In this era of rapid pace, many young couples are facing a lot of pressure from work. As a dual-income family, they need to travel around their busy workplaces every day, juggling various official duties and projects.
When you come home after work, you have to take care of your children and complete your housework, which can be said to be exhausting.
As a result, many young parents do not have enough energy to pay attention to their children's needs. As a result, some parents of the older generation took the initiative to take care of their children and took on the responsibility of helping to take care of their children.
This undoubtedly greatly reduces the burden on young couples, allowing them to focus more on their work, and at the same time making life more fun for the elderly.
We want to fully recognize the kindness of the elderly, because it comes from their love for their children and grandchildren. However, we should also be aware that after all, the older generation of parents grew up in different generations, and there are still some differences between their educational philosophy and the requirements of modern society.
If the elderly are allowed to take care of their children completely according to their own Xi and experience, it may have a negative impact on the healthy development of the child.
Therefore, while the elderly take on the responsibility of taking care of their grandchildren, it is necessary for the children, as parents, to put forward appropriate requirements and guidance for the elderly, so as to ensure that the way the elderly take care of the baby is in line with modern parenting knowledge and will not affect the physical and mental health of the children.
Only in this way can the elderly with their babies play the greatest role of help, so that all parties can achieve happiness.
Xiao Zhang and his wife can be described as a typical working couple. The two of them are busy with high-pressure work every day, and often need to work overtime to deal with projects. After the birth of a child, the burden of caring for the child is added to them.
As a result, the child's grandmother volunteered to come over every day to help take care of the child, so that Xiao Zhang and his wife could finally focus on their work and feel relaxed.
At first, Xiao Zhang and his wife were very relieved that their grandmother would help take care of their grandson. Grandma loves her grandson so much and has rich parenting experience, so they feel that it is most suitable for their children to be taken care of by grandma.
However, after a while, Xiao Zhang began to notice that his grandmother had some problems in taking care of the children, which made him feel a little worried.
For example, grandmothers often put their children's food in their mouths and chew it before feeding it to their children. For another example, the grandmother forced the child to eat a few more bites when the child was already full.
In addition, in not very cold weather, the grandmother will also dress the child a lot. Zhang realized that these Xi could be harmful to his child's health.
But I struggled to explain these problems directly to my grandmother, for fear that she would feel that she was questioning her and feel sad.
These wrong ways of bringing up the baby made Xiao Zhang and his wife feel troublesome. They painfully realized that for the sake of their children's physical and mental health, they still need to communicate with their grandmother about this problem, correct her some outdated parenting methods, and not allow the problem to continue just because they are afraid of saving face.
Faced with grandma's problems in bringing up a baby, Xiao Zhang and his wife were in a predicament. They understand that these problems, if not corrected, can jeopardize their grandchildren's health.
But pointing out these wrong practices directly, with a bad grasp of attitude, may cause disgust in grandma and ruin the relationship with her.
Zhang worries that speaking out about her grandmother's mistakes will make her feel sad and angry that she is questioning her years of parenting experience. This made Xiao Zhang hesitate how to speak.
Later, Xiao Zhang discussed the matter with her husband, who said that he should still have the courage to communicate this issue with his grandmother in an appropriate way.
So Xiao Zhang carefully organized the wording and decided to find a moment to talk to his grandmother in a harmonious atmosphere. She first expressed her heart-wrenching gratitude to her grandmother for taking care of the child, then lightly raised some of the problems she had observed, and finally sincerely asked her grandmother for better advice.
Grandma was a little surprised at first, but through Xiao Zhang's gentle attitude, she realized that this was indeed for her grandson's good. In the end, the grandmother said that she would correct some of her outdated parenting methods, and she also welcomed Xiao Zhang's more reasonable suggestions.
Through this intelligent communication, Xiao Zhang successfully corrected some of his grandmother's wrong ways of bringing up the baby, while avoiding hurting her feelings. This enabled Xiao Zhang to learn valuable experience in properly handling the problem of the elderly with their babies.
In the face of some problems that may arise in the process of bringing the baby to the elderly, we must learn to understand and actively guide, not simply criticize and blame.
First of all, it is necessary to understand the kindness of the elderly, who just want to do their part to help their busy children take care of the children. But at the same time, it is also important to recognize that some of the methods of the elderly may be outdated and not in line with modern parenting concepts, so they need to be corrected in time.
When you find a problem, you should maintain a friendly attitude, first affirm the elderly's intentions, and then give constructive suggestions step by step. For example, it can provide some scientific parenting knowledge, or suggest more reasonable practices, rather than directly denying the elderly.
If the elderly are not skilled enough in operation, they can be patiently taught.
Choose the right time and method to communicate, first express gratitude, and then use "I observe...... This may be ......" and finally ask the elderly for advice and discuss solutions together.
Don't hurt your self-esteem by saying "you're like this" in front of the elderly.
If the problem cannot be solved through communication, you can appropriately reduce the time of the elderly with the baby and increase the time of themselves or finding a nanny to take care of them, which will not only avoid the problem, but will not lead to the deterioration of the relationship.
Only by understanding the inner thoughts of the elderly and putting yourself in their shoes can we resolve problems without contradictions. Dealing with this matter well shows wisdom and makes family relations more harmonious.
The existence of the problem of the elderly with babies reminds us to have a correct understanding of this phenomenon. We must understand the good intentions of the elderly, and also see their possible shortcomings in the way they bring up the baby.
The key is how to deal with such problems so that everyone can be understood and happy.
First of all, children should patiently listen to the ideas of the elderly with their babies and maintain good communication with the elderly. Put yourself in the shoes of the elderly and understand their heart's desires. At the same time, it is also necessary to resolutely put the health of the child first and stop mistakes in time.
It is also necessary to take the initiative to explain modern parenting knowledge to the elderly, so that they can consciously improve.
Secondly, the elderly should also take the initiative to learn Xi modern parenting concepts and master scientific knowledge. If you feel that your child's request is excessive, you can calmly reflect your opinion and discuss solutions together.
Do not quarrel with your children, let alone hurt them.
Finally, the communication and understanding between the elderly and their children is the key to resolving the problem. As long as both parties think about the child, respect each other, and discuss rationally, a win-win solution will definitely be found.
If properly handled, this kind of problem can promote the further improvement of ethical relations in the family.