On a cold winter day, two little hedgehogs leaned together, absorbing the warmth from each other. The hedgehog's fur is fluffy and soft, but it is covered with sharp spines, which allows the two hedgehogs to keep a slight distance.
Too close, and the sting will prick the other person; If it's too far away, it's hard to feel the warmth.
The hedgehog frowned in thought, it understood that it had to find a distance that would have the best of both worlds, keep warm without hurting each other. After much adjustment, the hedgehog finally found the sweet spot.
They snuggle up to each other, their thorns brushing each other's fur gently, conveying warmth but not sting. This is the true meaning of the "Hedgehog Rule" - find the right distance, be intimate and not cause harm.
The warmth of the two hedgehogs reminds us that brothers and sisters need such wisdom. While intimate and caring, you should also give each other space, and don't stifle self-reliance by over-dependence.
Only by finding the right boundaries and letting friendship become motivation instead of shackles, can relatives get along in harmony and share the joy of family.
Su Shi was demoted for "Warm Father Wutai Poem", and after being imprisoned for several months, his younger brother Su Zhe was shocked when he heard the news and immediately rushed back to the capital from Changping. "Although the brother has a little grievance, he will not abandon his relatives", Su Zhe only had the idea of saving his brother in his heart.
He wrote a letter requesting that his official position be exchanged for Su Shi's freedom, and finally Su Shi was released from prison, although he was still demoted to Huangzhou.
Su Zhe's righteous and awe-inspiring actions are moving. Nowadays, the society is prosperous, and the brothers and sisters are too concerned about personal interests, and it is rare to see Su Zhe's fearless spirit of treating official positions as nothing and giving up others.
We should learn Xi friendship between Su Shi and Su Zhe's brothers, friends and brothers, and maintain a generous and benevolent heart in the conflict of interests.
Xiaoqiang has worked hard in the county for many years, and after his career was successful, his two younger brothers came to take refuge one after another. Xiaoqiang gladly accepted and let them live in his own home. At first, Xiaoqiang let the eldest brother sleep on the sofa and the second brother slept on the bed, but he didn't expect the eldest brother to complain to his mother that he was left out.
Xiaoqiang had no choice but to buy a new bed.
Xiaoqiang wanted to do his best to take care of his younger brother, but he didn't know that kindness was not exchanged for gratitude, but instead attracted unreasonable trouble. We should understand that brotherly efforts should not be one-way.
Xiaoqiang's kindness failed to teach his younger brother to be independent, but instead made them develop the Xi of dependence. Being an elder brother requires wisdom and proper care, but it is also necessary to have requirements for younger brothers and urge them to strive for self-improvement in order to make them grow.
When I left campus and went to Dongguan to find a job, I first contacted my cousin to help introduce me to a job. My cousin readily agreed at that time, and let me go to Changping with confidence. But when I got there, my cousin not only did not help, but also ignored my call for help.
It was then that I realized that not all siblings help each other unconditionally, even if they have been favored.
Blood is thicker than water, not necessarily love is thicker than water. Harmony on the surface does not mean sincerity in the heart. We can't blindly expect help from others just because of blood relations, but we must be positive and self-reliant.
When we do our best, we can have a clear conscience even when we are left out. We don't have to expect anything in return, but we have the right to choose a soul-oriented soul.
There is a proverb that says, "The road knows the horsepower, and the people will see the heart over time". After a long time of interacting with people, you can see the true face of each other. Hedgehogs keep a proper distance, both warm and harmless, and the wisdom of this is also applied to interactions.
Brothers and sisters should not only be close to each other, but also respect each other's way of life. You can't let your relatives trample on your bottom line just because blood is thicker than water. You should learn to be independent, and you can ask for help if you have difficulties, but you should not become a burden to the other party.
Giving love is a virtue, but only by building on the basis of equality and mutual understanding, and maintaining a relationship of mutual encouragement and mutual achievement, can we live in harmony.
It is a virtue to do your best to help your siblings, but you should not have illusions and expect the other person to be obedient. We must understand that helping each other is affection, and not helping each other is also human nature, and there is no need to complain.
Don't do things with a mentality, otherwise you will hurt yourself and will inevitably complain. It should be remembered that "there is no such thing as a free lunch" and that it is unrealistic to think that there will be a reward for what you give.
We should be self-satisfied and help others, not imagine what they will reciprocate. Giving with a clear conscience is the true meaning of life.
To sum up, brothers and sisters need to get along with each other with wisdom, neither blindly giving, nor complaining.
We need to realize that it is common for relatives to have conflicting interests, and there is no absolute natural harmony. But as long as we learn the "hedgehog rule" and master the proportions of getting along, we can reduce conflicts and enjoy the beauty of family relationships.
The key is to find the right distance – to be close to each other, but not to be overly dependent; Try your best to care, but don't stifle the growth of the other person; Tolerant and accepting, but without losing the bottom line of principles.
Let be the cornerstone of our relationship. Only in this way can we turn hostility into friendship and make the family relationship as harmonious as ever.