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Recalling the whole process of live dancing with her husband Liu Genghong two years ago, and then becoming popular, Wang Wanfei's first reaction was still "very unreal".
"Actually, at first, I just wanted to accompany him, because there was no one with him, and I didn't expect to dig a hole for myself, and in the end I could only keep jumping and jumping, and I couldn't climb up again!" Wang Wanfei said.
Wang Wanfei, 45 years old this year, has many identities. When she was young, she was Miss Universe and Miss China, and after she got married, she was Liu Genghong's wife and the mother of Yuen, Puff and Shanshan, and since the beginning of 2022, she and Liu Genghong have been dancing aerobics live together, she has quickly become well-known to the public, and has become a popular "Sister Vivi" among boys and girls with her humorous personality.
In the past two years, Wang Wanfei's career has been on the rise, not only setting off a boom in national fitness with Liu Genghong, but also creating her own clothing brand and health food brand. Not long ago, she published her first book, "Eating for Life", which shares family recipes and healthy eating ideas.
Along the way, Wang Wanfei felt that her life was full of accidents and surprises: an ordinary high school girl who unexpectedly shined in a beauty pageant, met her lifelong partner when she first entered the entertainment industry, had 8 fibroids in her uterus, and finally welcomed three cute and beautiful children......
We chatted with Wang about her story, and ultimately found that in addition to luck, the right direction and long-termist persistence are equally important. As she herself sighed, "Maybe it's because our original intention of doing something is very simple, and in the end we can achieve a lot of unexpected surprises." ”
The following is based on Wang Wanfei's narration.
From "Ugly Duckling" to beauty pageant winner
When I was younger, the word "beauty" didn't exist in my dictionary of life.
Since I was born, I have been a "distinctive" child, with hair curled like a spring, and it will bounce back to the scalp when I pull it up, and my body has always been fat, never very slender.
When I was in junior high school, I was over 60 kilograms, and every time I looked at myself in the mirror - my curly hair and a slightly dirty complexion, I felt so ugly. So when I was a girl, I always dressed neutrally, cut my hair very short and short, and wore loose oversized clothes to cover my flesh, and I thought that since I wasn't pretty, I should be handsome.
When I was 18 years old, I went to a beauty pageant because of my mom's "design". She thought I was too introverted and didn't talk at home, and she couldn't get used to seeing me unkempt all day long, so she secretly signed up for me, trying to stimulate me to make changes.
At that time, the contestants who went to participate in the competition were either signed artists of a modeling company or school girls of a certain school, and no one was a "fat girl" like me. In order not to lose face on stage, I lost weight like crazy, eating only boiled vegetables and boiled pork slices every day, combined with swimming and other exercises, and lost 8 kilograms in a month. When I returned to school after the winter vacation, many of my classmates didn't recognize me as Wang Wanfei.
Because I worked hard to change my figure, I made it to the finals for the first time I participated in a beauty pageant. My mom was also nervous, she just wanted to challenge me at first, and she didn't really expect me to get any rankings.
Before the finals, she advised me, or we wouldn't have participated, anyway, it's very good that you can make it to the finals. I said, the competition is all about staying the course, no matter how many places I have, I'm going to finish it. Because I'm afraid of seeing the result, I want to give up, and it's not OK for you to do this.
In that competition, I actually won the second place, and also won the Best Temperament Award, the Most Photogenic Award and the Best Body Award, which can be said to have ushered in the first highlight moment of my life.
In the two years since, I have participated in many beauty contests, won many awards, and become a professional beauty pageant. Every time during the competition, we would attend a lot of classes, practice Xi wearing high heels, putting on makeup, and grooming ourselves. I've gone through countless makeovers to become what you see now.
When I came back from the competition, suddenly a lot of people asked me to make a movie. I originally majored in chemical engineering, but I ended up in the entertainment industry for no apparent reason.
After entering the entertainment industry, the first boy I knew was Coach Liu. After I got to know him, I didn't have a chance to meet other boys again (laughs).
Coach Liu was already a sports maniac. His whole day's itinerary is "moving", and he tries not to sit on transportation as much as possible. I thought I was already very athletic, but compared to him, it was still a drop in the bucket. When we were in love, our dating activities were basically related to sports, such as cycling to swimming, cycling to play ball, playing with friends and going hiking.
When I was younger, Coach Liu and I had very different personalities. He is very impatient and hot-tempered, and he will get angry easily when he encounters things. I'm slower and more introverted.
When two people have a conflict, I am Xi not talking, I will think that I don't quarrel with you, each calm and calm, and wait for the matter to pass. But Coach Liu is not, he will feel "if you don't tell me, how do I know what you are thinking", and then he will keep forcing you to speak, and even say some cruel things to force you to speak. But what you are forced to say by him is not your true words many times.
It took us a long time to learn how to communicate with each other and how to solve problems calmly. At different ages and stages, we treat each other differently. Everyone now thinks that we have a tacit understanding, but it is actually the result of years of cultivation.
Start a healthy new life
After eight years of dating, Coach Liu and I entered the palace of marriage.
However, when we wanted to have children, I was found to have 8 fibroids in my uterus. The doctor said that I might have a hard time conceiving, and that made me very sad. We tried hard for a long time, and finally, in the fourth year of marriage, we were lucky to welcome our first child, Yuen, followed by Puff and Shanshan.
After giving birth, my body was out of shape, and my belly was big and loose, like a turtle shell stuck in my belly. Once Coach Liu asked me to watch a movie, I found that I couldn't wear any of the previous clothes, and finally I reluctantly put on a wide half-sleeved top.
Because I was not confident in my appearance, I rarely went out to take pictures and meet my friends, and I just stayed at home with my children every day. At that time, I was very depressed, thinking to myself, I must not be able to return to my old body and state. But Coach Liu told me not to rush, he said he would come to help me.
Because I have to take care of three children at home, I can't go out to exercise, so Coach Liu has made up a lot of aerobics that can be danced at home. Like the shuttlecock exercise of "Compendium of Materia Medica" that everyone is dancing in the live broadcast room now, it is the exercise that Coach Liu used to help me recover after giving birth to my first child.
In the past, in order to escape the exercise, I would also make excuses that I had to take care of the baby, and I was very busy and had no time. But this reason is not valid with Coach Liu. The reason why he has been able to maintain a good figure for 30 years is because he knows how to move with stitches and needles. For example, he walks and rides to catch up with the notice, and carries small gym equipment such as dumbbells with him in his bag. In between recordings, he never sits there and waits, and all the fragments of time are used for exercise.
Coach Liu often told me that as long as you have the heart, as long as you want, there is nothing you can't do. His ability to use time often amazes me. Not only in sports, but also in all aspects of life, and over time, I have mastered the ability to multitask.
Even though I believe in his professionalism, in the process of losing weight, I still get angry and want to scold him and beat him. Coach Liu was also very helpless, saying that I was the most difficult student he had ever taught.
Looking back now, it's mainly because of the loss, but when I was young, I was also a beauty pageant, and I was in good shape enough to win an award, but after giving birth, I changed a lot, and every time I gave birth, I had to go through a process from fat to thin, and the abdominal muscles were cut and then recovered, which was really hard.
When I feel sad, I will be even more upset when I see Coach Liu next to me so actively asking me to move, and I want to say, are you trying to change me? Is it because I am too fat, so you don't love me?
Of course, later I slowly understood his good intentions, and understood that he wanted to help me regain my self-confidence, find my original self, and have more energy and physical strength to cope with life. After persisting day after day, I have really seen the changes in my body, so I want to share our methods with more people who have the same problems.
In addition to exercise, our family is also very concerned about the health of the diet.
My dad left us at the age of 59 with a heart attack caused by diabetes. He has always had high blood sugar problems before his death, loves desserts and fatty meat, and does not like to exercise. My father's illness touched me a lot and made me realize that if I want to spend more time with my family, I must start eating healthier.
Many people may be curious, what is the dining table of Sister Vivi and Coach Liu's house?
Actually, no, we just eat ordinary home-cooked food, with vegetables, meat, and rice in one meal. However, I will choose fresh ingredients, use seasonings with a clean ingredient list, and pay attention to less oil, less salt and less sugar during the cooking process to preserve the original taste of the food as much as possible.
As a mother of three, cooking for the whole family is a big project. But I enjoyed the cooking.
The kitchen in our house is open plan and connected to the living room. I feel that the kitchen is the center of the house, and every time I am cooking, my children and husband will gather around me to participate and accompany each other.
If it is a closed kitchen, my mother is alone in it to cut vegetables, stir-fry vegetables, and then bring them out for everyone to eat, and then bring the dishes in, and a person is very lonely over there scrubbing and washing, it will feel very desolate, not the atmosphere that a family should have.
Through years of experimentation, I have found that it is not difficult to make a large table of healthy food, as long as you choose the right ingredients, use the right tools, and adjust the cooking methods and techniques, you can make a variety of dishes in a very short time, and the kitchen can be kept fresh and clean.
And because there are no tedious steps, the children will be more interested, and cooking will become a fun family activity. My family's diet and common recipes are all fully recorded in the book "Eating Healing Life".
The second spring of a stay-at-home mother's career
Recalling the process of dancing with Coach Liu in the Douyin live broadcast room and becoming popular, I still feel very unreal.
Actually, at first, I just wanted to accompany him so that he would not be so lonely, but I didn't expect to end up digging a hole and jumping into it by myself, and I couldn't climb out again (laughs).
If I continue to dance at a high frequency, I will also get tired. But every time I think about it, there are so many people who need my company and my encouragement, and I feel a sense of mission. And as long as people move, they will immediately become very happy and energetic. What's more, when your job is to exercise, you don't have to squeeze out extra time to exercise after work, isn't it already very lucky?
Coach Liu has also been trying to find ways to make the jumping exercises more varied, such as playing cross-dressing games, inviting different artist friends to the live broadcast room, and constantly making up new exercises, the purpose is to reduce everyone's tiredness.
In the past, as a model and actor, I just had to do my job well. But now, I need to accompany a group to grow together, and this meaning is very different, and the sense of responsibility and accomplishment will be greater.
Later, the creation of a jumping clothing brand and a health food brand was also based on the real needs of boys and girls.
There have been many times before when I wanted to recommend healthy foods with zero additives and a clean ingredient list, but I found that I couldn't find them. I told our business partners that if you can find good things that meet the standards in the market, then we don't need to do it, just find someone to work with, because they are already very professional.
Unless you can't find it, we have to do a demonstration for everyone to see, roll a roll of the food industry, hoping to use our influence to make the entire industry develop in a better direction, so that everyone can buy clean and healthy food effortlessly in the future.
In the past two years, my work has become very busy because of the live broadcast. But I try to schedule my work as much as possible when my kids are in school and not sacrifice time with my family.
For example, every Tuesday and Thursday, the children have to go to school during the day, and I have to live broadcast the dance with Coach Liu at night, and if I can't accompany them for two whole days, I will tell my friends in the company that it is better to help me schedule all the work in these two days, so that I can not work on Saturdays and Sundays, and the whole family can spend a relatively complete small weekend.
For me, my greatest wish in life is to have a happy family, with a husband and children who love me, and I hope to take good care of them. Some people may think that work is more important, but in the ranking of my life value, my family always comes first, and being a good mother and wife is the greatest source of confidence in myself.
I am grateful and content for what I have today. My ultimate goal, to have a happy family, has been achieved, and the rest are extra gifts from fate.
My current idea is very simple, that is, while I am still able to share and pass on the concept of healthy living, so that more and more boys and girls can enjoy the fun and benefits of healthy life and discover more possibilities in life.