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It is normal for mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to have problems, as long as they want to solve it, they will definitely be able to solve it, as long as they are not affected by others, the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will not be unsolvable, as long as they have assertive opinions, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will not die of old age.
Between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, take off the mask to live, and there is no contradiction in family harmony
A few years before the daughter-in-law married into the mother-in-law's house, the mother-in-law would not let the daughter-in-law work, whether it was doing housework, washing clothes, cooking, the mother-in-law would not let the daughter-in-law do it, let alone farm work.
Mother-in-law must have done this right during this period, some things are done wrong, and it is inevitable that the daughter-in-law will be unhappy when she arrives, after all, the mother-in-law is not as good as a year for her daughter-in-law, after all, a lot of housework will not help her daughter-in-law do, just like every daughter-in-law just got married for a few days, the mother-in-law will cook a lot of meals, although she usually eats some pickles, and the family marries her daughter-in-law, the mother-in-law will also get up an hour early, fry two dishes, ask the daughter-in-law what she eats, and the daughter-in-law will shout over and over again if the daughter-in-law does not get up, tirelessly, full of distress。
But after the daughter-in-law gets married for a period of time, the mother-in-law may not fry every meal, or she will have to eat leftovers at every meal, and the daughter-in-law will not shout if she doesn't get up, and she will even feel that the daughter-in-law is a lot lazy, and she doesn't eat any good meals, and sleeps until three o'clock in the morning every day, which is really lazy.
If you think about it carefully, the daughter-in-law has not changed, she still doesn't want to do housework, or she doesn't want to get up early to eat, because she was like this when she was at her mother's house, and she was like this when she came to her mother-in-law's house, why is she disliked now?
The mother-in-law didn't eat at first, she was distressed, worried that the child was freezing and hungry, and worried that the neighbors would say that she would let her daughter-in-law eat badly, and she would be hungry and thin within a few days of marriage, but after a long time, the mother-in-law saw that her daughter-in-law couldn't understand her mood at all, suggesting that she didn't want to be low anymore, and she was rotten from then on.
In the end, there is nothing wrong with the two of them, and they are not all right, the daughter-in-law has changed from a girl to a wife, her role has changed, and what she can do has to change, her identity has become more heavy, and she should do more things, whether she is wronged or unwilling, these things have to be done, the girl can not cook for her parents, but the wife can not let her husband eat takeout every day, and the daughter can not wash clothes for her parents, but she can't help her children wash clothes and change diapers.
Parents love their children, they are reluctant to let their daughters wash clothes and cook, wives love their husbands, and they will not let their husbands who go out early and return late eat fast food every day, and their mothers love their children, and they are reluctant to let their children eat junk food and snacks.
If the mother-in-law wants to establish a good influence, don't pick and choose not to do it halfway, since you have done it, do it to the end, otherwise the daughter-in-law will definitely feel the gap, if the mother-in-law wants to be an ordinary mother-in-law, there is not so much tolerance, don't show yourself at the beginning, package yourself very kind, let the daughter-in-law misunderstand that she found a kind good mother-in-law, in fact, this is really not interesting, people can't always live with a mask, life still has to return to the truth, and it's not a performance for three days or five days, gritting your teeth can also persevere。
A lifetime is very long, and it is not short, even if you are a real performer, artist, actor, it is impossible to perform for a lifetime, you are not your true self, no one can act, there are so many small details in life, there are so many opportunities to show your stuffing, wearing a mask will be hot, you will sweat, and it will make people marvel that you are not ordinary.
Regardless of what the mother-in-law does and the daughter-in-law approves of it, although the concepts of the two are different, but neither of them should deny each other's efforts, the changes made by the other party in order to try their best to integrate into the family, don't be preconceived, look at others with your own concepts, whether you like it or not, just take care of yourself, just like your children are bullied by others, you annoy other people's children, it is useless to scold them with emotions, and make yourself upset, you just need to educate your children, let your children protect themselves, and learn to fight back, so that there is naturally no trouble。
The contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is the same, that is, they care too much about each other's opinions, evaluations and what the other party does, it's really ridiculous to say, I've heard the sentence "treating others in the way of others", what can I do if I can't do it?
My mother-in-law doesn't take care of herself in confinement, so what's there to be angry about not taking care of herself during confinement? How does she take care of you, how do you take care of him in the future, now they are going back to their respective homes to find their own mothers, and their biological parents take care of themselves, I really can't figure out what there is to be angry about, nagging and chattering for a lifetime, smart women avoid these things when they are pregnant, they have money to go to the confinement center, they don't have money to invite a confinement wife, they don't have children if they are really poor, or take care of themselves, don't hate anyone, don't expect anyone, don't have extravagant expectations for the child's father, there must be no worries.
Mother-in-law is the same, if you want to avoid the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, don't be afraid of what outsiders say, daughter-in-law gives birth to a child, you don't take care of the confinement and worry about the neighbors gossiping, take care of it, but don't do it seriously, full of unwillingness, think about yourself in the first place, you haven't even eaten a wild egg, the more you think about it, the more unwilling you are, and you want to impose these grievances on your daughter-in-law, and you want to take care of your daughter-in-law in confinement to get a reputation, and finally you really lost your mother-in-law and daughter-in-law!
Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are a lifelong love, and it is really tiring to live with a mask, so it is better to completely tear off the mask, so that from the beginning both parties know what the other party is like, where the other party's bottom line is, and they will not be disappointed when they encounter problems! As long as the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law want to live a good life, they have no expectations for each other, no expectations, rely on themselves for everything, have a plan for life, have a plan for having children, and raise children, adjust their mentality, take what they don't want to hear as the wind in their ears, don't care about gossip, and live a peaceful and happy life.
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