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My name is Li Fang, I am 55 years old this year, my husband has passed away for many years, my children have left home and become independent, and I have lived alone for a long time. Over the years, I have felt more and more lonely and empty. So, I decided to find another partner and have a home.
I met Uncle Zhang Qiangqiang through a blind date. He is 8 years older than me, a retired worker, his children are all out of town, and he lives alone in an old house in the county seat. We met a few times, and although it wasn't love at first sight, we felt that we were both good. Uncle Zhang is very easy-going and understands my thoughts, and our ideas and life Xi are more compatible. After much consideration, I decided to marry him.
On the day of my wedding, I got up early in the morning, put on a red wedding dress, and put on light makeup. I stood in front of the mirror and said to myself, "Sister Fang, today you are going to change your surname and have a home." You've been looking forward to all this for a long time, be happy!" I was excited and a little nervous.
The wedding was held in the courtyard of Uncle Zhang's house. Dozens of relatives and friends came, and Uncle Zhang's two sons also came back to attend the wedding. The scene was very lively, with colorful lights and noisy drum music. I held Uncle Zhang's hand with a happy smile on my face. The guests sent their blessings:
"Bride and groom, congratulations!"
"愿你们白头偕老,幸福美满!"
"Husband and wife are beautiful, forever united!"
I thanked him, and my heart was thrilled. Uncle Zhang also frequently toasted the guests, smiling.
In the evening, after the guests dispersed, Uncle Zhang and I went back to the bedroom. It was our wedding night. I was a little shy, blushing and heartbeating, and Uncle Zhang also looked a little nervous.
"Well, I'm happy too. I smiled and said, "I hope our married life will be happy." ”
"Definitely!" Uncle Zhang said excitedly, "I will be good to Fang Mei and will love Fang Mei." We will be together forever!"
I nodded, and Uncle Zhang came over and wanted to hug me. My body was a little stiff, and Uncle Zhang stopped in embarrassment.
"Well, I'll go take a shower first. I said with a red face.
"Okay, okay, you go. Uncle Zhang nodded hurriedly, grabbed his hair, and kept pacing around the room.
I went into the bathroom, closed the door, and my mind was in a mess. I'm 55 years old, and it's not easy to find a partner again. Uncle Zhang is not bad, treat me well. I should cherish this marriage and live a good life with him.
After taking a shower, I put on my pajamas, took a deep breath, and pushed open the bathroom door. sheet
After taking a shower, I put on my pajamas, took a deep breath, and pushed open the bathroom door. Uncle Zhang was already lying down on the bed.
"That, has Fang Mei washed it?" Uncle Zhang asked a little unnaturally.
"Well, I'm done. I nodded, and lay down beside Uncle Zhang with a red face.
"Sister Fang, today is really a happy day!" Uncle Zhang smiled and said, "Thanks to you, there is a smell of fireworks in this house again." ”
"Well, I'll take good care of my uncle in the future. I whispered, my heart beating hard.
"Uncle, haha, call your husband!" Uncle Zhang said happily.
"Old, husband. I shyly screamed. Uncle Zhang was ecstatic and wanted to come and hug me. My body stiffened, and he stopped awkwardly.
"Ahem, it's hard today, let's sleep!" Uncle Zhang said. I nodded and turned off the bedside lamp.
It's a bit awkward, but I'm sure time will heal the gap between us. In the dark, I smiled and closed my eyes.
In the following days, I did my best to take care of Uncle Zhang's daily life. I cook, do the laundry, and clean it all myself. Uncle Zhang was very happy and praised me for my good craftsmanship and ability. I also felt content and happy.
But after a few months, the problems of life began to be exposed. Uncle Zhang has nothing to do all day, either drinking tea and chatting with his old buddies, or watching TV at home. I tried to persuade him to find something to do, but he always shirked it. At one point, I couldn't help but say:
"Are you going to spend your days lazy like this?"
"I'm not young anymore, so I should spend my old age leisurely. Uncle Zhang said confidently.
"But don't be idle all day, find something to do. I persuaded.
"I'm happy enough to have you, why bother myself!" Uncle Zhang said with a smile.
I was speechless, my heart full of disappointment. The married life I thought about was too far from reality.
After several proposals were rejected by Uncle Zhang, I couldn't help but explode.
"Zhang Qiang, will you eat soft rice?" I said angrily, "I know how to drink tea and chat all day long, like a wasted person! Don't you feel ashamed that I have worked so hard to serve you?"
"Am I not enjoying my retirement?" Uncle Zhang said dissatisfiedly, "Why do you blame."
"Am I not enjoying my retirement?" Uncle Zhang said dissatisfiedly, "Why do you blame me?"
"Enjoying retirement shouldn't be like this!" I said anxiously, "You should be a little more aggressive, do something meaningful, instead of wasting your time all day!"
"Having you serve me is the greatest pursuit, and I am very content!" Uncle Zhang quibbled.
"You!" I was so angry that I couldn't speak, "I don't think we can live a good life at all, we will only quarrel!"
"Sister Fang, you're thinking too much. Uncle Zhang smiled and said, "We just got married, we need time to run in, and it will get better and better." ”
I snorted, not wanting to hear his hypocritical comfort. Married life is so far from what I imagined, I really regret marrying this useless old man!
After that, I tried to avoid communicating with Uncle Zhang and lived alone. Uncle Zhang also realized my coldness, but he didn't want to face the problem and still went his own way.
As time passed, our relationship became more and more stiff. One day, Uncle Zhang made me angry again, and I couldn't bear it anymore and decided to file for divorce.
"Zhang Qiang, let's get a divorce. "I put it bluntly.
"What?" Uncle Zhang said in shock, "Sister Fang, what are you kidding!"
"I'm serious. I said calmly, "We can't live a good life at all, so it's better to get divorced." ”
"No way!" Uncle Zhang was anxious, "Sister Fang, you have figured it out, we are husband and wife, and we want to spend our lives together!"
"We're not suitable!" I raised my voice and said, "I've had enough of you eating soft rice all day!"
"Nothing to explain!" I interrupted him, "I've decided, we have to get a divorce!"
Uncle Zhang saw that I was resolute and anxious. He shouted: "Li Fang, you listen to me, divorce is impossible without my consent!"
I sneered, "It's up to you, I've had enough, I have to get a divorce!"
When Uncle Zhang saw that he couldn't persuade me, he jumped like thunder and punched me. I was caught off guard and was hit in the face.
"You hit me?" I said horrified.
"I'll teach you a lesson, dare to ask me for divorce!" Uncle Zhang was about to do it again, so I quickly dodged it.
I wiped away my tears, picked up my phone and called the police. Seeing this, Uncle Zhang's face turned pale, and he quickly knelt down and begged me:
"Sister Fang, I was wrong,
"Sister Fang, I was wrong, don't call the police!" Uncle Zhang knelt on the ground and begged me.
I looked at him coldly and pressed the dial button firmly.
"It's all at this point, and you're still begging me, it's too late!" I said coldly.
Soon, the police came. Uncle Zhang's face was pale, and he stood aside and kept shaking.
The police asked me, "What happened?"
I pointed at Uncle Zhang and said, "He beat me, we want a divorce, and he doesn't agree to beat me!"
"This old man, what's going on?" The policeman asked solemnly.
"It's too late to change your mistakes, you're still beating people!" I rebuked him.
The police made Uncle Zhang kneel down and criticized and educated him. Uncle Zhang cried and admitted his mistake, and repeatedly promised that he would not beat people again in the future.
Finally, the policeman said: "You are only the injured party, whether to break off the relationship completely or not, or it is up to you to decide." Family conflicts can be resolved through communication, and divorce should not be easily chosen. ”
I was silent, my mind in turmoil. Indeed, it was my choice to marry Uncle Zhang at the beginning, and I didn't experience any beating and scolding, so it seems too hasty to divorce like this.
"I'll give you another chance, but you have to make it right!" I said to Uncle Zhang seriously.
"I will definitely change it, and I will never do it again!" Uncle Zhang assured repeatedly.
When the police saw that we were willing to reconcile, they did not take coercive measures, told us not to have any more arguments, and left.
Uncle Zhang looked at me gratefully, but I returned to the bedroom with a cold face, and my heart was like ashes.
"Sister Fang, I know you're still angry with me. Uncle Zhang said cautiously, "I really know that I was wrong, so you can forgive me this time." ”
I didn't say a word and went into the bedroom with my food.
In the following days, I tried to avoid seeing Uncle Zhang. I locked myself in my room all day, and Uncle Zhang didn't dare to disturb me. He continued to sleep on the living room couch, his face full of guilt.
A week later, at noon one day, Uncle Zhang knocked on my door.
"Fang Mei, let's talk. He whispered, "I really regret it, just give me one last chance." ”
I took a deep breath and decided to have a good talk with him. Perhaps, there is room for redemption in our marriage.
I opened the door, and Uncle Zhang immediately knelt down: "Sister Fang, I'm sorry, I really know my mistake, you forgive me!"
I sighed, "Get up, I agree that we can have a good talk." ”
Uncle Zhang got up and sat down on the chair, and I sat down too.
"During this time, I thought a lot about what our problem was. Uncle Zhang bowed his head and said, "I'm so selfish, I just want to live a leisurely life after retirement, but I don't think about your feelings." It's not fair to you, and we're doomed to face problems. I will really change, I will definitely listen to you in the future, and I will actively find things to do, and no longer waste my time all day. Please give me another chance!"
I looked him in the eye and he seemed to really regret it.
"I did it wrong, too. I said, "I chose to marry you in the first place, I should not blame you, but learn to understand and tolerate." People change, after all, and I can't expect you to always do what I want you to. I'm too idealistic, and I'm too demanding of you. ”
"No, you're not wrong. Uncle Zhang said anxiously, "I changed first, and I shouldn't live up to your expectations." I promise you that you will change yourself and become the good husband you want!"
We're all at fault. I said, "I can give you another chance, but you have to walk the talk." ”
"I will!" Uncle Zhang said excitedly, "I have found some spare time, and I will keep my promise." Fang Mei, thank you for your tolerance, I will prove myself with actions. ”
"Then let's start over. I nodded.
"Great!" Uncle Zhang was ecstatic, "I promise to say good morning to you every morning in the future, and I will also say good night to you in the evening!"
Let's take it one step at a time. I smiled.
From that day on, Uncle Zhang seemed to have really changed. He learned calligraphy, planted flowers, and accompanied me to the park for walks. In the evenings, we would also chat and the atmosphere was harmonious. I stopped being him and gave him time to adapt to the change.
After a few months, Uncle Zhang found volunteer work and began to help the elderly in the community. I'm glad he's changed. One night, we leaned together and watched TV.
"Sister Fang, I thank you for giving me the opportunity to mend my ways. Uncle Zhang suddenly said, "I will always remember the lesson and continue to work hard to be a good husband." ”
"You've changed for the better. I said with a smile.
"That's because of your tolerance. Uncle Zhang said, "I love you, Sister Fang." ”
My heart warmed, and I whispered, "I love you too." ”
We looked at each other and smiled, and I knew that our marriage was finally on the road to happiness. The road is still long, though
We looked at each other and smiled, and I knew that our marriage was finally on the road to happiness. There is still a long way to go, but as long as we continue to understand, tolerate and support each other, we will be able to move forward.
Married life is getting better, and the relationship between me and Uncle Zhang is getting better and better. We would go for walks, watch movies, do chores, and talk a lot. Uncle Zhang has become more energetic and pursuing, and I am very pleased with his changes.
One night, we were chatting while eating.
"Husband, you've been working hard lately, haven't you had less rest?" I said with concern.
"I'm very good, and I'm happy as long as I can help more elderly people. Uncle Zhang said.
"Pay attention to your body too, don't force it too much. I said worriedly.
"I'm happy to have you here. As long as you support me, I'm not afraid of anything!" Uncle Zhang said with a smile.
"Then you have to take care of yourself, I will always support you. I laughed too.
"Sister Fang, marrying you is the most correct decision in my life. Uncle Zhang suddenly said, "I will always love you and always be good to you." ”
I was a little flattered and blushed: "I love you too, husband." Let's take our time. ”
"Okay, one step at a time. As long as you're there, every day is happy!" Uncle Zhang said happily.
Time flies, and in the blink of an eye, we have been married for many years. Uncle Zhang has completely changed as a person and has become a good husband who is enthusiastic about public welfare. I also stopped caring about the small frictions in my life and learned to be tolerant and grateful.
"Wife, we've been married for so many years, how do you feel?" One day I suddenly asked Uncle Zhang.
"Feel happy every day!" Uncle Zhang said with a smile, "Although it was a little difficult at first, looking back now, all the hardships were worth it." Because I met you, we have walked through ups and downs hand in hand. ”
"That's what I thought, too. I smiled and said, "Thank you for being the most important partner in my life." I will always be with you. ”
"I will always be with you. Uncle Zhang held my hand and said.
We looked at each other and smiled, full of happiness.
Nine times out of ten, life is unsatisfactory, but as long as we learn to tolerate, understand and forgive, we will definitely be able to walk through the wind and rain and usher in the rainbow. My story with Uncle Zhang may not be perfect, but it is a record of how we find understanding from misunderstandings, grow from tribulations, and see hope from despair. As long as we don't give up, the road of marriage will be brighter and happier.