This is the coolest and most subversive story of the reality Shuangwen heroine I've seen this year!
Speaking of Liang Jiaoying, everyone may be very unfamiliar with this name, but when you see her face, you will recall that she is the "East Asian daughter" herself who swept up major video platforms a while ago.
Liang Jiaoying invited her mother to the show, and confidently showed her mother at the beginning that her dark-skinned appearance is very popular abroad, including her outfits.
Mom's first reaction was not appreciation, but a face full of disbelief, and questioned, are you still a beauty?
Next, as if he was afraid that he would not be able to destroy his daughter's self-confidence, he mended the knife one after another, and verified his opinion with a disdainful tone and a mocking smile.
Liang Jiaoying still wants to be recognized and praised by her mother, she doesn't understand why she is always imperfect in her mother's eyes.
Mom began to snipe accurately, saying that she had been a little black chick since she was a child, a clown girl.
Liang Jiaoying said that plump lips are very popular in the United States, and she is also described by her mother as a "pig archmouth".
This dialogue has broken the defenses of countless children who have grown up under the repressive family education.
In the end, Liang Jiaoying could only say that she wanted to cry in a weak way, and fanned her tears with a little exaggerated to end this conversation.
But Yang today does not want to say how backward the repressive education is, but wants more people to see that Liang Jiaoying, who was born in such an educational environment, has completely subverted the original life trajectory with her own efforts.
She went from rural Henan to Hollywood, and became a popular reality version of the heroine of Shuangwen by major bloggers and fashion magazines.
How the hell did she do it?
Source: @西直门外美丽传说
Step by step, send yourself to make your debut
From a rural girl to a shared agent with idols
In the environment where she grew up as a child, not only Liang Jiaoying's mother loved to suppress her with a mocking tone, but even her friends always loved to tease her with her skin tone.
Classmates will make fun of her when they see her wearing pink, but she has not been a person who is easy to PUA since she was a child, and she likes to attract others with a strong posture.
She wasn't thinking about how to change her skin tone to the fair skin that everyone likes, she made the change to become a better achiever.
In Liang Jiaoying's original words, "As long as I am the first, others will naturally want to be friends with me." ”
Liang Jiaoying's original dream of being an actress came from film and television works, when her cousin opened a video store, from which she received the influence of foreign aesthetics.
She saw the appearance of black actress Halle Berry, and thought that she was dark-skinned and had thick lips, and if she could be like this, then I was also dark-skinned, and my image was also a kind of beauty.
Halle Berry
Her dream of becoming an actress was really not a whim, she began to pave the way for herself, and the first step was to study abroad.
Liang Jiaoying's mother had no one around her to go abroad, and she directly denied her daughter's idea according to her life experience.
Seeing that his daughter did not give up, he gave an almost impossible "bet contract": if he could raise the cost of studying abroad for a year in two days, he would promise her to go to the United States.
Liang Jiaoying is a person who is becoming more and more frustrated, and seeing that her mother has the intention of relenting, she went directly to borrow money from her classmate father, who works in real estate.
She went straight to the point and said the amount and purpose of the loan, "I want to study in the United States, I need 120,000, I will worship your daughter as a sister, and I will not let her be bullied for the rest of my life." ”
As a result, the classmate's father found someone to tell his fortune and found that Liang Jiaoying was very prosperous with his daughter, so he promised to lend her money to study abroad, and called Liang Jiaoying's mother to say that he would pay for it.
Liang Jiaoying's mother said that it was a joke, there was no need to transfer money, she would let her daughter go to study abroad.
When she was in her junior year abroad, her mother's factory had problems and she couldn't even afford the tuition, so Liang Jiaoying worked six jobs at the same time to save up tuition and living expenses.
She has worked as a nurse to change diapers for the elderly, a cleaner to clean toilets, a tutor and a waiter...
During this period, he was instigated by a white friend and participated in a beauty contest, and unexpectedly won the title of Miss China.
Her journey to study abroad is so bumpy and twists and turns, although the sprout of being an actor has not been watered, it is still well preserved in the deepest part of her heart.
Her dream of being an actor can be described as "saving the country with curves".
She saw the heroine of "The Sound of Music" in the poster of the public welfare activity, so she first went to the public welfare organization to volunteer.
When she saw the heroine of "The Sound of Music" talking to a non-profit organization about the Chinese project, she would take the initiative to ask if she needed a Chinese translator.
Later, she became a translator, and her ability was gradually recognized by the leadership, and she said what she really thought, she wanted to be an actress.
Then the boss of the agency helped her find Halle Berry's agent.
Who would have thought that the "little black girl" who pointed to Halle Berry on TV many years ago and said that she was as beautiful as her would now be able to share an agent with her idol.
At the same time, she donated more than $2 million of medical equipment to her hometown in Henan Province through this non-profit organization to help many uremia patients who could not do dialysis.
And this move, for the first time, made her mother, who had been suppressing and belittling her, praise her endlessly, and admire her daughter from the bottom of her heart.
Some people may think that she relied on luck when they saw these experiences, whether it was her classmate's father, who was willing to lend her money, or the owner of a non-profit organization who introduced her to Halle Berry's agent.
Although all successful people are inseparable from the favor of good luck, what is more important is that Liang Jiaoying herself has the ability to solve problems when encountering difficulties in life.
The rule of success to become the heroine of Shuangwen
Rely on luck, but also rely on hard power
Look at Liang Jiaoying's existing aura.
Her current talk show has been sold out, and she is the only actor to release a comedy album on NBC in just two years in the industry.
She was inducted into last year's Asian Hall of Fame and was the Chinese-American artist who premiered at the Apollo Theatre, where big stars of Madonna and Michael Jackson have performed.
She was inducted into the 2022 Asian Hall of Fame
The second row is second to the left
The BBC says she's a game-changer for comedy in Hollywood, and Harvard University invited her for an in-depth interview...
Behind such a glamorous and beautiful scene, it is naturally difficult, but she is not the heroine who has already been written and turned over and opened a golden finger.
When she insisted on marrying a Shanghai man 20 years older than her, despite the advice of relatives and friends, her life went off the rails for the first time.
Liang Jiaoying and her ex-husband met at a film festival, and they got married after a year of acquaintance, and he showed a considerate and careful side before marriage.
As soon as she got married, she stopped pretending, and after giving birth, she didn't let Liang Jiaoying work, and when she saw her on the show, she would turn off the TV directly.
Liang Jiaoying knows very well the psychology of her ex-husband, she just wants to bring a strong woman into the marriage, and then make her strong to support the family, but not just for herself.
She didn't want to be a person who pretended to sleep in her marriage, so it only took three days and resolutely chose to divorce.
The ex-husband came up with obscene means to force the other party to return to China to fight a lawsuit when Liang Jiaoying signed a work contract.
This led to her taking out a loan of 800,000 yuan in desperation, and her ex-husband thought that she would definitely choose to return to the family again.
He didn't expect Liang Jiaoying to be really tough, and he would rather take out a loan than return to the past.
The cost of this departure was a lot of manpower and energy, and at that time she had to earn at least $40,000 a month to be able to pay off her loans, maintain a stable life, and support her two children.
She was so anxious to walk around the room for the box office of the show, during which she sold jewelry and went to various places to perform in succession.
Even the agent can't stand it anymore and says that if you only sleep three hours a day and work at a high intensity, you will get sick.
She didn't have too much pretentiousness, just said one word, and said it when she was sick.
She has a very clear plan for the direction of her life, so she does not allow people who hurt her to occupy her life.
There had been moments when she was consumed by negative emotions, but she could at least discern what was more important at the moment.
At that time, a word from her friend could wake her up, if you hate someone, it is to let him live in your heart for free without paying rent.
She thought about it, I picked it like this, that wouldn't work.
In this way, she bravely relied on talk show performances to create a world of her own in Hollywood.
She turned the misery of life into laughing material during the performance.
When she stood on the American stage as a yellow person and said a talk show and was very successful, it was inevitable that some whites and blacks would be jealous.
She said, "You Americans don't have to hate us, we Asians hate ourselves the most, and you don't hate yourself as much as we do." ”
Her mother loves to say that she is a pig, and after she took her to the United States, she also began to Xi learn English, she laughed and said, "My mother is learning English now, and she can scold me in both Chinese and English in the future." ”
All along, the main factor in her success has been to have a big woman mentality.
In the face of suppression, she is a spring mentality, and she will be pressed stronger and stronger, and she uses her strength to prove that her mother's statement is wrong.
In the face of many ridicule and doubts, she felt that as long as she showed her true strength, these voices would naturally disperse.
What Yang admires most about her is her "bet" with herself, she would rather take out a loan to live the life she wants, and firmly believe that she will get ahead, her approach is very similar to Zhan Qingyun.
Zhan Qingyun took out a loan of 1 million and then went abroad to study, and finally returned from his studies, and now he has earned several millions.
This kind of leverage success method is very suitable for people with strong hearts, even if she was divorced and had two babies at the time, she did not have too much psychological burden, and only thought about how to achieve her goals.
She has a very strong initiative in life, and in the interview, she said that every time she breaks up, she takes the initiative to mention it, and she will not let the wrong person delay the pace of progress at all.
It is said that brave people enjoy the world first, and Liang Jiaoying verified this with her personal experience.
To sum up, don't be mentally forced, focus on a big heart + goal orientation.
Liang Jiaoying in a red dress in rural Henan
Therefore, Liang Jiaoying's story is to tell all girls, don't be afraid of falling, as long as you have the ability to stand up, you will naturally go to your destination.
Even if you take a detour to Rome, you will eventually arrive and continue to play with the world with great interest, all the while walking on the road full of flowers.