#头条创作挑战赛#
01 Introduction
Have you ever had such a problem?
Because overly sensitive always thinks a lot, it is easy to get into the horns:
For example, in a group discussion, when you come up with a new idea and other members don't respond positively or criticize your point, you may feel that your opinion is not valued and start to doubt your ability or worth to think.
For example, when you try to do something and expect approval and praise from others, but end up receiving a cold response or being ignored, you may feel damaged in your self-esteem, self-doubt, and uneasy.
For example, when you post a personal post or share your creation on social media, but don't get the expected likes or comments, you may feel like your efforts are being ignored and doubt your talent and worth.
These thoughts always appear uncontrollably in your mind, and you live every day carefully, tremblingly, and not at all happy.
How do you get rid of it? The answer is to cultivate – the insensitivity of the mind.
02 What is blunt force?
Blunt sensitivity refers to a person's ability to cope with adversity, stress, and setbacks.
It involves an individual's ability to recover quickly and maintain a positive mindset, adaptability, and self-regulation in the face of difficulties, challenges, or trauma.
The Japanese writer Junichi Watanabe wrote in his book "Dull Sensibility" that the opposite of sensitivity is blunt sensibility.
Blunt sensibility is possible according to Watanabe's own interpretation.
Junichi Watanabe once knew a professor who was very skilled in medicine, but he liked to babble and curse, especially his assistants.
But after each operation, the assistant still talked and laughed with everyone, and he didn't complain or leave his job.
The assistant can recover his state so quickly because he is not so sensitive to other people's opinions, evaluations, and even malice, and other people's reactions are not very likely to affect him.
He is more focused on his own things, only focusing on whether he has achieved his goals.
This slight mental force is blunt sensitivity.
But.
People with a high level of blunt sensitivity are usually
03 What kind of people need to develop dull sensitivity?
Blunt sensitivity is beneficial for anyone, but it may be especially needed in people who:
1. People who have experienced trauma or difficulties
For people who have experienced trauma, setbacks, or difficulties, blunt sensitivity, helping them cope better and recover from it, and avoid falling into negative emotions and thought cycles.
2. People who work in a high-pressure job or in a highly competitive environment
For example, professionals, academic researchers, etc., cultivating blunt sensitivity can help people cope with work pressure, challenges and failures, and maintain a stable mood and positive attitude, and stay motivated to meet pressure and competition.
In the process of learning Xi and research, in the face of academic challenges, Xi academic pressure, and competition, developing a dull sense can help them stay motivated, overcome difficulties, and continue to pursue academic and personal growth.
3. People with sensitive, fragile personalities
Many people may have a sensitive personality due to factors such as their original family, education, and emotional frustration, and it is easy to have too many thoughts about the reactions of others, and they are trapped in mental internal friction all day long.
Cultivating a sense of insensitivity can help them cope better with stress and setbacks, improve their resilience, reduce negative emotions, and face life with a more positive attitude.
Overall, whether it is facing challenges in life, professional pressures, or stages of personal development, developing insensitivity is beneficial.
04 How do I develop insensitivity and insensitivity skills?
First, reasonable attribution
People who are sensitive or psychologically fragile are generally more inclined to attribution inward, and people who are dull and insensitive to reflect on their own problems first are generally more inclined to attribution extroverted.
If you take all the problems on yourself, it is easy to form self-criticism and self-criticism, increase your psychological burden and pressure, and become depressed over time.
Therefore, the first thing to do to cultivate blunt sensitivity is to attribute reasonably, and to attribute outwardly.
Second, turn your attention to yourself
Attention is like a searchlight, where its light goes, the clearer it is, and the greater the impact on others. The places that are not illuminated are more blurry and have less impact on people.
If you want to reduce the influence of others on yourself, you need to pay more attention to yourself, pay attention to your own feelings and experiences, think more about your current situation, and care for yourself.
Don't think about what people think of me, but about what I want to be and what I should do, so that you don't get hung up on the reactions of others.
Third, build a positive mindset
Cultivating a positive mindset is the key to cultivating blunt sensibility.
Even if someone really makes you feel wronged and affected, you might as well laugh it off, give yourself psychological hints, and deal with it positively.
Don't get depressed when you encounter hardships, setbacks, and failures, and see them as part of your life rather than an obstacle.
Fourth, build a support system
Build a healthy support system with friends and family, share difficulties and challenges, and seek support and advice.
Their support and understanding can help you cope better with stress and provide emotional support.
Fifth, develop problem-solving skills
Learn to develop appropriate solutions to problems and challenges.
Look for problem-solving strategies and techniques, think about multiple possibilities, and take positive action to solve the problem.
Sixth, learn from Xi and learn from failure
Think of failure as an opportunity to learn Xi, not a blow.
Develop the ability to resist difficulties and setbacks in failure, analyze the reasons for failure, learn from it, and use it as a motivation for improvement, accept failure as part of growth and progress,
05 Summary
In the face of difficulties, challenges or trauma, it can help us recover quickly and maintain a positive mindset, improve our resilience and self-regulation.
People who have experienced trauma or difficulties, people who work hard or in a competitive environment, and people who are sensitive and fragile need to be nurtured and possessed in order to maintain a positive mindset in an intense and complex environment.
Methods for developing blunt sensibility, including:
(1) Rational attribution, (2) self-focus, (3) Positive mindset, (4) Support system, (5) Problem-solving skills, and (6) Learning from failure.
May you no longer be sensitive and be able to deal with all the bad things in your life.