Zhang Songwen said that if you raise phalaenopsis orchids, don't water him all the time, don't care too much, many plants are not dry to death, but waterlogged to death after too much watering
In fact, raising children is the same, parents are too concerned, life is afraid that he will not be fed and clothed, and Xi makes a little mistake to establish rules, these are two extremes
If you care too much about your children in life, it is easy to grow up as a giant baby who doesn't even have common sense in life. For example, the prodigy Wei Yongkang, who completed the junior high school course at the age of 4 and was admitted to the Chinese Academy of Sciences at the age of 17, such a "genius", but because his parents were too precious, he was persuaded to quit when he was about to get a master's degree
Wei Yongkang still had to be fed by his mother when he reached high school, he still wore short sleeves in summer in winter, and the dormitory hygiene never smelled bad, and he didn't even know what to prepare for the final exam
In the end, he was persuaded to quit by the school, and when love became doting, like a flood of water accumulated in a phalaenopsis pot, the final result was to destroy a child
Some parents have gone to the other extreme, that is, to be strict with the wolf father
For example, Guo Degang, in the cultivation of Guo Qilin's Xi, is too harsh, and it is easy to cause a shadow to the child
Guo Qilin loved to eat meat and not vegetables when he was a child, and Guo Degang drove Guo Qilin to eat at the stairs in front of a group of apprentices and did not let him serve on the table
This has caused a big shadow to Guo Qilin, even if he can understand his father's approach when he grows up, he still feels terrible, there are so many father's apprentices in the family, and he is also a brother and friend, why does the father not consider the child is also to save face
Besides, Guo Degang is a reorganized family, no matter how good Wang Hui is, in the hearts of children, they are all separated by a layer, and sensitive children are easy to think about deviations, Guo Degang's doing this will undoubtedly make the children's hearts even heavier
Guo Degang believes that if the child is managed well at home, the child will not be beaten by the society when he goes out of society
Although the words are good, it also depends on what kind of family environment you create for your child, if it is a normal family, how to discipline the parents, the child will forget when he cries
But it is taboo for children of divorced and reorganized families to be criticized in public when they make mistakes, and many small questions blocked in his heart He didn't dare to ask Yan's father after crying, let alone his stepmother, and he was afraid that his mother would be worried when he asked his own mother
Accumulated all year round, if these small doubts are resolved in time, the child may immediately pass the rain and the sky will be clear. If you don't get enlightenment for a long time, the child will be pressed in his heart, and the more he thinks about it, the more crooked it becomes, it is easy to cause big problems
Fortunately, Guo Qilin is a good seed, and he did not grow crooked after a long time, Yue Yunpeng once said that they have a large group of apprentices, who live in the master's house all the year round, if they meet not Guo Qilin, it is any other person, they will not have such a good time
Ni Hongjie also said that Guo Qilin is modest and polite, not arrogant or impatient, and hopes that he will get better and better. When she said these words, Ni Hongjie's eyes were full of envy for Guo Degang for having such a good son
Therefore, the phrase "giving birth to a child should be like Guo Qilin" is not false, but Guo Qilin also said that his father's approach is to put it on him, and it will not work on anyone else
So how many children like Guo Qilin are there? Prodigies can fall, and raising children must not go to extremes