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My name is Zhang Dapeng, I am 38 years old this year, and I have been married to my wife Li Xiaoyun for ten years. We were college classmates, and after graduation, both parents felt that we were the right match, so they brought us together. After many years of marriage, our relationship is not bad, but we have never had children, which has become our only regret.
I've always wanted to have children, and the ideal situation is to have one, then adopt a few, and start a big family. But Xiaoyun doesn't want to have children, she feels that having children will affect her career and ruin our current lives. I approached her several times with the idea of having children, but each time she was mercilessly rejected.
Yesterday, I proposed to Xiaoyun again that I wanted to adopt a few children: "Xiaoyun, we have been married for so many years, and we always feel that something is missing when we live with the two of us." I can understand you if you don't want to have children, but we can start a big family by adoption. ”
"Xiaoyun, I know you're busy with work, but having more children is not all a burden, it will make your home warmer. I can take on more responsibility for taking care of the children, so you don't have to be so tough all the time. "I tried to soften her attitude.
"My answer is no! Dapeng, why are you so selfish, only thinking about your own thoughts, but not caring about my feelings!" Xiaoyun raised her voice, anger in her tone.
I also lost my temper: "Selfish? We have been married for so many years, don't I have the right to have my own ideas and demands? I can accept that you don't have children, but I also have the right to adopt a few children and start my own family!"
"You... If you adopt children, I will never admit them! I will divorce you when the time comes!" Xiaoyun was furious.
I took a deep breath and looked at Xiaoyun's eyes seriously: "Xiaoyun, I can promise you that as long as you don't have children, I will respect your choice." But you also have to respect my desire to form a big family. You can have no babies or not, but don't stop me from raising 6 people. That's my final bottom line. ”
Xiaoyun's eyes widened, and she was speechless for a while. I also regret that I was too heavy, but we have never had such a big argument between us.
Xiaoyun was silent for a while, got up and left the living room. I sat alone on the couch with mixed feelings. I know Xiaoyun's personality, and once she makes up her mind, it's hard to change her mind. But the idea of adopting a child was not a whim, but a desire from the depths of my heart.
This quarrel exposed the differences between me and Xiaoyun. What can I do to make Xiaoyun change her attitude and accept me
That night, Xiaoyun never spoke to me. She slept alone in the master bedroom, closing the door tightly. I slept in my room, tossing and turning.
Xiaoyun pursed her lips: "Dapeng, I have made it very clear, I do not agree to adoption." Let's stop there. ”
"Xiaoyun, I know you're still angry with me right now. But as a couple, we should understand each other and put ourselves in each other's shoes. Can you stop being so absolute, let's sit down and talk about it?" I tried to be as soft as possible.
"Dapeng, don't talk about it again, I won't change my mind. Xiaoyun stood up and wanted to leave.
"Xiaoyun!" I took her hand, "I know you have your considerations, but please understand my thoughts, okay? Adoption is really important to me, I can promise you all the conditions, as long as you can agree to adopt a child." ”
Xiaoyun shook off my hand and said in a cold tone: "Dapeng, you are simply threatening me like this! Either you give up the adoption, or we will divorce!"
I looked at Xiaoyun's departing back, and my heart was like a knife. I've been thinking about it these days, and I feel that the differences between me and Xiaoyun can't be reconciled. She couldn't accept adoption, but adopting a child was my dream. Divorce is too difficult for me, but I can't live in Xiaoyun's shadow forever.
So, I submitted an adoption application online. The social worker quickly told me that there was a three-year-old girl, Xiaohua, who needed to adopt a family. Seeing Xiaohua's cute smiling face, I immediately decided to adopt her.
On the weekend, I drove to the welfare home to pick up Xiaohua home. Xiaohua quickly adapted to the new environment, and she called me dad with a smile, and my heart was about to melt. I decided not to tell Xiaoyun yet, and when she saw Xiaohua, maybe she would change her mind.
Xiaoyun went home that day, and as soon as she opened the door, she saw Xiaohua sitting on the ground playing with toys. Her eyes widened, and her face instantly turned pale.
"Xiaoyun, you're back. This is Little Flower, our daughter. Isn't it cute?" I smiled and introduced.
Xiaoyun's body trembled slightly, she walked up to me without saying a word, and slapped me hard: "Zhang Dapeng, you are too much! I obviously told you not to adopt a child, but you actually took people home behind my back!"
I covered the left side of my face that was beaten, and I was a little angry in my heart: "Xiaoyun, I have made it clear to you, adopting a child is my dream, even if you don't agree, I will do it! Xiaohua is now our daughter, you have to learn to accept her!"
"Accept her, what's the joke!" Xiaoyun sneered, "I'll call someone to take her away now, she is not my daughter, and she will not be in the future!"
As she spoke, Xiaoyun took out her mobile phone to dial. I rushed forward and snatched her mobile phone: "Xiaoyun, calm down! Xiaohua is only 3 years old, just arrived in a strange environment, you have to let people take her, how scared and sad she will be!"
"What does that have to do with me! You brought her back behind my back first!" Xiaoyun roared.
"Xiaoyun, I'm also forced to do it!" I raised my voice and said, "I've discussed it so many times with you, and you won't even listen! As a husband, I also have dreams and feelings, and you can't deprive me of my right to be a father just because I don't want children!"
"Zhang Dapeng, don't give me this set!" Xiaoyun sneered, "I'll divorce you now, and you can realize your dream of raising a child by yourself!"
I looked at Xiaoyun's indifferent and resolute eyes, and my heart sank. The gap between us seems to be unbridgeable. I squatted down and picked up Xiaohua, who was playing happily on the ground, and couldn't help but shed tears: "Xiaohua, I'm sorry, it's Dad's fault that made you wronged." ”
Xiaohua stretched out her little hand and wiped away the tears on my face: "Dad, don't cry." I'll be obedient. ”
I hugged Xiaohua tightly, tears raining down. When Xiaoyun saw this scene, a trace of emotion flashed on her face, but she quickly turned around and left.
But I didn't complain at all, the little flowers brightened my life like angels. I took her to the playground to play, bought her new clothes, and cooked for her every day. When I put her to sleep at night, she would coquettishly call me Dabi, and my heart was warm.
After another half a year, adopting Xiaohua was a fatal blow to my marriage with Xiaoyun. Xiaoyun filed a divorce agreement, and I silently signed it.
"Zhang Dapeng, I really didn't expect us to come this far. Xiaoyun said with red eyes.
"I'm sorry that I'm being selfish for a moment and causing you harm. I whispered.
"Maybe I have a problem, I'm too stubborn to think from your point of view. Xiaoyun also seemed to be a little remorseful, "Xiaohua is the only relative with you now, and you will take care of her by yourself in the future." ”
"I will. Actually, you can also come and see the florets often if you want to. I said tentatively.
Xiaoyun shook her head and didn't speak. She silently packed her bags and left our former love nest.
I started a new life with Xiaohua. Xiaohua's innocent smile is my greatest comfort.
Another year later, I adopted a 5-year-old boy, Xiao Ming, through the welfare home. Xiao Ming has a lively and active personality, and Xiaohua and I like him very much.
My big family plan is coming to fruition step by step. I applied for a four-bedroom apartment and freed up two rooms to be renovated into a children's room. On weekends, I take my two children to the playground and zoo, and every time I see them happy, I am very happy.
One day in the park, I met Xiaoyun playing with a little boy. At that moment, she and I looked at each other, both a little embarrassed.
"Xiaoyun, you... Is this your son?" I asked tentatively.
"Yes, my son and Lu Jian's son are already one year old. Xiaoyun said.
"Congratulations. I forced a smile. Xiaoyun also got married and had children, and I had mixed feelings in my heart.
"Daddy!" At this moment, Xiaohua saw me and ran over happily.
"It's a little flower, isn't it? Xiaoyun looked at Xiaohua, and a trace of nostalgia flashed in her eyes.
"Hello Aunt Xiaoyun!" Xiaohua greeted politely.
"Auntie is fine. The little flowers grow so beautifully. Xiaoyun squatted down and touched Xiaohua's hair.
"Xiaoyun, I'm alone with two children now, it's not easy. If you have time, can you help me see Xiaohua and Xiaoming? Of course, it's only if you volunteer. I plucked up the courage to say that.
Xiaoyun was stunned for a moment, then nodded: "Of course you can." I also want to spend more time with Xiaohua. But now that I have my own family, I won't have much time to help you share. ”
"It's okay, I'm grateful for your help watching them. "I breathed a sigh of relief.
Since then, Xiaoyun will come to my house from time to time to visit Xiaohua and Xiaoming. She would take them to the park to play and buy some snacks and toys. The children gradually accepted her.
One day, when Xiaoyun came to my house, I was about to go out shopping.
"You're going out? Then I'll watch the kids for you. Xiaoyun offered to offer.
"Thank you so much!" I said happily.
"Goodbye, Dadby!" Xiaohua waved her little hand and said goodbye to me.
After I went out, Xiaoyun took her two children to play happily at home. She tells Xiao Ming stories and plays jigsaw puzzles with Xiao Hua.
When I returned, I saw Xiaoyun preparing dinner for the children in the kitchen. At the dinner table, two children sat obediently, waiting to eat.
"I'm back!" I said with a smile.
"Daddy!" Two children ran up to me and hugged me. Xiaoyun also smiled and said, "You came back just in time, I made fish-flavored shredded pork and egg soup that children like to eat." ”
We had a happy dinner as a family. After putting the children to sleep, Xiaoyun talked to me for a few days before leaving.
"With Sister Xiaoyun here, Dad's burden will be much lighter than yours, right?" She said to me as she left.
"yes, thank you so much. I say from the bottom of my heart.
Time flies, and another two years have passed in the blink of an eye. In the past two years, Xiaoyun often came to help me take care of Xiaohua and Xiaoming, and our relationship gradually eased. The children have fully accepted her as a member of the family.
One day, I suddenly received a call from Xiaoyun, and she choked up and said to me: "Dapeng, Lu Jian died in a car accident, can you come and accompany me?"
I immediately drove to Xiaoyun's house. Her eyes were red and swollen, and her face was stained with tears. I was so distressed that I comforted her softly. At this time, her son Xiaobao ran over and threw himself into her arms.
"Mom, don't cry. Xiaobao wiped away her tears.
I looked at the mother and son, and my eyes were red. Xiaoyun has been through so much, and I really hope that she can be happy.
Since then, I will regularly take Xiaohua and Xiaoming to visit Xiaoyun and Xiaobao. The six of them gradually became a big family.
Perhaps, fate did not originally want to separate us. After going through so much, Xiaoyun and I came together again.
I began to take the initiative to ask Xiaoyun out to dinner and watch movies. She also cooks some of my favorite dishes, and we take the kids on outings together. It's a day like when we first got married.
One day, we went to the playground to play, Xiaoyun took my hand and said, "Dapeng, so much has happened in the past few years, I figured it out." No matter how many children you want to adopt, I will fully support you. ”
I looked at her in surprise: "Xiaoyun, are you serious?"
"Hmm. She nodded, "I regret being so opinionated and breaking your heart and the hearts of the children." Now I can really accept a big family. ”
"Thank you, Xiaoyun!" I hugged her excitedly, "I also regret that I didn't think about your feelings when I did things. In the future, we must communicate more and understand each other. ”
Xiaoyun had tears in her eyes: "I only understand now that you adopted a child not on a whim, but out of desire and responsibility for the family." I really admire how difficult it is for you to carry them alone all these years. ”
"With your support and help, everything will be different. I said gratefully.
And just like that, we got back together. I formally proposed to Xiaoyun, and she gladly accepted.
On the day of the wedding, Xiaohua and Xiaoming played the role of flower girls, happily scattering flower petals. Xiaobao also put on a beautiful little suit. Looking at the three children, our hearts are full of happiness.
"From now on, we will be a real family. I said to Xiaoyun.
"Well, I will love them and take care of them with you. Xiaoyun replied with a smile.
In this way, we adopted several more children who needed families. Xiaoyun also gave birth to a daughter as she wished. We have children of our own, adopted several children, and formed a happy family.
Every year during the Chinese New Year, a large family sits around the dining table to have a reunion dinner, and they are all so happy.
Perhaps in our marriages, there have been misunderstandings and disagreements. But through the storm, we have learned to understand and tolerate. Now Xiaoyun and I are happy, and this is the best ending.