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My name is Xiao Wang, I am 25 years old this year, and I am an ordinary white-collar worker. My cousin Xiao Zhang is three years older than me and works in a state-owned enterprise. In the past, my cousin was more traditional and conservative, and his thinking was relatively old. But when I went home for the Spring Festival this year and saw my cousin's family, I found that they had changed a lot, which was an eye-opener for me.
My sister-in-law, Anan, is from our local city, two years younger than my cousin, and is a traditional housewife. In addition to taking care of housework, he usually accompanies his niece to learn Xi. My sister-in-law is also more introverted, except for occasionally going out for tea with a few regular friends, she basically doesn't participate in other entertainment activities. She also often said that young people are too good at enjoying it now, and they don't learn anything.
I remember the last time I went home and saw my cousin and sister-in-law, I felt that they didn't have a smile on their faces, and they looked like they were living with a load. At that time, I also joked: "Cousin, you seem to be under a lot of pressure, do you have any problems at work? Do you want me to help you analyze and analyze?"
The cousin shook his head and said, "No, it's just regular work, no big problem." It's just that I'm at this age, and my body is always like this, and I'm just a little tired. ”
I laughed at him and said, "Cousin, you are only 28 years old, you are in the prime of life, how can you talk like an old man?
My cousin didn't speak, just waved his hand, still without a smile on his face.
But when I came home and saw them this time, I was surprised to find that my cousin and sister-in-law had become much more optimistic and cheerful, and their faces were always full of smiles. Even my niece, Xiaofang, has become lively and cute, and often jokes and chats with me. It was so different from what I remembered as a family of three, and I couldn't help but wonder what had happened in a year that made them all like this.
Xiaofang was also very active, chattering to me about what she had seen at school. She said she recently joined a dance club and made many new friends. After school, she would go to the park with her friends to play, and her life became colorful.
I was dumbfounded, and hurriedly asked my cousin, "Cousin, why did you agree to Xiaofang joining the dance group?
My cousin smiled and said, "yes, I used to think it was a waste of time. But now that I can see it, it's good to let the child grow more knowledgeable and cultivate different interests. The most important thing is that she is happy. ”
I was even more shocked: "Cousin, why have you changed like this? The tone of your voice is completely different from before!"
My cousin smiled mysteriously at me and didn't answer directly.
I looked at my cousin and sister-in-law, and they had happy smiles on their faces.
"Eh, cousin, you've changed a lot! I remember that you used to hate such meaningless activities as visiting the park. Why are you having fun with it now?" I asked jokingly.
My sister-in-law smiled and said, "I've changed my mind too." I feel that life should not be so restrictive, and it is also important to relax appropriately. Going out for a walk with your child is also good for her growth. ”
I was so surprised that I couldn't keep my mouth shut: "I really can't understand it!
My cousin laughed, "We just learned to keep up with the times." You also have to change your traditional thinking and don't be bound by old ideas. ”
I'm still confused. That night, after the Chinese New Year's Eve dinner, I took my cousin to the balcony to chat, trying to figure out the reason for their change.
"Cousin, to be honest, what the hell happened to you? I was really surprised that you were all different. I asked, suspicious.
He babbled on and on about the changes in his work. It turns out that his state-owned enterprise has recently implemented some new policies and has begun to promote work-life balance, rather than just burying one's head in work and ignoring the quality of life. So my cousin slowly changed his mindset and no longer struggled, but learned to find a balance between work and life.
When I heard this, I was shocked: "What? This is not like your style! Aren't you all bent on work and working hard for your family?"
My cousin said slowly: "I have only recently realized how boring the life of hard work used to be. Repeating the same work every day, returning home and continuing to work, my life was occupied by work. I felt like a machine, without a mind of my own, just instinctively working, working, and working again. ”
I nodded, "Well, it's true, that's what I used to see you, never thinking about recreation or exercise. ”
"That's right. My cousin sighed, "I realized later that lifestyle was not only boring, but also very unhealthy. My body and mind were functioning at their worst, and my quality of life was close to zero. ”
I was surprised and asked, "Then why did you suddenly have such an understanding, and you moved the whole family together?"
My cousin said: "Actually, it is the new spirit that the company has recently promoted, which encourages us to have a work-life balance. I read some books about it, and it dawned on me that we shouldn't be running around all day for work. So now I switch my body and mind after work and do more meaningful things with my family. ”
I'm still surprised: "Wow, that's a big change." You know, you used to look down on those who didn't work hard and only had fun. ”
My cousin laughed: "I also realized that it was my misconception." Reasonable recreation and relaxation are important for physical and mental health. I have now learned to manage my time wisely and work more efficiently. ”
I finally understood my cousin's change, and I couldn't help but sigh: "Cousin, it seems that you have experienced a real conceptual revolution." This will have a profound impact on your life and that of your family. ”
My cousin nodded: "Yes, I think my life is more balanced now, and everyone is active." I will no longer be affected by the exhaustion of work. This transformation was one of the best choices of my life. ”
I asked, "Has your attitude towards work changed?"
My cousin said, "I still have to do my best to do my job, but I don't sacrifice my health and life anymore." I leave work on time and get enough sleep and exercise. So it's more efficient. ”
I said in admiration, "Cousin, you taught me a lesson. I also want to reflect on my own state of life. The quality of life should not be hijacked by work. ”
My cousin smiled and patted me on the shoulder: "You are still young, you should be more lively and try a different life." Don't get caught up in old ideas. ”
This Spring Festival, my cousin's family gave me a lot of inspiration. I want to thank them for making a huge difference in my perception.
"Uncle, do you know? I can move freely with my classmates now between classes, and I feel very happy without the teacher watching!" Xiaofang said.
I smiled and asked, "Really? When I used to go to school, the teacher would supervise me during recess, so I couldn't just run around." ”
Xiaofang nodded and said, "Now the school is different, they say let's make more friends and cultivate independence." I can go to the playground with my friends to play games between classes, and I feel so much freer!"
I was surprised and said, "Your school has changed a lot." But you little girl, be safe. ”
Xiao Fang pouted: "Uncle, you are too conservative." This is not the past, and of course the school should evolve with the times and give us more autonomy. You're too far behind in that thinking!"
I was a little embarrassed to listen to it, and being preached by a little girl really made me reflect on whether my own ideas were outdated.
"Well, maybe my uncle's idea is more traditional. But Xiaofang, you also have to pay attention to proportion, don't mess around because of freedom. I advised.
"I know, uncle, I've grown up, don't treat me like a child all the time. Xiao Fang said coquettishly.
At this time, my cousin and sister-in-law came back, and I couldn't help but mention it to my cousin.
"Eh, cousin, I found that the idea of school education has changed a lot now, we used to be supervised by the teacher during recess, why can they move freely now Xiaofang?" I asked.
My cousin smiled and said, "Yes, now the educational concept is more open, and the students' autonomy is valued. However, the parents were worried at first, but the school made good arrangements, so they slowly accepted it. ”
I nodded: "Indeed, in the past, education was too strict, which was not conducive to children's physical and mental development. Now it's good to give them the right amount of freedom and develop their independence. ”
The sister-in-law interjected: "Yes, we don't want to restrict Xiaofang, her happiness is the most important thing." As long as she's safe, we'll let her explore the world. ”
I sighed again that my cousin and sister-in-law's educational philosophy has become so enlightened, and they are the same as before.
When I went home this time, I realized that many of my ideas were outdated and I needed to keep up with the times. The changes in my cousin's family have had a profound impact on me, and I would like to thank them for opening my eyes and allowing me to see a different side of life.
"Cousin, I really benefited a lot from coming back this time. The changes you and your family have made me reflect on many of my own concepts. I said sincerely.
My cousin smiled and patted me on the shoulder: "Haha, we're just keeping up with the times." You are still young, you need to be open-minded and don't be limited by outdated ideas. ”
I nodded, "I'm really going to change myself." I used to just work hard, but now it seems that there are many other good things in life. ”
My cousin said, "Yes, work is important, but it can't be the whole of life. Learn to find a balance between work and life so that life will be more fulfilling. ”
"I see, cousin. I said solemnly, "You have given me a good inspiration when I come back this time. I will definitely change myself and no longer be kidnapped by my work. ”
My cousin smiled and said, "I'm glad to be helpful to you." We just want to live life to the fullest. You also have to live happily. ”
At this time, my sister-in-law also came over and said with a smile: "Xiao Wang, you also have to go out to see the world more and experience a different life." Don't keep your head down at work, you're still so young. ”
I was a little embarrassed and said, "Sister-in-law, you're right. I should go out and learn more about Xi and broaden my horizons. It's really rewarding to see you all this time. ”
"Haha, we're also Xi. The sister-in-law said, "Society is changing too fast now, and we must change with it to keep up with the times." ”
"Yes, I also have to learn to change myself and keep an open mind. I said.
Xiao Fang interjected on the side and said, "Uncle, you should also be lively and participate in more interest activities like me." I think you're always working silently by yourself, and it's too boring, right?"
I smiled and nodded: "Xiaofang is right, I should also learn from you, participate in more interest groups, and meet different people." It's also a Xi for me. ”
"Yes, yes, I said uncle, you are too homely, you should go out to play more!" Xiao Fang said happily.
I couldn't help but smile as I looked at this happy family. Indeed, I should change myself and live a little more abundantly, not just at work.
At the gate of the station, I hugged my cousin and sister-in-law one by one, and said sincerely: "Cousin, sister-in-law, I will keep in mind the inspiration you have given me, live a good life from now on, and no longer be kidnapped by work to improve the quality of life." I learned a lot from going home this time. ”
My cousin smiled and patted me on the shoulder: "Live well, we are happy to help you." You have to be happy, too. ”
"Uncle, remember to participate in more interest groups, and find a beautiful girl to marry early!" Xiao Fang said mischievously.
I smiled and nodded, hugged them one last time, and stepped on the return train.
Sitting on the train, I looked out the window at the retreating scenery, and my heart was full of emotion. When I came home for the Spring Festival, my cousin's family touched me tremendously, and I realized that I had to change.
In the past, I was like my cousin's family in the past, kidnapped by the pressure of work and life, and was neither happy nor healthy. Now my cousin's life has changed inspiring me, and I want to learn to keep up with the times and live a more colorful life.
Seeing the changes in my cousin's family this time also made me understand a truth, that is, people are not static. When the external environment changes, we must also take the initiative to make changes in order to live a better life.
I decided that when I went back, I would adjust my work and life as well. You can no longer let work take over the whole of your life, you must learn to find a balance between the two. I also want to develop some hobbies, meet more friends, and enrich my life. Like my cousin said, reasonable recreation and relaxation are important for physical and mental health.
This Spring Festival is indeed a memorable festival. My cousin's family has taught me an important lesson in my life that I will take to heart and change myself to live a richer and more fulfilling life.
"What? Xiao Zhang, that guy has also learned to enjoy life?" Old classmate Ah Ming exclaimed, "I still remember that he was super homely when he was in college, and he knew how to study Xi all day long, and now he can actually play?"
"yes, I was surprised too. "But it's also a testament to how people change, and we shouldn't rest on our laurels, but be aggressive." ”
"You're right!" Amin said, "We should also learn from your cousin and change ourselves, life can't be occupied by work!"
"I support it!" Xiao Liu also said, "Otherwise, we won't be single all the time, hahaha!"
I smiled and nodded: "My feeling now is that there are still many beautiful things in life waiting for us to explore! Let's work together!"
"Go explore!" Partners raised their glasses and toasted to our new outlook on life.
After returning to the company, I also took the initiative to adjust my work status, no longer working overtime until late, and after work, I began to sign up for some interest classes, such as guitar lessons, calligraphy classes, etc., and made a lot of friends in different circles. Life has become so much richer, and I feel very gratified.
One day, my cousin called and was concerned about my current situation. I excitedly told him that he had changed a lot and that his life was very fulfilling.
"Haha, it seems that our changes have really affected you a lot. My cousin said with a smile.
"Yes, thanks to your inspiration, I'm happy right now. I said.
"Enjoy life and remember to keep up with the times. "My cousin encouraged