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Nowadays, there are many people who are "afraid of marriage" in society, especially male friends, in fact, for most men, they are afraid of marriage or face huge economic pressure.
You must know that you must prepare a wedding house and a wedding car before marriage, and at the same time give the woman a bride price, which is a huge amount of expenses, which cannot be affordable for children from ordinary families.
On the other hand, many women usually follow the advice of their parents when looking for their other half and choose those who have a house and a car, although this kind of thinking and practice is too realistic, and it can even be said to be money worship.
But it is undeniable that finding a good family can indeed avoid too much hard work, at least you don't have to worry about car loans and mortgages, but then again, if you are looking for a partner who only values material things, it is difficult to find a suitable other half, and the marriage may not be happy.
Here are some suggestions for the majority of female friends, if you have a daughter, you can also tell your daughter, you must look at these three details when looking for a partner.
First of all, this first detail depends on the man's character and morality, which can be said to be the most important, after all, no matter whether he is rich or poor, he will live with each other for the rest of his life in the future.
And the man's temperament and character directly determine the future marriage relationship and life, for a simple example, if you are lazy and idle, even if the family wealth is squandered.
In ancient times, many gentlemen were the best examples, such as Hu Hai, the son of Qin Shi Huang, Yang Guang, the son of Yang Jian, and Yang Guang of Sui, etc., who relied on the great achievements of their fathers to squander them, and eventually harmed others and themselves, and did not die well.
But if the character is excellent, even if the tea is coarse and the rice is light, the life is also delicious, especially if it is connected with oneself and has the same three views, such a partner has a lot of common language and stronger ideological resonance.
And people with good conduct often do not always fall down, and one day they will get ahead, not necessarily worse than those rich second generations or landlords and tyrants.
The second detail is to see how the man's family style is, which is also an important point, although family style does not necessarily completely affect the child's personality and morality.
However, the concept instilled in the child and the family education received will have an impact on the individual's subconscious and life trajectory, and a good family style and a bad family style will bring children a completely different fate and three views.
For example, Li Hongzhang and Zeng Guofan, important ministers in the late Qing Dynasty, had an extremely good family style and family motto, both of them set up many family rules during their lifetimes, and when they were in their later years, they were required to act in strict accordance with the family rules and family mottos.
And when they nurture their offspring, they will do their best to guide them to the right path, paying great attention to children's moral education and academic cultivation, which is in stark contrast to the current people's excessive emphasis on children's studies.
So you can see that the descendants of Zeng Guofan and Li Hongzhang have extraordinary achievements and deeds in various fields, and their conduct and personal virtues have won the appreciation of the people around them.
But if the family style is not correct and the family education is not good, then the child's morality will also be greatly affected, just like the thief's child will follow the adult's example to steal from an early age, and the butcher's child will follow his father to learn to kill pigs from an early age.
After all, it is difficult for children in the ignorance period to understand what is right and wrong, what is a good moral cultivation, if adults do not set a good example or give the right education, it will imperceptibly bring children bad ideological cognition in the future development.
There is also a good family style of the in-law's family is also for their own future life considerations, you must know that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is often a problem that many people cannot solve, and some daughters-in-law are not even respected and cared for by their in-laws after they get married.
This is a direct manifestation of the other party's improper family style and lack of cultivation, so looking for the other half depends not only on the other party's character, but also on the family style and conduct of the in-law's family.
The third detail is to see whether the man is self-motivated and resourceful, which are important factors in determining whether the male friend can have greater development and achievements in the future.
If you have the first two points, but you don't have the will to be aggressive, or you don't have the wisdom to plan for the future, then it is difficult to break out of your own world, and you can only be content with the status quo and live an ordinary life.
Of course, this is not to say that it is not bad, each of us has the right and freedom to choose our own life, but many women long for their other half to progress with them, grow together, and have a better future.
Based on this idea, it is natural to find a like-minded and like-minded other half, and only in this way can we work together to create a better married life.
In addition, female friends should also continue to shape their own conduct and improve their personal abilities, which is the foundation and confidence to find their other half in the future.
If you meet a suitable other half in the future, but because the other party's ideological realm and ability are far higher than your own, it is difficult for both parties to have more common language and achieve spiritual resonance.
Therefore, while requiring the other half to have high standards, he should also reach the corresponding level, perhaps this is the contemporary family match, and it is also the correct view of marriage.
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