People say that the palms and backs of the hands are all meat, but why is there such a big difference?
My friend A Ling, married into such a family, met such a mother-in-law, and was so angry that she was speechless.
My friend A Ling is a good girl, since she was a child, I haven't seen her blush with anyone, she is a very gentle Jiangnan girl.
But the more gentle the girl, the more she has no status when she goes to her in-law's house, and the more she is bullied. Moreover, she is still married to a family of two sons, and she has suffered too much.
1. My mother refused to go on a blind date, so I found a boyfriend
Ah Ling is an older single woman, and she is a good friend I met when I traveled together. We've been in a relationship for several years, and I think she's always been a big-eyed and smiling girl.
Almost never blushing with anyone, every time she hangs out with her, she rushes to pay. Although I don't know if her family is rich, but between her gestures, it is that kind of rich atmosphere.
Every time she travels, she is almost there, and the conditions at home should still be very good. And he is generous, and every time he travels, he will pay for things and bring them back to relatives and friends.
There is a sense of relaxation in her, which makes people look particularly comfortable. And in addition, she is not very old, and she is always very energetic. I especially like to ask her out to play, eat and drink, and have fun.
Later, her mother started sending her messages, telling her to go back to her hometown and stop being so crazy. Every time I go out to play, my life's major events are delayed. In addition, Ah Ling is an only child, and she is the only child in the family.
She said that she was not in a hurry, her parents gave her a blind date, and she found many people, but she couldn't see it right. Later, the parents began to speak very violently and said some heavy words, which made Ah Ling more angry and didn't answer the phone.
Although Ah Ling is older, I see a childlike immaturity in her. I didn't answer my parents' calls, I started to go out to play, I met a traveling together, and I got a boyfriend.
This boyfriend is undeniably handsome, and they met together on a ride in Tibet. The tanned skin has a masculine smell, and after almost a month together, the two received a marriage certificate.
Even the parents of both parties did not inform them, and Ah Ling had a copy of the household registration book at home, and she made her own decisions about the marriage.
2. Three women in one play, the most complicated relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law
Ah Ling felt that since her parents were in a hurry, now that she was okay, I also found a man, so she had to be happy now. I was angry with my parents, and I thought I could just find someone. But what she didn't expect was that the husband she was talking about in the future would have to live a lifetime.
It's like wearing shoes, only the feet know if they fit or not. Later, she really regretted it.
I traveled with my boyfriend for more than half a year, the kind of poor traveler, no money, no bride price, no wedding, nothing. I felt full of love and water, and later became pregnant, so I had to terminate the trip.
Later, when she went to her in-law's house, she really suffered. She didn't have any scheming, and in her parents' house, she had a casual temperament, and she was very arrogant. Now that she goes to her in-law's house, she feels like a year.
The most important thing is that Ah Ling encountered a more complicated relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Her husband is not an only child, nor is he an older sister or younger sister. It's an older brother who has a sister-in-law at home.
is the so-called three daughters in one play, and now she, her mother-in-law and sister-in-law. Every day of life, chickens fly and dogs jump, making Ah Ling, who has no scheming, cry all day long.
In fact, the conditions in Ah Ling's husband's family are quite average, and in a small county town, her mother-in-law now has a salary of 6,000. My mother-in-law works outside every day and doesn't take a break.
She works as a nurse in a small county town and has not yet retired. However, the salary is really okay, after all, the salary level in the county is really low.
Their family coincided with two pregnant women. She and her sister-in-law were pregnant at the same time, but after she became pregnant, Ah Ling was obviously not pampered. It is said that a crying child has milk to eat, but this Ah Ling is the child who can't cry.
Ah Ling did not have any symptoms after she became pregnant, she could eat and sleep, and she looked relaxed. And her sister-in-law, the pregnancy is more serious, it is difficult to eat, drink and sleep every day, and she looks weak at home all day long, and her mother-in-law's eyes are full of love.
It seems that whoever is honest will not be loved. Ah Ling is the type who is ignored and not loved, she eats and drinks every day, and sleeps after eating.
Seeing that her sister-in-law was being taken special care of by her mother-in-law, she was so angry that her teeth itched after a long time. And my sister-in-law can get two chicken legs every time, and she is full of hard chicken.
She wondered why she couldn't have one chicken per person. Mother-in-law's eccentricity is eccentric.
Moreover, after Ah Ling became pregnant, her skin was white and smooth, and she looked more beautiful. After her sister-in-law became pregnant, she didn't know if it was morning sickness that was not well nourished, it was darker, and she became ugly after pregnancy.
Her mother-in-law secretly guessed that her sister-in-law must be her grandson and Ah Ling is her granddaughter. No wonder there are so many differences, Ah Ling seems to have guessed the cause and effect.
Ah Ling was very angry in her heart, but she couldn't say it clearly, so she had to vent her anger on her husband. Her husband was sometimes quite inexplicable, and he was suddenly reprimanded by Ah Ling.
The most infuriating thing is that once, Ah Ling saw her mother-in-law stuffing money into her sister-in-law. Ah Ling, a big living person, was not taken seriously at home.
Ah Ling thought to herself, then when I am finished, I will go back to my parents' house. Since you are good to your sister-in-law, you should be good for a lifetime. Ah Ling now recalls her parents and misses them very much.
I was an only child since I was a child, and no one in my family took away the favor. Now I see the other two people, all day long as if they don't exist, and I feel very lost.
Moreover, her sister-in-law is not a fuel-efficient lamp. got cheap and sold well, saying that Ah Ling was in good health, so envious, she could eat several bowls of rice at a time, not as petite as herself.
3. Take your son back to her parents' house and settle down in her mother's family
In the past 10 months, Ah Ling's husband has not been around, and she has been puffing up every day. She gave birth to a little grandson to her in-law's family, and after giving birth to a baby, she took the child to her mother's house and settled on her mother's side.
Her mother-in-law was in a hurry, and her mother-in-law felt that no matter how angry she was, she couldn't just leave the child on someone else's side. After all, Ah Ling is a married person, so it must be the surname of her husband, and it is better for the baby to be brought here.
But Ah Ling no longer listens to persuasion, and her life is her own. Thinking about it in the future, if three people live together, and they have to live with the sister-in-law who likes to play tricks, it will be very worrying.
Besides, it is difficult for mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to cope, and then a sister-in-law, living together in a room of more than 100 square meters, looking up and not looking down every day, the days are not very comfortable.
Ah Ling is a free person, and she yearns for freedom. I used to travel a lot, but now after giving birth, I leave it to my own mother. Her mother scolded her and didn't tell her about her marriage, but in fact, it was quite rare for this little grandson, and she also pooled money to change a big house and take her little grandson.
Now Ah Ling is no different from a girl again, and she has traveled with her husband again.
I have to say that if my mother's family has something to rely on, I may really be happier. Do you think that losing the child to your mother's family will cause trouble to your mother's family?