The kindergarten boy gave the girl 200 grams of gold bars, just because the parents were joking, should they encourage the baby to give gifts

Now the little boys in kindergarten are so generous.

On December 22, a girl in Guang'an, Sichuan Province, received a valuable gift, which made her parents laugh and cry.

That night, the little girl showed off to her mother that she had received a "small gift" from a male classmate, and when she saw her daughter in her arms like a baby, her mother asked what was a good thing.

As a result, she didn't know it, but she was startled when she saw it, and the girl opened the box, and inside it were two glittering gold bars.

After this scene, the child's mother was instantly stunned, and quickly asked her daughter to contact her classmates, and sent the gold bars back to the male classmates the next day.

After figuring out the ins and outs of the matter, the parents on both sides were a little crying and laughing:

It turned out that the boy's parents once joked to the boy that these gold bars were intended to be gifts for his future daughter-in-law.

Of course, in the end, after the girl's parents contacted each other, they returned the gold bars and did not really accept them.

Although this incident may seem funny, in real life, it is common for children to give gifts to each other, and the point is that children often do not know the actual value of many items, and they will make similar "oolongs" if they are not careful.

Children give gifts to each other seems to be just a trivial matter, but in fact it is related to children's social, financial and business development, we, as parents, must not be perfunctory, we must find the right way to deal with it.

Children's "gift-giving socialization"

In fact, for children, the concept of friends is very broad, and they may be called friends just because they like to play with toys together.

And children give gifts to each other, which is also a concrete embodiment of social behavior:

Deepen the relationship by sharing, express your recognition of the other person, and form a true friendship.

When my daughter was in kindergarten, she took out a small toy from her schoolbag one day and told me that it was given to her by a classmate, because she had done something similar before, and the toy didn't seem expensive, so I didn't care, but told the child to cherish the friendship of classmates.

But in the evening, I opened my phone and saw the class group, and found that something was wrong:

It turned out that the child had a birthday that day, and the parents specially purchased a lot of gifts for the child to share with the school.

Since then, there has been a "gift-giving storm" in my daughter's class, and she will bring back new things to the house almost every day, in addition to some cheap small toys, and even some stationery gift bags.

Obviously, children's socialization is inevitably courteous, and even if I don't support this in my heart, I finally compromised:

Eating people with a soft mouth and short hands has evolved into an "adult social" behavior among children in the end.

But fortunately, the children in kindergarten do not have such a heavy comparison mentality, and they don't care about the price of gifts, and this is also the reason why the little boy above gave gold bars to his classmates:

For a child, a 200g gold bar is not much different from a 200-piece toy, at best it looks a little shinier and more sophisticated.

Is it good or bad for children to give gifts to each other?

Many parents may have similar concerns:

The idea of exchanging gifts is good, but what if children learn to "exchange gifts" like adults, and even fall into the strange circle of comparison?

In fact, the key here is the "motivation" of children's gift-giving behavior.

If the child feels that the other person is a good friend of his, and is simply willing to share good things with the other person, then of course there is no problem, as long as the value of the gift is reasonable, we should encourage it.

On the other hand, if the child is comparing or hoping to gain the friendship of the other party through the act of "giving", then we should pay attention.

Comparison is definitely wrong, this behavior of children should be forbidden, if the motivation of children to give gifts is to give others what they like, to get social opportunities, to make up for social shortcomings, this behavior is not a good thing.

When encountering similar situations, we need to develop better social skills for children, as well as provide more opportunities for socialization to help children improve their social skills.

Children give each other gifts, a good opportunity to develop financial intelligence

Another issue involved when children exchange gifts is the development of financial intelligence.

Just like the little boy above who gave gold bars to his favorite female classmate, many times children cannot judge the actual value of valuables in the adult world.

It's good to meet parents who are easy to talk to, but if they really encounter unreasonable, the child will send out tens of thousands of yuan at once, and there will be a dispute because of this, and parents will inevitably have a headache.

Therefore, at this time, we need to cultivate children's financial intelligence, which is simply to understand wealth, create wealth and manage wealth.

We must first let the child understand the actual value of the object, for example, compared with the toy, the former is much more valuable than the latter, and a gold bar can be exchanged for hundreds or thousands of the latter.

Of course, if you are still in kindergarten, even some analogies may not be understood by the child.

At this time, we can inform your child of the outcome in advance and help him analyze what he will face if he or she gives away a high-value gift.

For example, if a boy wants to give the gold bars at home to a female classmate, we can tell the child that the gold bars are bought by the parents with a lot of hard work, and if you give them away, then the gold bars will be gone, including the parents and the children themselves, they will lose this item.

Therefore, if the child wants to give the gift, he needs to obtain the consent of his parents first, consider whether he can accept the consequences of giving the gift, and then make a decision.

Epilogue:

It may seem like a small matter for children to give gifts to each other, but the logic behind it and the disposal methods involved need our attention.

Otherwise, if you are not careful, it may damage your child's social interaction, or the value of the gift given out will be too high, causing parents to fall into a dilemma and cause unnecessary trouble.

Today's topic: What do you think about children exchanging gifts?