Today I went to a blind date event, and at the age of 45, I can be regarded as a temperament aunt. Although my friends persuaded me that this blind date did not work well, I still gave it a try with a glimmer of hope.
At the blind date scene, I communicated with an uncle, and it seemed that he was very honest, and I also thought he was quite reliable. We talked and laughed a lot, as if we were no strangers. Suddenly there was a sense of intimacy, and I plucked up the courage to invite him to join me for a cup of coffee. No, he was embarrassed to decline my invitation on the grounds that he already had a family.
I smiled a little awkwardly and said it didn't matter, it was just a joke. But I felt a little lost in my heart. At this moment, another uncle came over and called the uncle Xiao Li, and it turned out that they knew each other. I took the opportunity to inquire and learned that they were the same blind date, but the uncle took the initiative to post a large sum of money at the beginning, thinking that he could wronged the little girl of his family. Unexpectedly, the little girl still chose another richer uncle. But this Xiao Li still accepted it, he deserved to be a gentleman, and he didn't dare to marry even if he paid money.
Now, even my self-esteem has been lost. I prayed secretly in my heart, but don't let me meet such an irresponsible uncle. Although he is now the boss, he will never compromise with this kind of irresponsible man. My sister said that I was a little mean, but I think this kind of thing really can't be ambiguous, marriage is a big deal, and you can't regret it for the rest of your life if you want to be quick for a while.
A few days later, I was about to go out and take out the trash, only to be attracted by a puppy in my yard. The puppy was desolate and looked abandoned in front of my house. After much inquiry, I learned that it was my neighbor's. I often see their children playing around with this puppy, and I didn't think that their family would treat the puppy so irresponsibly now.
I was penniless, but I couldn't help but take this puppy home and raise it. My son laughed at me and said, "Isn't this asking for trouble?" I said that this puppy is innocent and needs a warm home. No one will abandon it. I can't tolerate myself being yet another person to abandon this puppy.
From that day on, I would take it with me every morning, even if it was running faster than me, I would chase it. It became one of the most enjoyable things for me. Running with a puppy every morning is really happy.
My son saw that my relationship with the puppy was getting better and better, and he stopped laughing at me. He said that once when he came home from school, he saw me and my puppy basking in the sun and playing together in the yard, which felt so warm. He decided to give the puppy a name, so he named it "Xiaocao", which means that our family has become happier because of having a puppy. I was so moved that I almost burst into tears.
However, although the home has become warmer because of the grass, my blind date has not progressed. This makes me a little anxious. I don't know what kind of person I will meet on my next blind date? My grass is by my side, and it has also become a great harvest in my life.
Not long after, there was a small conflict between Uncle Wang near my house and Aunt Li, a neighbor. Uncle Wang is warm-hearted and often helps his neighbors solve some trivial problems. However, he spends his days helping Aunt Li repair household appliances or carry heavy objects, which makes his son feel a little dissatisfied. The son blamed him for always helping others and never taking care of his own family.
Uncle Wang originally thought that his son was just a temporary dissatisfaction, but he didn't expect his son to choose a cold war with him and no longer care about him. Uncle Wang tries to communicate with his son, but his son thinks that he always puts his family on the back burner, which makes Uncle Wang start to fall into confusion.
I see it in my eyes, and my heart hurts in my heart. There was a conflict in the family, which was undoubtedly a huge blow to Uncle Wang. I took Xiaocao to Uncle Wang, hoping that by communicating with him, it would help him. When I talked to him about my family, his eyes revealed a heaviness and helplessness that I couldn't express in words. He said that he had always thought about his family, but he never seemed to be able to meet his son's expectations. He was distressed and didn't know what to do.
I thought about it for a while, and finally decided to give Uncle Wang some advice to try to share his feelings with his family and see if he could rebuild the communication between them. So I persuaded him to sit down with my son and have a good talk, and sincerely express his thoughts and confusion. I also suggest that they try to do something together as a family to strengthen their relationship.
Uncle Wang agreed with my suggestion and said that he would try to communicate with his son to find out the crux of the conflict.
After helping Uncle Wang, I returned home, only to find my son with a straight face and looking a little unhappy. I asked him what was wrong, but my son complained that I was always working for others and neglecting my family. He also started to feel like I was like his dad and always ignored his feelings.
This left me in a state of inner conflict. I've always worked hard for my family, but I didn't expect my family to feel this way. I understand that communication problems in the family need to be faced and solved as a family. This home needs to be guarded together.
Although the contradiction has not been resolved, I believe that as long as we communicate with our hearts, we will be able to get out of the predicament eventually. Xiaocao has also become a member of the family, accompanying me through every annoying night.
There are a lot of problems in my family now, and it has also made me feel the weight of growing up. I believe that as long as we work hard, no matter what kind of difficulties we encounter, we can get through it together, and this may be the most precious harvest.
Just as Xiaocao and I got along more and more, something unexpected happened at home. That day, I went home to give Xiaocao a bath, only to find my son angrily looking at a piece of stationery. I went up to him and asked him what was wrong, and he handed me the letter, which turned out to be a divorce letter from my husband. I looked at it, and every word of the letter was full of anger and incomprehension.
I froze for a moment, speechless in shock. Divorce? My husband actually filed for divorce? This is a bolt from the blue. My husband and I have been married for more than 10 years, and although our married life is not very happy, I always thought that there was still a foundation for our relationship. Unexpectedly, now he has filed for divorce, and it is through a letter. It's just incredible.
Enraged, I went to my husband and asked him why he was doing this. He bitterly said that our marriage had long since lost its former luster, and that he had found a new partner and wanted to start a new marriage. My heart tingled, and the fact of divorce was like a sword stuck in my heart.
At the same time, I found out that I didn't know my husband's heart, and it turned out that he had been suppressing his dissatisfaction and unhappiness all these years. The original happiness turned out to be just wishful thinking on my part. In the face of this sudden blow, I felt helpless and at a loss. Everything in my home has changed drastically and I need to take a fresh look at myself and my life.
At this time, Xiaocao became my best companion. It has always been with me unconditionally and never abandoned. Looking at its attachment to me, my heart gradually calmed down. It was like I had regained my confidence in life. Perhaps, Xiaocao is not an accident, but a gift from God. Its companionship makes me feel that there is still a trace of warmth and hope in life.
I know that although this divorce has hit me hard, it has also taught me the truth of life. My relationship with my husband may be long gone, but I'm not alone. Facing all this strongly, I believe that there will be new hope and happiness waiting for me. My family and friends are also standing with me, and I feel very warm about their support.
However, my heart was still full of contradictions and doubts. I began to wonder how I could re-examine my life and future in the face of such changes.
After I became friends with Xiaocao, I began to find that my surroundings became more and more tense. Again and again, I always attend the gatherings of relatives and friends, but I always attend alone. My family began to introduce me to people, and I always received them politely, but I felt more and more tired inside. Whenever I talk about marriage, my family always urges me narrowly, as if marriage is the only destination in life, and I am always a victim of this endless blind date.
I started to steer clear of all blind date arrangements, and I didn't have any explanation for that. I just wish I could have more space to think about and reflect on my life. In the process, Xiaocao became my best companion and we spent many wonderful times together at home. Although the gradual estrangement of my family made me feel a little lonely, with the protection of Xiaocao, I was able to face everything calmly.
However, an accident made me re-examine my family relationships. On that day, I was walking alone with the grass and happened to pass in front of my house. I heard the sound of family arguing in my ears, and when I opened the door and walked into the house, I saw a scene that I didn't expect.
It turned out that my parents were arguing over my violation of the last blind date. My father was adamant that I should listen to my parents, but my mother defended me by saying that I should have the right to choose my own happiness. This incident aroused my doubts about my family, and I began to reflect on the communication problems between me and my family.
Growing up, I had very little communication with my parents, and conflicts at home were rarely mentioned. I felt very depressed inside. I began to think that maybe my personality was the most fundamental reason. I always endure in silence or take the initiative to accommodate. But at the moment, I knew I had to change.
I stood up and firmly expressed my deep confusion to my parents. I told them that I needed my own time and space to think about my future life, and hoped that they would respect my choice and give me enough understanding and support. My parents were obviously surprised, but they acquiesced to my choice, saying they would give me some time to think.
The days away from home hurt me a little, but I knew it was something I had to do, and I was going to find my own happiness. I decided to take Xiaocao and go out to relax for a while and find the answer in my heart. My mother handed me a small package full of carefully prepared food and tissues before leaving the house. Before I left, she took my hand and whispered, "No matter what you choose, we are your strongest backing." ”
During this time away from home, I thought deeply about my needs and responsibilities. I started to take the initiative to communicate with my family, and although there were still some difficult topics to talk about, we were able to speak openly about our thoughts. I was amazed by this change and it made me understand my family more and more.
When I was walking the grass in a nearby park, I met the property aunt in the community. I didn't have much intersection before, I only knew that her surname was Wang. She smiled at me and said hello, and took the initiative to talk to me. She said she also has a dog and loves dogs and loves watching them run and play in the yard. My eyes lit up, and I finally found a soulmate to talk to.
Slowly, I found myself chatting more and more with my aunt Wang, at first it was a topic of puppies, and then I had my own feelings. She was always able to give me some advice and comfort when I was feeling down. I felt that she was such a person who understood people's hearts, and gradually, I began to regard her as my bosom friend.
One day, because of some trivial matters, I had some small conflicts with my neighboring aunt. Originally, it was just some trivial things, but this time the contradiction became more and more serious. I didn't expect a little thing to turn out like this, and I felt like I was a little out of control. At this time, I think I can confide in my aunt Wang.
I told my aunt Wang about the conflicts between me and my neighboring aunt, but I didn't expect that she neither supported me nor opposed me, but just told me that there would be some conflicts between my family, and I hoped that I could deal with them calmly. I felt a little disappointed, I thought I could be understood, but I didn't expect that I still need to solve it myself.
That night, I was walking with the grass and I was in a heavy mood. I began to reflect on whether my words and actions had caused trouble to others. Xiaocao looked at me as if she could feel my emotions. It was at that moment that I realized how important it is to be a person who knows how to share and listen. But I'm always on my own, and if I go on like this, I'll be very lonely.
The next day, I decided to have a frank conversation with my aunt Wang. I spoke my thoughts to her, expressing my trust and dependence on her. Unexpectedly, Aunt Wang also realized that her previous attitude was a bit rushed, and she was also willing to be the object of my confiding. Our relationship grew closer in this candid conversation.
After this conflict, I found that I seemed to think more about family and relationships. Perhaps, more communication and understanding are needed to prevent the conflict from expanding and to make each other more harmonious. Becoming good friends with Aunt Wang also gave me more trust and expectation in this world. Xiaocao also became friends with the two of us, and we walked the road together and became more comfortable. Perhaps, in such companionship and confiding, I can find more inner answers.
The appearance of Xiaocao has brought a lot of joy to my life, but at the same time, it has also brought some troubles. My mom was very disgusted with the grass, she thought that having animals at home would affect the cleanliness and hygiene, and she felt that taking care of the puppy would distract me and delay my search for a partner. Whenever I came home with Xiaocao, my mother always kept a straight face and would even accuse me coldly. We had an argument over it so many times that I began to wonder if she really cared about my well-being. I tried to explain it to her, but she always turned a deaf ear and made me feel very hurt.
My son and I became loyal companions to the grass, and we always played, fed, and even bathed with it together. Xiaocao has gradually become a bridge of communication between me and my son. Once, I saw my son secretly save some of his pocket money, saying that he was going to buy some delicious food for Xiaocao. I was both touched and distressed by this scene, and I vowed to protect them. Due to the different attitudes towards Xiaocao, the conflict between me and my mother became more and more acute, and I began to question the warmth of the family. Moreover, my son also began to feel the tension in the family, and often asked me why my grandmother and I kept arguing. We need to solve this problem and bring the family back to warmth.