Orange friend "DAbv47" posted in Orange Persimmon Interactive "Tucao for Help": I hope to report the problems of this matchmaker's network, I signed up for a blind date on their small program before, and the staff at the scene did not let me chat with the female guests, and drove me away after calling me to see, and then it ended, the staff had a poor attitude, I consulted the activity for free, and the customer service said that the offline one-to-one fee was charged, I hope you don't sign up for the blind date activity on this platform to avoid being hurt by the pit.
Blind date is a topic that many young people can't get around, and they want to make their own decisions about marriage, but real life is not a novel, how can there be so many fates falling from the sky, and blind dates have become an important way for young people to break social barriers. However, there are few blind dates that have been smooth sailing, and there have been many ups and downs, let's take a look at the young people around us who are busy with blind dates, what hurdles have they encountered in blind dates?
It cost a few thousand dollars and changed three or four platforms
The three-year blind date experience hurt the 28-year-old Xiao Wang
"In my eyes, family is the most important thing. This orange friend's surname is Wang, 28 years old, his mother died a few years ago, leaving him and his father to rely on each other, and his desire to start a family is getting stronger and stronger.
"I am disabled, physically disabled, and in recent years I have not been in good health, and I have respiratory diseases. Now my father and I are alone at home, and I hope to have a lover who can make the family a little more complete. ”
The year before last, Xiao Wang passed by a "blind date corner", there were many men and women coming and going on the scene, the blind date atmosphere was very strong, Xiao Wang watched for a while, left his contact information to the platform, and the next day a call came in, asking him to go to the company where the blind date platform is located.
"They said that if they were going to meet one-on-one, they would have to pay money. Xiao Wang said that at the beginning, the platform charged tens of thousands of yuan, but there were certain discounts for the disabled. "I said that I couldn't take out so much money, so the other party said that I could pay a part of it first, and meet the girl first, and if it was not suitable, I could refund it at that time."
So Xiao Wang paid 3,000 yuan at one time, but after meeting for the first time, Xiao Wang was not very satisfied, because he explained to the platform that he wanted to find someone younger than himself, but the blind date introduced by the platform was older than him, and the chat was not speculative.
"The 3,000 yuan is not worth it at all, I said that it is not suitable to push it, and the platform will not give me a refund. Xiao Wang said that under his repeated requests, the platform refunded, but still deducted part of the handling fee, and finally only got back more than 1,000 yuan.
The frustration of offline blind dates made Xiao Wang shift his direction to the Internet. In the various apps used by Xiao Wang, there are many advertisements about the blind date platform. These blind date platforms are either under the banner of free dating, or successful cases on the promotion platform, Xiao Wang looked at it and was a little moved.
These blind date platforms are basically the same, either on the applet or to download an App to register, after submitting personal information, these platforms require Xiao Wang to pay money to participate in the event.
The organizer will regularly hold some offline dinners, and each dinner party will invite more than a dozen single men and women who also sign up for blind dates on the platform to exchange and get to know each other. Xiao Wang said that after participating in such activities a few times, he always felt that the other party was a wedding trust arranged by the platform, "Anyway, after three or four contacts, I always felt that the other party was not here for a blind date." ”
The platform is not good, Xiao Wang can only continue to change, but the money handed over on the platform cannot be returned. After changing platforms, Xiao Wang basically only chooses offline activities that do not cost money.
Free offline activities are sometimes held in office buildings, sometimes in scenic spots and suburbs, with three or four hundred people when there are many people, and more than 100 people when there are few people.
During this period, the staff kept telling Xiao Wang that he could try the offline one-to-one model, and as long as he paid a sum of money, he could enjoy better service, but Xiao Wang refused.
"Later, when I went to the event, the staff didn't treat me so well and didn't let me talk to the female guests. But it's free, so why can't I join it?"
In the three-year blind date process, Xiao Wang has used five or six blind date platforms, each platform requires Xiao Wang to pay money and meet with the blind date.
This year, the disheartened Xiao Wang has not been in contact with the blind date platform again.
Repeatedly defeated in the circle introduced by acquaintances
I hope that my café will become a channel to break the circle
3 years after graduating from college, Liu Hong (pseudonym) only had more than 20 WeChat and photos of blind dates pushed by her mother, and Liu Hong carefully selected 4 of them and met one after another.
The first boy, Liu Hong felt that he was a "mom treasure man", because no matter what he talked to him, he would report it to his mother, and the news was transmitted from the other party's mother to his mother.
The second blind date was Liu Hong's elementary school classmate, and the two chatted as friends for more than a month, but they couldn't continue.
Parents are very anxious, every time they refuse a blind date, their mother will say, why did you scare people away again, sometimes the family drives out to play, Liu Hong drives the car, and the parents will suddenly talk about urging marriage in the back row, Liu Hong's male friends, parents also have to comment on marriage, no matter what the topic, it seems that they have to talk about marriage, and then break up.
Liu Hong did not look for a blind date platform, nor did she find an offline matchmaker, because she did not trust these platforms, her blind dates were all introduced by her parents' relatives, friends and colleagues, and belonged to the acquaintance relationship.
Blind date many times to no avail, now Liu Hong has no confidence in the blind date, concentrate on running her own coffee shop, in the face of her daughter who goes out early and returns late every day, her mother had to beg her to take time to meet with the blind date, Liu Hong arranged to meet in her own store, one is to let the other party see her work, and the other is to save time, as for the result, she does not force it.
The café has a lot of people coming and going, and it may be a channel to break down social barriers. I don't want to take the initiative to go on a blind date anymore, which is Liu Hong's summary of her blind date experience.
I want to try a blind date platform but I'm worried about being scammed
In October last year, when 25-year-old Yangyang returned from graduate school in South Korea, her mother immediately arranged a magnificent blind date for her - the two parties and their parents gathered together and booked a private room directly in the hotel.
At the beginning, Yangyang had great expectations for blind dates. Yangyang said that the biggest benefit of the blind date introduced by his family is zero cost, "It is not a loss to meet a few more friends." ”
But soon, she realized that it wasn't as simple as making friends.
"I've met people who are in good condition at home, but they talk and talk very indiscriminately, and I feel that they don't respect me, and I've met men who are very proactive, but always complain about their poverty, and I don't dislike him for having no money, but I just think he's too squirming in this matter. ”
Yangyang said that the blind date was one after another, but he couldn't even find one who could talk to him, "I'm numb (woody) now, I can only say that in this matter, there will be no disappointment if there is no hope." ”
Last month, my parents recommended a blind date, which came from my mother's mahjong partner.
"I've been very patient, and whenever my mom asks me to see me, I've agreed. Yangyang said that at first, this man had the idea of meeting, but since he was asked to meet in his store, this man has never appeared. "I don't know why. ”
Unlike Liu Hong, Yangyang still maintains the yearning for marriage, but the introductions of his parents are all from acquaintances, either his mother's mahjong partner, or his father's business partner, and the circle is too narrow.
Yangyang said that he wanted to try the blind date platform to broaden his social circle, at least get out of his parents' circle, but he was worried about being deceived.
"As long as the blind date platform is real enough, I will choose the blind date platform, and it is okay to spend some money. Yangyang shook his head as he spoke: "But how can you ensure that those people introduced by the blind date platform are not scammers or marriage trusts?"
The review and verification of data is not strict
Contact, chatting, every step costs money
Orange persimmon through train reporter measured the blind date platform
Orange friend Xiao Wang spent tens of thousands of yuan on various blind date platforms, but he never met a suitable object, and even every time he met, he gave Xiao Wang a feeling of "marriage trust", as if the other party was just going through the motions, and the money he paid was also lost.
Life events are completed through a blind date platform, is it reliable or not?
Sign up for a blind date platform and receive a call
Pay a fee of several thousand to tens of thousands depending on your personal situation
The reporter registered an account on the large dating site S, and after filling in some basic information such as name, date of birth, and gender, a phone call with an 11-digit number came in the afternoon of the next day. The other party claimed to be a staff member of the S network, and her voice sounded like an eldest sister, speaking with a Hangzhou accent.
The eldest sister got straight to the point, saying that after seeing the information filled in by the platform, she wanted to call to ask about the situation first, "Young man, let me tell you, if you really want to find a partner through us, you have to pay a fee, do you agree?"
This fee, the eldest sister said that everyone is different, and it can only be determined after talking face-to-face, "Some people are not very good, but they want to find a good one, so the price is high; In short, we have a few thousand, and there are tens of thousands."
"Your height is okay, a lot of girls like it. "How long have you broken up now?", "Have you ever introduced someone at home?" "What do you like?", a series of questions were asked, and every time the reporter answered, the eldest sister would mention some of the successful cases she had encountered.
For example, when mentioning the income conditions, the eldest sister said that there was once a boy whose family conditions were not very good, and he was unexpectedly favored by a girl, "This girl is a company in the family, and my sister came with her at that time, and we also think that maybe the family conditions are a little different, but I didn't expect that the girl to have feelings for him, and then they got married together." The eldest sister said that this thing also depends on the edge of the eyes, even if the two people are not in the right household, if they have a good personality and can live together, they can go on.
The eldest sister said that if you are really interested, you can come to the store in the West Lake District to register, "Young man, you have to get a certificate to register, you need an ID card if you want to verify your academic qualifications, and you need to get a degree certificate and a graduation certificate to verify your academic qualifications."
Buy a membership to unlock the chat feature
The matchmaker said that it is unreliable to find a partner on the Internet
In the personal homepage of the user of the B network, you can see the user's avatar, age, height, current residence, education, annual salary, marital status and other information, and you can also understand the other party's various intentions to choose a mate, but the above information is filled in by yourself, and there is no requirement to verify the information.
After the reporter of the orange persimmon through train registered an account, he uploaded a photo that was not his own, filled in his personal information falsely, and submitted it successfully.
Among the dozens of users of the opposite sex pushed on the homepage, the reporter randomly clicked on the homepage of 10 users and found that only 1 user had real-name authentication.
After that, some private messages from strange users appeared on the chat page, marked with some information about age, height, place of residence, monthly salary, etc., and if you want to click on the private message or send a private message to the user's homepage, the application will prompt you need to buy a membership, and the price is 45 yuan a month.
Subsequently, the reporter used the real identity information to do real-name authentication, and after completing the real-name registration, although he did not open a member, he received more than 60 private messages in one day that can only be viewed by members.
On the morning of the second day of real-name authentication, the reporter received a call from the police of the Hangzhou Anti-Fraud Center, in which the police confirmed to the reporter whether they had registered for the B network, and told the reporter to beware of fraud and not to believe the money transactions and unfamiliar links proposed by strangers. In the afternoon of the same day, a staff member of Network B, who claimed to be a matchmaker, called the reporter. The matchmaker told reporters that she called from the phone number she saw on the B network to find out about the situation.
"Young man, let me tell you, if you really want to find it, I suggest you come to our offline store to register. The matchmaker said, "If you just look for a blind date on the homepage of the App, seventy or eighty percent of it is unreliable, and it is best to go through the offline matchmaker." ”
The dating platform is not strict about the review and verification of information
And every step costs money
Orange persimmon through train reporters also registered some well-known blind date App users, and filled in the relevant information, and found that in addition to real-name authentication and academic certification through face and ID number, academic information network certification, other elements such as work, annual salary, height and weight, marital status, etc., are filled in and submitted, there is no certification process.
In terms of membership products, these apps are basically the same, that is, to become a member by recharging, and there are a variety of various charging packages in exchange for more opportunities to communicate with the opposite sex.
In general, the online dating platform is not strict about the review and verification of personal identity information, even after you have done real-name verification, the real identity of the recommended online chat partner cannot be guaranteed, and almost every step costs money and the price is expensive.
In the eyes of young people
What is the ideal dating platform?
As one of the blind date channels, the online blind date platform is discouraged by many people because of its lack of authenticity, what is the ideal blind date platform in the eyes of young people?
Check in and show it with video
Provide information about the workplace
It is hoped that the blind date platform will improve the authenticity
Chen Li (pseudonym) graduated from university at the age of 22.
"If it's just chatting online, it doesn't make much sense, and no one knows who is real through a mobile phone. ”
Chen Li thinks that the platform should have a mechanism, or the relevant departments should have a mechanism for platform management to restrict the emergence of "marriage trust", "For example, if two people agree to meet, then make a card on the platform, the time and place of the two parties to meet, this kind of information is recorded, you can verify and summarize how many people a user has met, and you can also see whether you really want to go on a blind date, if a person doesn't do anything every day and has been on a blind date, it is not normal."
Another Mr. Sun said that some of the photos on the blind date dating platform he had registered before were too P, and some of the photos were not his own at all, "Now on the Internet, most users use photos to show themselves, in fact, the platform can encourage the use of videos to show, after all, the threshold for video fraud is higher, and the authenticity is stronger."
Xiaoyu, a girl from Hangzhou, believes that in addition to identity verification and academic certification, you can actually ask the work unit to endorse it. The workplace is the best way to prove the authenticity of a person's identity, and it can also show the underlying economic situation.
"In the traditional blind date, the matchmaker is actually permutating and combining through the label to find the optimal solution, so I think that as long as we return to the traditional blind date model, the first is to ensure that the authenticity of the label is 100%, and the second is to achieve an absolutely high degree of label matching, which is the most ideal blind date platform. ”
"For me, appearance is a very important factor, and I also know that some so-called dating software has a lot of fake photos, excessive P pictures, etc., so this situation will hurt me deeply, and I will no longer believe the information on the online platform. ”
I want a credible platform
Networking between organizational units
Orange friends Xiaofang said that the online blind date platform does not dare to be afraid of being deceived, the premise of the blind date is trust, how to make two strangers have a sense of trust, the best way is to work and work between the unit, I hope that there is a credible platform can often organize social activities between units.
"Now there are many unmarried young people in many units, usually the circle of work and life is very narrow, and the circle of friends is also very small, if there are unmarried young people between units It would be great, I will definitely participate, because there is a unit to endorse, at least the identity of the other party is real, the degree of trust is high, even if it is not for blind date, it is good to broaden the circle of friends. ”