A 5-year-old blind boy begs on the street and becomes a cash cow for the whole family: some "family affection" should have been broken a long time ago 

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2024-05-14 18:00Posted in Beijing, creators in the field of parenting

Text | Mi Li's mother

Happy families are all alike, but unhappy families have their own misfortunes.

The famous saying of Tolstoy is still being verified a century later, because the sufferings of this world can never be written.

A few days ago, Mi Li's mother watched a video on station B, and she felt that life was difficult, besides, many difficulties even came from her parents.

The protagonist of this video is a boy named Zhang Dandan.

He was born in 2001 in rural Anhui.

Because he was born 3 months prematurely, he was put in an incubator as soon as he was born, which saved his life. However, due to limited medical conditions, his eye disease could not be cured and he lost his sight.

Later, his parents had a healthy son. So, the hearts and attention of the parents were on the healthy child.

Zhang Dandan was thrown to his grandmother's house and relied on his grandmother for his life.

When he was 5 years old, his grandmother began to take him to beg, going out at 5 o'clock every day, and kneeling for a day.

The misfortune of congenital blindness has instead become an "advantage" in begging.

In those days, they really raised a lot of money, but all the money that grandma and he got back had to be handed over to their parents.

Since then, he has become the cash cow of this family.

At the age of 7, when it was time to go to school, his parents sent him to a special school. Although he was able to go to school, he still had to go out to beg during the holidays.

Once, when the teacher of the school went out to run errands, he happened to bump into Zhang Dandan, who was begging, and after returning to the school, the teacher not only paid attention to his difficulties and provided him with help, but publicized this matter in the class and school, so that Zhang Dandan completely realized what it means to die.

This incident left a very big psychological shadow on Dandan, and he no longer liked school, and dropped out of school after only 5 years of study.

There is no shortage of people in this world who speak cool words and watch people's jokes.

My grandfather also had a very miserable background, he was born in the poorest Dabie Mountains, and both parents died when he was a child. At that time, he did not have the ability to survive, so he could only go to the east house to beg for food, and the west family to beg for some water to drink, so he begged for a living.

But his uncles and uncles couldn't look at it, not because he was an orphan and no one cared for him, but because they felt that he had lost his family by begging everywhere.

So they took him home and didn't let him go out to beg for food, but no one cared about him or gave him food, but left him to fend for himself.

So my grandfather had to flee again and again, and he struggled to grow up.

My grandfather still has a chance to escape, but Zhang Dandan can't.

Other children have parents who care, but Zhang Dandan does not.

Being bullied by his classmates can't tell his parents, they feel that he is a burden.

Even when he went to visit relatives during the Chinese New Year, his parents thought he was ashamed and only took his younger brother there. Dandan once begged his mother to take him with him, but his mother sent him to the suona team in the village to wait, saying that he would pick him up at noon.

But he waited for a day, and his mother didn't come to ask him to go with his relatives. When he opened his mouth to ask, his mother casually pulled out a reason, "I can't bear to disturb you because I see you playing the piano so fascinating".

The real reason, they all know. Dan Dan is disliked, but he is also blood-sucked.

He formed a band with a few friends, went to perform and serve red and white ceremonies, and made a lot of money, but most of them were taken away by his parents.

In order to squeeze more money out of him, Dandan's parents forced him to participate in a singing contest and threatened to smash his piano if he didn't go.

At this time, Dandan had the heart to rebel against his parents for the first time, and when the family saw that the persecution could not be achieved, they asked him to learn fortune telling and massage, and sent him out to work to make money for the family.

After working for a few years, Dan Dan couldn't bear to continue to grind, so he managed to sneak out of the massage parlor where he worked.

He came to Shenzhen, and at the public welfare piano in Huaqiangbei subway station, Dan Dan finally touched the keys of his heart again.

Rain or shine, he came to practice every day, and he played it for three months.

The incident attracted media coverage in Shenzhen, and Dandan got a new job, playing the piano in a shopping mall.

When he was good, he could earn more than 10,000 yuan a month, and this money was also the first time that he didn't have to hand over his parents, and all of his salary could be at his disposal.

He was very happy and felt that life was starting to take off.

But fate will not let him go.

His parents soon saw his whereabouts on the news and quickly rushed to Shenzhen to forcibly take him home.

Dandan felt that the sky was about to fall, and he felt that all his previous efforts had been in vain.

On the way back, he kept crying, while his parents ignored it. When they got home, they took him into custody.

But fortunately, a few days later, his parents said that they were going out to work, and they scavenged 1,500 yuan from him for the passage and left.

Dan Dan found an opportunity and escaped again.

Until now, Dandan's disability allowance is still in the hands of his parents, and he still asks for money from time to time, not caring about whether he can eat and dress him outside.

He is like a blood bag in the family, although his parents gave him a life, but he has to pay it back with a lifetime. If he can't get out of this environment quickly, you can imagine how difficult his life will be in the future.

The thought of becoming a parent without going through any training and exams made Mi Li's mother feel a chill.

Because some parents really don't deserve to be parents.

They give birth to a child, and the child is to be shaped like plasticine into whatever image they want.

There are people like Zhang Dandan, who have become the blood bag of the whole family.

Do you remember the child model Niu Niu?

Because she didn't cooperate with the filming on the set, this little girl who was only 3 years old was kicked by her own mother.

After the video was exposed, some photographers and commercial organizations spoke out, proving that Niuniu's mother usually abuses her daughter like this, and in order to successfully complete the shooting task, she will beat and scold her daughter, and will beat her daughter with a hanger.

As a popular child model in the e-commerce circle, Niuniu can earn 20,000 or 30,000 yuan a day for shooting. Driven by such powerful interests, my mother has become a devil, and the devil is by my side.

Every day, from morning to night, I shoot nearly 200 costumes a day.

This kind of workload is unbearable even for adults, and three-year-old children not only have to endure high-intensity and overload work, but also face the persecution and accusations of their own mothers, complaining and scolding.

And Niuniu's experience is not an isolated case.

In Zhili, Huzhou, Zhejiang, due to the development of the children's clothing industry, there are many child models, all of whom work from morning to night, often shooting winter clothes in summer and wearing short sleeves in winter.

Some child models began to enter the circle at the age of three, and they are shooting for more than 300 days a year. It is the norm to call it a day after one or two o'clock in the morning.

I don't have time to eat, so I have to deal with a casual bite, and if I want to take care of my studies, I have to do my homework between makeup. Everyday life is completely squeezed to the point where there is no personal free time and room to grow.

In order to make their children "popular" faster, there are many parents who let their children give up their studies completely and have not gone to kindergarten. It wasn't until I was in school that I experienced campus life for the first time.

Completely detached from the childhood fun and growth stage of children of the same age.

Some child models said that they didn't feel much about shooting in winter, because they were used to it. "I want to earn money to support my family so that my parents don't have to work hard."

The child who said this, the mother did not work, and the father used to work, and now he does not work.

We say that children are the future of the motherland, and now what? Children have become a cash cow for their parents, ruthlessly plundered of their precious childhood in exchange for fame and fortune and a carefree life for their parents.

To make matters worse, it is not for nothing that children who become the "hosts" of their parents' parasitism.

Do you remember the story of Yang Yuanyuan written by Mi Li's mother? "The bizarre suicide of a famous school bully has opened up the ugliest side of the original family"

A girl who could have had a bright future, because of her mother's parasitism all the time, ended up scribbling in the dormitory.

Since his father died when he was 6 years old, Yang Yuanyuan's life has only been tied to his mother.

I wanted to apply for a university far away from home and go out to see the world, but my mother said that the travel fee was too expensive, so she filled in a school close to home.

Not long after going to college, my mother used the excuse that the old factory area of the family had moved and there was no room to live in, so she squeezed into her daughter's dormitory with a large bag of luggage. The school didn't agree at first, but the mother and daughter couldn't stand the hard and hard pleading, so they had to acquiesce to their stay.

After graduating from college and looking for a job, her mother stopped her again, saying that she was too far away from home, and then saying that she must be a liar, and she just didn't let Yang Yuanyuan go.

Later, she was admitted to Shanghai Maritime University as a publicly-funded graduate student, and this time her mother was finally satisfied.

And the way to express satisfaction is to squeeze into her daughter's dormitory with her luggage again.

This time, the school did not compromise and told Yang's mother to move out within a time limit.

On the day he was notified, Yang Yuanyuan braved the cold rain in late autumn to find a house for his mother for a day.

In a hurry, she finally found a place to live, and the mother and daughter got the key to open the door, only to find that it was an empty rough house.

On the same day, the two lay on the cold ground for the night.

The next morning, Yang Yuanyuan returned to the dormitory, hung a towel on the sink, and then half-squatted on the ground and hanged himself.

As long as she has a little will to survive, she can get back to life when she stands up, but Yang Yuanyuan silently resists fate with this extremely resolute attitude.

In fact, when Yang Yuanyuan was going to study in Shanghai, his uncle once reminded Yuanyuan's mother, you have been following her every step of the way for the past 30 years, have you ever considered her life events?

But Yang Yuanyuan's mother replied: "We are more than thirty upstairs and have not been married. ”

After Yang Yuanyuan's death, she also approached the school many times to "ask for an explanation", and claimed 350,000 yuan for burying her daughter and buying a house for herself.

Mi Li's mother saw an interview after the incident, Yang Yuanyuan's mother said, "I originally wanted to live with my daughter for the rest of my life, but now I can only go first." My son doesn't have a house yet, so I'll follow him when he wants to work. ”

In addition to suffocation, it is still suffocation.

Yang Yuanyuan once told his younger brother before his death that he should not listen to his mother for everything in the future, and it must not be until that moment that she finally woke up.

These parents who cling to their children are like blood-sucking leeches.

For them, children are not children, but hosts, donors, and they are like parasites, invading their children's lives with a high sound.

In their minds, children are just money-making machines, tools to accomplish their dreams.

They are not satisfied with their lives, but they are unwilling to reflect on their own reasons, let alone change the status quo through their own efforts, so they can only attach themselves to their children to experience the world, like leeches sucking blood.

But they have always forgotten that they are independent and complete beings.

For those of you who are going through all this, I just want to say that life is to live for yourself, not to pay off debts for others, and to stay away from pain in order to get close to happiness.

Some "family affection" is broken.

Personal Profile: @米粒妈爱分享 Mi Li's mother, American returnee, Haidian parent. Focus on learning, educational experience and further education.

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