Wan Yan Huide seems to have something, but not much

Text: Thirteen sisters

Let's talk about Yan Huide, there may be people who don't know who she is.

Teacher Wanyan Huide's own title to the outside world is: "National Second-level Psychological Counselor, Graduate of the Department of Psychology of Peking University, and Promoter of Family Education".

The majority of netizens define her as: "a professional household with Internet memes, a Xi of Loulan language".

This year, she did create a lot of stalks for netizens, such as what enemy friend (the antonym of girlfriend), iphone (keep to yourself), long li (ethics), gong out (get out), dou book anthropomorphism is the most beautiful (reading women are the most beautiful)...... Her unique accent, her mysterious realm of thought, and her courage to integrate into the Internet and dance with young people have created a unique Wanyan Huide.

A few days ago, her personal biography video came out, telling about her unbearable growth experience, coupled with the positive energy of self-improvement, which suddenly changed Wanyan Huide from "a joke" to "a role model", and countless netizens who played with her shouted "owe her an apology".

I believe that Ms. Wanyan Huide's "hedging packaging" is a success - you laugh at others, they have touching biographies that make you feel distressed and ashamed, you sympathize and admire others, and she has a big joke to confuse you.

Open the bow left and right, there is always a Wanyan Huide suitable for you.

Do you believe it, the first time I knew about Yan Huide, it was actually a recommendation from the thirteenth brother-in-law. He sent me a video at the time, and he just said, "Look at people." ”

Quite meaningful. I don't know what he meant by this, but obviously, he thinks I'm not as good as Yan Huide, and what is inferior, let me taste it myself.

Later, the more I tasted, the more I tasted, sure enough, the women that my husband paid attention to were not fuel-efficient lamps, Wanyan Huide teacher suddenly emerged, more and more popular, so red that even my dad knew, last week my dad read my article, while saying to me: "Hahaha I laughed and hugged (laughed)".

There's a term in psychology called "novelty preference." Most people will be attracted to this preference when they see two kinds of women, one is particularly angry, and the other is Wanyan Huide.

Generally, when everyone thinks of people who claim to be "psychological experts", they probably have such a similar image and level in their hearts, and generally everyone sees Wanyan Huide's state and conversation, and they will not associate her with any psychological experts.

So she's a novelty. Her attraction lies in the fact that she will give you some "psychological explanations" in a language that you can barely understand.

If summarized, it can be said that the constituent elements of Wanyan Huide's so-called "popularization of psychological knowledge" are:

5 cents special effects + 5 cents of chicken soup + 5 cents of golden sentences.

You want to take a small notebook to write down some dry goods, but you don't.

Now everyone is discussing whether to finish using Teacher Yan Huide to "play stalks", and said that "excessive stalk will ignore her serious matter of spreading psychological knowledge".

It's definitely not good to play too much, but it's hard to say whether she has disseminated psychological knowledge.

In fact, as long as you listen carefully to her psychology videos and some online "Q&A", you will find that this is not so much like "psychology popularization", but more like small talk, outputting opinions, coming up with ideas, and even "making bad ideas".

At the same time, if you think that her thinking logic is not chaotic and her knowledge reserve is not small, it means that you are very tolerant.

As for her emotional ability and self-control, I don't think she is very high in the profession of psychological counselor. If I meet such a so-called "psychological counselor" in reality, not to mention the professional level, I am afraid that I will laugh at even the basic communication.

Her ability to decompress is completely stronger than her professional ability in psychological counseling.

This is actually worth everyone's attention, there are some pseudo-psychologists on the Internet who fool people in the name of "psychological experts", and some of their very unprofessional behaviors are easy to identify.

For example, Wan Yan Huide often gives her own suggestions to visitors on the spot when they are connected to consult.

A serious counselor is not and is not allowed to give advice to the client, nor can he add personal thoughts and opinions, let alone help the client make decisions. If you do this, you must not be a qualified consultant, at most you can be regarded as a "netizen who is good for you".

Also, Wan Yan Huide will be in a very long-term online consultation, and after listening to a superficial incident in a hurry, she will be in a hurry to draw conclusions.

Good psychological counseling should not be superficial, but should explore the deep emotions behind it and find the analysis point, so as to truly understand the essence of the matter and help the counselor straighten out the relationship. It is ridiculous to draw conclusions without going into a deep conversation.

On the other hand, there is a big taboo in psychological counseling called "empathy", a good trained counselor is good at self-control, and people who are prone to empathy are the first and foremost clients. But in Teacher Wanyan's live broadcast, I found that she often empathized first, she substituted the other party's story, she blamed one party in the relationship, and she said that she was "angry"...... This is psychological counseling, this is the village committee's nagging.

There is also extremely unprofessional labeling. Wan Yan Huide claims to have graduated from Peking University with a bachelor's degree in psychology, and I believe that anyone who has studied psychology systematically will not label a certain group of people from a psychological perspective, such as LGBT people (sexual minorities).

If you have learned about "evolutionary psychology", "supermutation theory", or have seen some empirical research, you will not openly say "anthropomorphism and anthropomorphism, taking people and taking people, perverted horizontally!" (women marry women, men marry men, perverted)"

In addition to that, a lot of what she talks about is hollow, huge, and floating.

The way she "admonishes" or "persuades" others is not to explain, but to inform.

For example, she said, "Don't complain, complaining has no positive emotions, keep thanking the people around you, blablabla......"

After listening to it for a long time, I felt that it was a bit like something in positive psychology, but it wasn't quite like it. Seligman and his old man have to thank three people every night before going to bed, and when no one is thankful, he is grateful that the oven did not explode today, like a nervous disorder.

But there are a lot of basic theories and logic that need to be understood in positive psychology, as well as empirical research, and if you don't understand these things, people feel like a psychopath.

Wanyan Huide can't make people pause, at most she can make people remember the conclusion, she is like a Xinhua dictionary, telling you this or that, so not only do you feel that you may be a neurotic to do what she says, but you will also feel that she is not normal......

又比如她讲"不要犹豫不决,要果断,blablabla......"

It doesn't sound like psychology, it's like success. I have seen the masters of success before, shouting on the stage to make a decision, don't hesitate, hesitation is the enemy of nature, procrastination is evil!

If you listen to it again, the evil spirit is gone, and it feels like you have entered a cult.

Of course, these "chicken soups" are not necessarily useless, maybe they are people's life perceptions, so she calls herself "Perception Psychology Wanyan Huide".

Speaking of which, I would like to say that this is the first time I have heard of "perceptual psychology", and I looked it up and said that it is "a spiritual experience through my own perception of life". To put it this way, the thirteenth brother-in-law is also a master of perceptual psychology, he feels all day long, and said last night that "if this toilet seat is not hot, it will be even colder in winter."

Well, just like there are two sides to a story, people should also have multiple sides to interpret.

I prefer to get to know Wan Yan Huide from another side, such as her struggle with fate.

As a woman who lost her father's love and mother's love since she was a child in a remote mountainous area, she walked out of the isolation step by step, refused to admit defeat and did not accept fate, and was admitted to university by her own efforts, and overcame many limitations, and seemed clumsy and hard to integrate into the mainstream network......

These backgrounds and experiences alone are enough to influence many people.

Judging from the current video and connection, she is not a good psychologist or counselor, but she is a good influencer of the times.

In fact, this generation of people surfing the Internet to watch videos or live broadcasts is already a way to relax and relax, I believe that people who really want to learn knowledge will not be in Wanyan Huide's live broadcast room, and they want to listen to a very interesting way of speaking to tell serious knowledge, this year from her to be poked laughter, there must be a lot of people who are relaxed and happy, you should thank her for the happiness she brings, and don't make ridicule and personal attacks.

I quite support Wan Yan Huide to continue to be a positive energy blogger, tell more of her own story, tell a woman's hardships every step, popularize how the indomitable will is made to more people with similar fates, and let more people pay attention to the situation of children in remote areas, especially girls......

To put it bluntly, as long as you are willing to break away from the framework of "psychology", Teacher Wanyan himself is a treasure book, and there is a lot of room for play.

As Wanyan Huide himself said: "You hold your hands tightly, there is nothing, you let go of your hands, and you have the whole world." ”

Thirteenth sister

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