It is said that "there is an old man in the family, if there is a treasure", there is a family with rich experience and understanding of what others understand, and has experienced what others have not experienced, and can often play a "leading" role in the family, and can unite the family and help the juniors.
In the ancient classic literature, there is a saying that "a hundred virtues and filial piety come first", and even in the "Book of Songs", there is a description of "such as the longevity of Nanshan, not collapsed", expressing people's yearning for longevity.
However, there is an old saying that "the old man lives a long life, but the children and grandchildren are not prosperous", which mainly means that the longer the old man lives, the more adverse the children and grandchildren in the family will have an adverse impact.
The first point is that it will bring some financial burden to the family
For example, in some poor areas, the longevity of the elderly may increase the financial burden on the family, thus affecting the education and growth of children.
There is a law of decay and death, the old man reaches a certain age, the various functions of the body will slowly decline, and the immunity is not as strong as that of the young man, if the old man himself is in good health, it does not matter if he suffers from some diseases that can be cured quickly.
I am afraid that some serious illnesses and chronic diseases of the elderly will cost a lot of money in the family.
Some loving old people are sick and always think about their children and grandchildren, they will take the initiative not to spend money to see a doctor for themselves, thinking that it will drag down their children and grandchildren, and even before birth, old age, sickness and death, some old people will also have new fears.
The second point is that there will be some family conflicts
Since ancient times, the property of the elderly after their death is divided equally by several children, and some large families in ancient times have a large amount of assets, and the reality is that these assets may become the source of snatching and anti-purpose between brothers and sisters.
This kind of thing happened even in the homes of ordinary people, not to mention the sons of ancient emperors, the Han Dynasty Han Wu Emperor is an example, Han Wu Emperor lived to be 69 years old before he died, and the longevity of Han Wu Emperor brought open and secret strife to his descendants.
During his long reign, many potential heirs and princes fought for the throne.
The third point is that the long-lived elderly love their children too much and do not know how to be independent
There is an old saying that "loving a son is like killing a child", the ancients paid attention to the joy of the knees, and felt that when they were old, the more children who could accompany them, the better, and enjoy the joy of family, but if the old man was too doting on his children, meddling in too many things of the children, and unconditionally meeting the requirements of the children, it would only harm the children in the long run.
With the help of the elderly, these children do not have their own opinions, and they have to ask the opinions of the elderly about everything, and some of the old people are still enjoying it and feel that they are very powerful, but in the long run, the children will lack the ability to do things independently, which will only be bad for them in their future life.
Speaking of which, in fact, this is a test of human nature, the end of all lives is not something that anyone can change the decision, as an old man, you should understand your children more, don't interfere with what you shouldn't care, and don't let yourself settle down.
Children have their own responsibilities in society, and the children of parents should be grateful for their kindness, but they cannot be left to the elderly to do whatever they want. The longevity of the elderly in the family depends on their own practices, and if they do well, the elderly can bring more "blessings" and "benefits" to the family.