my side, I'm not alone. ”
I can't help but have a sour nose again, my mother-in-law is so great.
"Mom, I want to say to you that the love you have given us far exceeds any New Year's money! Having a mother like you is the luckiest thing in our lives. I say from the bottom of my heart.
My mother-in-law touched my head: "I'm also lucky to have you children." I'm glad to be able to talk to you about this today. ”
"Mom, I want to ask you to believe that we will always be with you and take care of you. You've given us so much, and now it's time for us to repay you. I said firmly.
The mother-in-law nodded: "Good boy, with you here, I am very content and grateful." I have lived so long, and my only wish now is to wish you happiness. ”
"We're going to be happy, Mom. Rest assured. I squeezed my mother-in-law's hand.
"That's good, I'm relieved. The mother-in-law smiled with satisfaction.
I looked at my mother-in-law, although she was gray-haired, but in my heart, she would always be that strong, loving mother. Once again, I sincerely thank my mother-in-law for giving us selfless love, which is the greatest power in the world.
Today's conversation will always be remembered in my heart. We will always be with my mother-in-law, just as she did when she grew up with us. I will also pass on my mother-in-law's mother-in-law's love to my children, so that this great love will be passed on forever.
"Mom, why did you get up so early to cook, you should have rested a little longer. I said with concern.
The mother-in-law smiled and said, "I couldn't sleep, so I got up and cooked." I'm happiest when I make food for you!"
I walked over to help my mother-in-law chop vegetables: "Mom, we talked so much yesterday, you must be very tired." I'm here to help you cook today, so you can go and rest for a while. ”
"Good boy, it's great to have you for me. The mother-in-law said with relief.
"Mom, I want to thank you again for talking to me yesterday about so many stories from the past. I really understand your good intentions. I say from the bottom of my heart.
The mother-in-law nodded: "I'm also very happy to talk to you about this, it's my honor that you can understand my intentions." ”
"Every word you say, every story, I will keep in my heart. I said solemnly, "This is the most precious spiritual wealth for me." ”
The mother-in-law smiled with satisfaction: "I also hope that you can pass it on and pass on this mother's love to your children." ”
"Definitely, Mom, and I'll tell them how lucky they are to have such a great grandmother. I said.
We talked for a while, and my mother-in-law's expression seemed much more relaxed, as if she had been relieved of the burden of many years. I am also very gratified.
After a few days, it's the New Year. The family gathered together in a very warm atmosphere.
"Happy New Year, Grandma!" The children happily ran over to greet their mother-in-law.
"Happy New Year, Grandma, babies!" The mother-in-law smiled and gave them one by one the New Year's money.
"Grandma, thank you for your New Year's money!" The children happily count the money in their hands.
When I saw this scene, my heart was full of emotion. That's the warmth we want from home. I will be forever grateful to my mother-in-law for creating all this for us.