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Recently, on the talk show "Talking to Strangers", there was a very special guest, his name is Chen Changyu.
Two years ago, Chen Changyu's mother was killed by arson by his father, and his father was arrested and imprisoned.
Chen Changyu, as the son of the murderer and at the same time as the victim's family, fell into an ethical dilemma.
Do you choose forgiveness, or do you want a heavy sentence?
Chen Changyu chose the latter.
When asked, "If your father were sentenced to death, did you imagine that moment?"
Chen Changyu replied: "Very happy, only this word, very happy." ”
If you only look at these, you may feel that Chen Changyu is too resolute.
But after really understanding the whole incident, I believe that everyone who has empathy will understand and support him.
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The tragedy struck in March 2021.
After Chen Changyu learned that his mother was burned, he immediately returned to his hometown in Yunnan from Guangdong.
When asked why, my mother just said, "Your dad accidentally smoked and lit the gasoline, so it's not a big problem."
After rushing to the hospital, Chen Changyu was stunned.
This is a minor burn, it is almost life-threatening!
The mother on the hospital bed was burned to the point that she was "unrecognizable", her face was black, and her arms and torso were all wrapped in gauze.
Under his continuous questioning, his mother slowly told the truth......
On the evening of March 14, Yu Xiuying had a conflict with Chen Jiwei, Chen Jiwei drank alcohol, and Yu Xiuying could only sleep on the sofa.
When she woke up in the middle of the night, she went to find a quilt, Chen Jiwei got up and brought a pot of gasoline, and poured it into the house without saying a word.
After the two tugged, Yu Xiuying was also poured gasoline, and then Chen Jiwei lit the fire.
She asked Chen Jiwei what she had done wrong, but she got a ridiculous reason: there was less water to feed the pigs at night.
Woo so-young recalled: "The fire first burned on my face, and then the whole house was full of fire. ”
The fire caused Woo so-young to suffer burns on 55% of her body and was critically ill twice.
Although Chen Jiwei had burns, it was not serious, and he was successfully discharged from the hospital after 20 days.
As soon as he returned home, Chen Jiwei began to sell his livestock and transfer his property, and Yu Xiuying was discharged from the hospital because he had no money to pay for hospitalization.
Later, Xiuying's condition deteriorated and she passed away, this year, she was 42 years old, and her son Chen Changyu was only 20 years old.
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Yu Xiuying is a native of Xuanwei City, Yunnan Province, with a poor family background and both parents are farmers.
And Chen Jiwei in the next town, his father is blind, his mother is deaf and mute, and his family is surrounded by four walls.
According to the locals, when he was young, Chen Jiwei was a well-known gangster in the town, who fought fiercely and liked to do things.
Yu Xiuying originally had a marriage contract, and Chen Jiwei took advantage of the market to take people to rob her relatives, and it is said that he forcibly had a relationship with her.
Not long after Chen Changyu was born, Chen Jiwei was imprisoned for robbing with a knife on a bus.
There was only one room in the house, and the mother and son had no place to live, so they had to add a wooden plank to the small house to separate half of the room.
Due to overwork, she had unstoppable nosebleeds, and was later diagnosed with heart disease.
Relatives persuaded her to remarry, but Yu Xiuying was unwilling, she said that she believed that Chen Jiwei would get better and would wait for him to come out.
Pictured: Chen Changyu and his mother when he was a child
In 2008, Chen Jiwei was released from prison, but life took a turn for the worse.
Chen Jiwei was always violent towards his wife, sometimes on a bench and sometimes with a beer bottle.
After the beating, Chen Jiwei took Yu Xiuying, who was covered with injuries, to the village clinic to hang up the needle, and continued to fight after recovery.
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His son Chen Changyu could not escape this violence.
Once, when Chen Changyu was playing with a toy gun, he inadvertently pointed the muzzle of the gun at Chen Jiwei.
I don't know if it's because I've been in prison, this scene stimulated Chen Jiwei.
He pulled the charging cable of the rice cooker and jerked at Chen Changyu, beating him all over his body.
When growing up, Chen Changyu drank dichlorvos twice:
Once when he was a child, he was beaten by his father inexplicably, and he felt too wronged and had no hope in life.
Another time was in 2013, when Chen Jiwei was arrested and imprisoned for cattle theft, and his father was released three years later.
Chen Changyu said that his father's life was very happy after he was imprisoned, and he drank dichlorvos in despair when he learned that his father was going to be released from prison.
Because the mother found it twice in time, she was sent to the hospital for gastric lavage, but fortunately there was no problem.
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Yu Xiuying also thought about leaving Chen Jiwei, but she had to come back every time.
Once, Yu Xiuying ran away from home and went to her sister after being subjected to domestic violence.
A few days later, Chen Jiwei threatened her that if she didn't come back, her son would stop studying and immediately go out to work.
Another time, Chen Jiwei couldn't find anyone, so he directly took a group of gangsters to Yu Xiuying's mother's house to violently coerce.
The domestic violence that impressed Chen Changyu the most was the Spring Festival in 2019.
During the quarrel, the father pointed a knife at his mother, and he immediately stood in front of her.
Chen Jiwei was furious, picked up the electrical appliances at home and smashed them at the mother and son.
Afterwards, Chen Changyu called the police, but the police said that this was a family matter and they couldn't manage it.
Pictured: Interview with Nanfeng Window
Since then, Chen Changyu has never returned home, occasionally taking his mother to Guangdong to live with him.
He thought that he would buy a house in Shanwei when he had saved enough money, and then he would take his mother over and never go back.
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However, the heavens did not grant the wish.
A fire burned Yu Xiuying to severe burns, and at the same time, it also burned all Chen Changyu's illusions about the future.
Woo so-young's days in the hospital were very hard, the gauze stuck to the burned skin, and every time she changed the gauze, she trembled with pain.
She couldn't hold on, she thought of death, and said that she asked her son to buy her some sleeping pills.
Chen Chang comforted his mother on the surface, but in the middle of the night, he would secretly cry.
In order to treat his mother, Chen Changyu borrowed money from everywhere and was burdened with heavy debts.
But the cruelty of fate lies in the fact that it never easily shows mercy to the weak.
On July 28, 2021, Chen Changyu, who was settling accounts with the factory, was ready to take his mother to a better hospital for treatment.
But on this day, Yu Xiuying died of shock due to infectious poisoning caused by burns.
Before this day, Chen Changyu may have been thinking more about how to cure his mother.
After this day, Chen Changyu changed, and he only had revenge in his heart.
In this human tragedy, revenge means betraying one's relatives and making enemies of half the family.
Because he wanted Chen Jiwei to get the punishment he deserved, he stood on opposite sides with the Chen family and even the entire village.
Chen Changyu's uncle said all kinds of cruel words to intimidate Chen Changyu, accused him of unfilial piety, and asked him to write a letter of understanding.
The deaf grandmother yelled at him, not knowing whether it was begging him not to accuse or expressing anger.
Chen Changyu's insistence on revenge also puzzled some elders in the village.
They complained to Chen Changyu: "Mom is gone, Chen Jiwei is his only relative, and he shouldn't do things absolutely." ”
In the face of these criticisms, he just said calmly and firmly: "He is not my father, he is my mother's enemy." ”
After Chen Changyu called the police, the case progressed slowly and was never subject to coercive measures.
He decided to open a Weibo to expose his father's criminal behavior.
He sent messages to the media for help, went to the live broadcast room to post comments, and sent private messages through social platforms.
He also searched the phone numbers of reporters and called them one by one, just to gamble and not let go of any hope.
On November 20, 2021, Chen Jiwei was criminally detained on suspicion of intentional injury.
After that, the Qujing Municipal People's Procuratorate prosecuted him on suspicion of intentional homicide.
Chen Changyu has only one demand, the death penalty is not enough, and the death penalty must be executed immediately, otherwise he will be appealed.
On December 16, 2022, the first instance of the case was announced, and Chen Jiwei was sentenced to death.
Chen Changyu said that after getting the verdict, he finally breathed a sigh of relief, but the stone hanging in his heart had not yet fallen.
Because Chen Jiwei did not obey the verdict, he had to file an appeal. As for whether the verdict will be changed in the second instance, it is unknown.
Chen Changyu said that in the past six months, he has often had two kinds of dreams.
One is dreaming of the mother.
He knelt in front of his mother, who had an intact face, hugged her, and cried and asked, "Do you want to sue?" and the mother said, "Sue!"
One is dreaming of the father.
The two scuffled together, and he took a knife and chased after his father to cut.
The dream is illusory, but the state of mind of the dream is real, and "revenge" is all the beliefs in Chen Changyu's heart at the moment.
Now his greatest hope is to wait for the second-instance verdict of "Death and Persistence" to come down, and then burn it to his mother.
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Over the years, domestic violence incidents have emerged one after another, constantly dominating hot searches.
Beaten in the streets, angrily poured sulfuric acid, killed his wife and hid his body...... Behind every case is the blood and tears of the victim.
However, none of this should have happened.
Family should be a safe haven, but for Chen Changyu, his father is also the demon who destroys all warmth.
Woo so-young's experience is tragic, but through her story, it can also awaken more victims and bystanders.
On November 25 last year, the International Day Against Domestic Violence, Chen Changyu also spoke out for women who are experiencing domestic violence.
He wrote word for word: "Domestic violence is not a family matter, and marriage certificates are not the umbrella of all criminals. ”
The identity of the father is not a moral rope for kidnapping children, let alone a place outside the law of criminal law.
always thinking of the relationship between father and son, for those who are cold-blooded and ruthless and don't know what their father is, they are not worthy at all!
The family is not a place outside the law, and domestic violence is not a family matter, but a violation of the law or even a crime!
There must be zero tolerance for domestic violence, and every victim should take up legal weapons to protect themselves.
Ending domestic violence is a shared responsibility of society as a whole, which is why we continue to call for legal recourse.
When encountering domestic violence, you must be brave enough to protect yourself and say "no" to all domestic violence!