I have a daily Xi that every day when I come home from work, I go to see my grandparents first. Even though they were very old, they would sit in the living room every night and wait for me to come home. On this day, I walked into the house as usual, only to hear an awkward silence coming from the living room.
"Why did you come back so late?" said Grandma's voice, slightly displeased.
"It's nothing, it's just a little delayed. "I walked into the living room and saw the displeasure on my grandmother's face. Grandpa curled up and looked at me with curious glasses.
"Does she have a girlfriend? Don't you tell grandma?" said Grandpa suddenly and humorously.
"Oh, I don't have time to find a girlfriend!" I laughed and argued. But Grandma frowned.
"You're so old, it's time to find a girlfriend. Let's go on a blind date with my mother in the city, my mother looks very good, but it's a little fat. Grandma started talking again.
I smiled awkwardly and didn't answer. Then, my grandmother asked my former classmates if they were married and had children, and my parents seemed to be concerned about my marriage again.
"Grandma, I'm just starting out and now is not the time to think about these things. I tried to say in a polite tone.
"When is the time? You're so old that you don't start a family sooner, but what can you do?" Grandma didn't buy my account and continued.
I felt embarrassed, "Grandma, really, just wait." I pinched my forehead.
Suddenly, the grandmother spoke again, "By the way, did you have a relationship with a woman in her forties?" You know, this is not good, people have told you, why can't you have a relationship with a woman in her forties?" ”
I hurriedly waved my hand, "I don't, it's not me!" I don't know if it was because I suddenly encountered such an embarrassing topic, or if my grandmother suddenly became interested in my married life, I hurriedly waved my hand to defend it.
Back in the room, I remembered what my grandmother had just said. Someone told me why I couldn't just have sex with a woman in her forties? Maybe my grandmother was worried about my life, but she expressed it in one such way. Although the meaning is not clear, it also makes me think a little to a certain extent.
I walked out onto the balcony and watched the traffic outside the window. Maybe my grandmother is old and can't understand some things at first, or maybe I am still the savage child at the feast in her eyes, and she still reminds me in this way. I know she loves me, after all, it is the heart that will become nagging.
Now all I can do is to accompany her and be good to her as usual. As for what she is worried about, I will slowly find time to explain and clarify this misunderstanding.
After another day after work, I went to my grandparents' house as usual. When I walked into the living room, I saw my grandmother sitting on the sofa watching TV, with a warm smile on her face. I walked over and sat down next to her, "Grandma, I bought you some fruit that you like to eat." I handed over a bag of fruit.
Grandma happily took the fruit, pointed to a news anchor on the TV screen and said, "This girl is very nice, a bit like your colleague Xiao Li." ”
"Oh, is it?" I said casually, looking at the girl on TV, absent-mindedly.
Suddenly, my grandmother looked at me anxiously, "Don't you want to tell your grandmother about you?" I just asked the neighbor's child that you have been coming home late lately. She started nagging again.
As soon as I thought about it, I felt sorry for my parents all over the world, maybe it was the comfort of loneliness, so I smiled reluctantly: "It's okay, it's just that there have been some things in the company recently." ”
Grandma was about to continue to ask, but I quickly interrupted, "Grandma, don't worry, I'll take care of it." "I knew that any longer delay would only make my grandmother more worried, so I lied that a friend needed help to come home late.
Grandma nodded and motioned for me to sit down. After a while, she asked me about my work and began to ask about my future again. I just coped with a few words, comforting my grandmother, but another disturbing thought came to my mind.
As dinner approached, my grandmother suddenly motioned for me to stay and wouldn't let me go home for dinner. I was a little confused, but I stayed. Suddenly, Grandma became serious, "I can see that you have been coming home with the smell of alcohol lately. Are you drunk? Tell grandma that you drink because you're stressed?" she stared at me, her tone full of concern.
"Grandma, don't worry, it's just that I occasionally party with friends, and I drink a little too much, it's not a big deal. "I'm trying to excuse myself with understatement.
But my grandmother was even more worried, pointed to my nose and said, "Do you know that drinking too much alcohol is very harmful to your body, how can you be a young man who can indulge in such a thing?"
There seems to be some conflict between the two of us, maybe my grandmother genuinely cares about me, but the way she cares bothers me. I began to understand why she showed so much concern for me, but I also felt a little suffocated. She was watching me all the time in my life, and sometimes I needed to be alone, I needed my own space.
I got home on time the next day. Grandma was watching TV with Grandpa in the living room and was very happy to see me walk in.
"You're finally back, dinner is ready!" said my grandmother happily when she saw me.
I walked over and sat down, and my grandfather continued, "Look, this kid has come home, and you still love your grandson the most." ”
Grandma looked at me with satisfaction and said, "Of course, after all, it is my most painful grandson." ”
I glanced at my grandmother, still looking at the TV with some reluctance. At this time, I realized that the last sentence she said when she was leaving, "Someone came to tell you why you can't have a casual relationship with a woman in her forties" was actually a warning to my parents.
Just as I was lost in thought, the phone rang. I connected and found out that it was an unfamiliar phone number.
"Hey, ...... you?" I asked.
"You're looking for me?" a woman's voice came from the other end of the line.
"I'm sorry, you're looking for the wrong person. I replied politely.
After hanging up the phone, my grandmother seemed to suddenly remember something, and suddenly said, "By the way, a woman came to you yesterday and said that it was your colleague." ”
"Really?" I was a little surprised, because I didn't remember such an arrangement.
She said either she was waiting for you at the company or coming to her home. She said that the company was afraid that it would not be able to catch up, so she came, and you had to say yes. Grandma continued.
I glanced at my grandmother and grandfather with some panic. "What is she doing here?" I asked, trying to hide my weakness, as calmly as I could.
"She probably wants to discuss work with you, you colleague. Grandpa explained.
I got up and went to the balcony with an indescribable uneasiness. Who is looking for me? How can there be such an arrangement? It is incompatible with my usual regular life.
I paced back and forth on the balcony, pondering the phone call I had had yesterday and the woman my grandmother had spoken of. The other party was obviously not a colleague, but grandma and grandpa did not know. Maybe it was a misunderstanding or someone was deliberately playing tricks on me. I'm not sure.
I decided to leave the house first and go for a walk in the neighborhood. Deal with this matter and go home and explain it to grandma and grandpa. lest they be anxious about their lives.
I was immersed in my grandmother's words when the phone rang. It was my mother who called, and my mother's voice was a little anxious, "Your father was sick and hospitalized a few days ago, and now the situation is a little urgent, I plan to go over and have a look, can you help take care of grandma?" I was a little surprised, I didn't know anything about my father's illness.
I immediately comforted my mother and told her not to worry too much and that I would try my best to take care of my grandmother. When I hung up the phone, I panicked and thought about it in a panic. Even such a major matter as my father's illness was hidden from me, how could there be such a problem in the relationship between my father and mother? Maybe this time my consciousness was seriously out of sync, maybe there was some misunderstanding.
I decided to take time off the next day and go back to see how my family was going. Early the next morning, I hurried home. Seeing my grandmother sitting alone on the balcony, my heart tightened. After some inquiry, I learned that my father was not only hiding my illness, but also that they had their own disputes. Dad was angry at Mom's over-neglect, while Mom complained that Dad didn't care about the family.
I was shocked that Mom and Dad had always been in harmony all these years, and I had never seen them turn against each other so much. I can't help but feel sad that family entanglements can sometimes be like an accident that can happen suddenly and catch you off guard.
In the days that followed, I mediated in the hope that they would be able to communicate and find a solution to the problem as soon as possible. I don't want to see the people I love get bogged down in pointless fights. But all this is not easy, and the contradictions between them cannot be resolved in a moment.
I looked at my watch and suddenly realized how fast time had passed. I thought about making tea for my grandparents and erasing the embarrassing scene just now. At this moment, I heard my grandmother's call from outside the room, and she seemed to ask me to come over and help with something.
"Son, come and help Grandma!" Grandma's voice was a little anxious, and I stood up a little uneasily.
I walked quickly to the living room and saw my grandmother on crutches in one hand and her chest in the other, with fine beads of sweat on her forehead. I hurriedly grabbed my grandmother and asked her what was wrong.
"My chest hurts so much, maybe it's too stuffy...... grandma said weakly. I hurriedly helped her to the sofa and brought her another glass of boiling water.
"Look, you see, am I right! You kid is either working overtime or other things every day, and no one takes good care of you!" the grandmother complained, but her eyes were still full of worry.
"Grandma, I'm not very good, you see how good I am, what's uncomfortable. I comforted casually. In the face of my grandmother, I always feel a little powerless.
Grandma shook her head and sighed, "I knew you didn't take good care of yourself. You see that old Aunt Li is picky about her family, and her son blames her for the divorce. At this age, a woman of such an age can't just date casually. ”
While helping my grandmother rub her back, I felt a little disapproving, "These days, blind dates or something have long been outdated, aren't I very good?"
Grandma looked a little displeased, "Look at that Aunt Liu, she introduced her son on a blind date last year, but she met a random person, and the family made a lot of trouble." ”
I took a deep breath, "Grandma, this is not under my control, and I haven't thought about getting married yet. ”
"At your age, why can't you think about getting married?
I immediately felt a little aggrieved, but my grandmother looked solemn, as if she was not joking.
"Grandma, I don't, trust me. I looked at my grandmother with some helplessness. Just as I was about to say something, the doorbell rang suddenly.
I hurried to open the door, only to see a woman in her forties standing in the doorway, smiling kindly. At this time, the grandmother suddenly walked out of the room on crutches, and when she saw the lady at the door, her expression became more serious. What's going on? I have inexplicable doubts in my mind.
This was the same conversation between me and my grandmother a long time ago. She always exaggerated her worries than she actually was, but I knew it was all because of her love. The conversation that day made me change my heart knot with my grandmother, and I began to understand her better.
Time flies, and in the blink of an eye, grandma is gone. Her departure left me with a huge void. A year after her departure, we held a memorial service.
On that day, everyone gathered to share memories of my grandmother, and I saw the beautiful mark she left on the hearts of my family.
However, during the memorial service, her topic once again became the focus of our conflict. Because when I was about to speak, someone mentioned my "misunderstanding" with a woman in her forties, and it caused an uproar. I knew it was a discriminatory view from a relative, but I didn't expect it to happen at such an important moment.
This incident shocked and angered me, but it also made me cherish every moment with my grandmother even more. Now, on this special occasion of Women's Day, I would like to pay tribute to the most important women in my life and express my deepest love and gratitude to them. In the midst of this love and gratitude, I am still full of hope and challenge.
So, I stood up and began to speak. This is my way of saying goodbye to my grandmother, and it is also my way of proving to everyone on the scene that a misunderstanding cannot erase my respect and love for my grandmother. I slowly soothed my emotions and told me how much I loved and loved my grandmother. I am grateful for all she has done for me, for her simple love and sincerity. I talked about how my grandmother's attitude to life influenced me and how it made me who I am today.
"Grandma will live forever in our hearts. Her love and understanding will always motivate me to live well. I believe that she must be watching over us in heaven now, hoping that we will be stronger. So, let's put aside misunderstandings and prejudices and let the beautiful emotions left by grandma always flow in our hearts. "I would also like to express my gratitude and dependence to everyone present and hope that we can all face this challenge together and rebuild family harmony.