Everyone yearns for wealth, but many people toss their lives and still work hard.
When I was young, I could always think that my fate was up to me, and in the second half of my life, I had to sigh that everything was fate, and nothing was up to me.
Looking back at your life, you will find that fate itself is not good or bad, but many times we fall into the trap of thinking, which leads to difficulties.
Zeng Shiqiang, a master of Chinese culture, said: "People have many desires, so they will find ways to satisfy them." On the positive side, it is a driving force, and on the negative side, it is that you can't get along with yourself, and you are not satisfied with your life's hard work. ”
If one day, you master the balance between forward and backward, you will throw away your hard life, and you will be relaxed and free from now on, and your life will be rich.
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When you encounter a hurdle that you can't get over, learn to go back and save yourself.
People don't have three heads and six arms, and they are not immortals in the sky, there are always some hurdles that cannot be passed.
If you don't hit the south wall and don't look back, and don't die until you reach the heart of the Yellow River, then you have been tossing and turning blindly, and you can't see the effect, and your hard life will come.
The southern wall will not collapse because of your persistence, and the Yellow River will not be diverted by your personal will.
Really smart people know that there are tigers in the mountains, and do not go to the tiger mountains.
During the Ming Dynasty, Tang Shunzhi, Wang Yangming's apprentice, was very good at reading since he was a child, and became an official in his twenties.
There was an examiner Zhang Xuan who took the initiative to woo him, hoping to receive a doorman, but he refused, and he invisibly formed a bond.
After Tang Shunzhi was the head of the military department and the official department for a period of time, he was transferred to the Hanlin Academy, and his top boss was Zhang Xuan. All kinds of wearing small shoes, and it began.
After being embarrassed by his boss, he took a long vacation. Later, because of the establishment of the crown prince, he offended Emperor Jiajing and was demoted to a commoner.
The whole world is not the king's land. Facing the reality, he stopped being an official, concentrated on living a secluded life, and closed his doors. When he was in seclusion, he studied the "Six Classics", "Hundred Sons of History", "Ancient Laws of the National Dynasty", etc., and made progress in civil and military affairs.
It wasn't until there were Japanese invaders along the coast that he went out of the mountain again and taught Qi Jiguang what he had learned in his life.
He was also promoted to the post of governor of Fengyang because of his outstanding achievements in the fight against the Japanese.
Yes, it doesn't work, forget it. If there is another path, go again, and if not, continue to cultivate yourself.
All roads lead to Rome, so why did you find a road that was doomed to fail? You should learn to be flexible.
Go back and get to some crossroads, and you've got a way.
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When encountering an unfulfilled life, learn to go back and appreciate the incomplete.
Life is destined not to be perfect, so in the solar terms invented by the ancestors, there is only Xiaoman.
However, there are some people who do not believe in evil and want to be good in everything. As a result, I hurt myself.
In "Dream of Red Mansions", Lin Daiyu has read a lot of books, is very close to Jia Baoyu, and has always regarded marrying Jia Baoyu as "consummation of love". But such thoughts caused her illness to be even worse.
On the day of Baoyu's wedding, Daiyu also died, which is regrettable.
Baoyu was also forced by his parents to go to perfection - to gain fame, find the right wife, serve as the head of Jiafu, and study all his life. For this reason, I did not suffer less from my father's beating.
But Baoyu is a useless person after all, the family business can't be saved, love can't be proud, and no fame, and finally leaves his wife and lives in a foreign country.
It's Grandma Liu, her family is already poor, she is not afraid of being ridiculed, but she took the money obtained from the autumn wind, bought land, and slowly cultivated. Although he has been a farmer all his life, he has also been well in his old age.
Everyone knows this truth, but many people don't know how to use it.
Think of the incomplete parts as a landscape, and you will find yourself more complete. Less work on yourself, leaving a blank space, is the most beautiful place.
Painters, ink and white, musicians, here silence is better than sound. In life, uselessness is great use, as soon as you let go, nothing will be light.
If you can't get a position, you give up a step, that is, you take the initiative to let the virtuous, and you have a reputation.
For those who can't be loved, if you make a single step, you will fulfill other people's families and protect your own families.
The child is not good enough, you give a step and accept the child's ordinary, you will find the child's strengths.
Your parents have treated you badly, and if you give in a step, you will find that your parents also have difficulties that they can't do anything about, long live understanding.
The lover is very aggressive, you take a step and see the company of your lover, and you are also moved.
Accepting imperfection is a regression, but also a calm and indifferent life.
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It is a blessing to suffer unfair treatment and learn to go backwards, and to have peace of mind.
People's hearts are like rulers, and their hearts are flat.
Too many people, living with indignation, and then going to work with anger, and as a result, they are even more angry. What you want is always so far away.
A retired old man, knowing that he has worked for a long time, but his pension is less than others, thinks that society is unfair. Then, he made two choices: one was to go to work to earn some money to make up for his pension, and the other was to go to the trouble of his former unit and repeatedly make appeals.
Part-time jobs will make an old man tired. And looking at people's faces, it is even more uncomfortable than before.
If you are looking for trouble, you will be unhappy, and there will be no result, but you will be thought by your old colleagues that you have a problem with your morality.
I have always wanted to have a little more pension, and my heart is very painful. I paid for the labor, but it was even more painful, and my old age was also a hard life.
People of any age have suffered unfairly. If only you believed that there is no such thing as absolute fairness.
Take a step back and let the injustice exist. Enjoy the fruits of the moment, your little day, make a big difference.
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Zeng Shiqiang also said: "We repeatedly encourage our children to be like that. Causes the child to be anxious, troubled, and afraid of failing his parents, and the signs of hard work and death come. Therefore, we need to do it in moderation and not overdo it. ”
Give up your desires, hope will come, throw away your troubles, life will be calm, and if you don't seek perfection, life will be simple.
You're always fighting so hard that you have to stop and enjoy what you've done.
This money, don't have a life to earn, no life; this position, don't sit overbearing, don't obey the old; this child, don't work hard to live, can't teach...... In the process of advancing and retreating, it is all learning.
In this life, what people fight is the inner spirit, not the external object.
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