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Preface
"I don't know if I'm a girl or a boy. ”
There is only a distinction between men and women in gender perception, but "intersex" people have the dual characteristics of men and women, and there will always be deviations in their cognition.
And 34-year-old Wang Ziqi is such an "intersex person". Her life was discriminated against, her work was repeatedly frustrated, and her parents did not understand her and kicked her out of the house.
For 10 years, she has lived alone in Shenzhen, working hard day and night to make money, in order to be a real woman. So now her wish has come true?
Intersex people – natural dilemmas and self-identity
Intersex people, also known as hermaphrodites, refer to a group of special minorities who have both male and female reproductive organs and are sex-oriented.
In most cases, their appearance is not clear about their gender characteristics, and they need to undergo chromosomal and hormonal tests to determine their identity, and the dilemma faced by intersex people is far more complex and painful than ordinary people think.
According to medical tests, intersex people can be divided into three types based on their chromosomes and genitals.
True intersex people have both male and female chromosomes, as well as two sets of reproductive systems. Male pseudointersex chromosomes are male, but the genitals do not fully differentiate into male.
Female pseudointersex chromosomes are female, and the genitals are not completely differentiated into females. The three types of intersex people are often atypical in appearance, making it difficult to determine their gender affiliation.
Belgian supermodel Hanni has publicly stated her intersex identity on social platforms, calling on the society to pay attention to their special group.
South African runner Castel was embroiled in a gender controversy and was accused of being intersex, but was eventually allowed to compete on medication.
It's a pity that her grades plummeted after the medication. It shows that the social environment of the intersex community is still more sensitive and awkward.
It is conceivable that the difficulties and pains that intersex people have to face in their lives are far beyond ordinary people, and as an intersex person, Wang Ziqi has also encountered a lot of troubles.
Wang Ziqi who suffered misfortune
In 1989, Wang Ziqi was born in the countryside, and when she was in the third grade of primary school, she found that her body had changed.
After going to the hospital for an examination, a result that shocked the whole family was found - she suffered from "46,XX syndrome", which has both female and male reproductive organs.
Because the village where he lived was relatively closed and conservative, the news spread quickly, and Wang Ziqi became the topic of conversation in the village.
The villagers did not understand her illness and treated her as a "freak", and the children imitated the adults to bully her, which brought great trauma to Wang Ziqi's psyche.
What made her even more painful was that her parents also avoided her, and even called her bad luck to her face.
As she grew older, her previously inconspicuous masculine features became more and more pronounced, which made the discrimination and aggression of the villagers and classmates even more serious.
Wang Ziqi had to bear reproaches from all directions, which brought her great mental pressure. When she was 16 years old, her family "kicked her out" of the house, and Wang Ziqi had to come to Shenzhen alone to work and make a living.
At first, life was very difficult, she did not have much education and no life experience, so she could only live in a low-rent house and do some manual work to earn a meager wage.
Wang Ziqi once found a long-term job in an electrical factory, but once, when she went to the toilet, other female workers discovered her body secrets, and the news spread again among her colleagues.
Although Wang Ziqi explained that he would not cause harm to anyone, he was fired by the company on the grounds that "employees are generally not adaptable". Such an encounter made Wang Ziqi completely lose confidence in human nature, and she no longer dared to believe in the world.
Life blessed with a turnaround
At the most difficult time, the appearance of his friend Xiao Wang ignited Wang Ziqi's hope. Xiao Wang encouraged her to get checked and accompanied her to the hospital. Doctors finally diagnosed her with the rare disease of "hermaphroditism".
The examination report not only showed that her chromosomes belonged to women, but also that the sex reassignment could be corrected through surgery and medication, and Wang Ziqi was ecstatic, she finally saw the dawn of hope.
The report became a turning point for Wang Ziqi to change his identity and fate. She couldn't wait to return to her hometown, changed her gender and name, and got her wish to become a legal "woman".
The moment she got her ID card, tears poured out like a, and years of grievances and pain were released at this moment, Wang Ziqi began to work and socialize actively, eager to get a normal life.
However, the physiological problems remain unresolved, and the excess reproductive organs cause great pain and are more likely to become cancerous. The cost of surgery to remove a set of organs is as high as more than 200,000 yuan, which is an astronomical amount for Wang Ziqi.
At this time, public welfare organizations and netizens reached out to her, and friends also pooled money to help, and she remembered this kindness for the rest of her life. Despite living in poverty, Wang Ziqi still buys beautiful clothes and tries to get a little psychological comfort.
She firmly believes that as long as the surgery is successful, she can live a normal life, which is her greatest wish in this life.
In November, a hospital decided to perform surgery for her free of charge, and we sincerely wish this unfortunate but strong girl a successful passage through the hardships of life and usher in true luck.
And there are no longer a few "intersex people" like Wang Ziqi, but some of them are not as lucky as Wang Ziqi, even if they have surgery, they are at risk of failure.
The story of the intersex Ah Wa
In the 70s of the 20th century, an intersex man named Ah Hua was born in a small mountain village in Jiangxi, China.
At first, the family thought she was a boy and was very happy, but when they saw her body, the family became very disappointed.
Originally, he wanted to abandon her, but at the insistence of his grandmother, Ah Hua stayed at home. Later, her family took her to the doctor.
Doctors showed that Ahua's sex could be defined by surgery, and that it was cheaper to do surgery for girls, but the family liked boys.
The high cost is far beyond the reach of this poor farmer. So they gave up the idea of changing Ah Hua, and this decision changed Ah Hua's fate.
In the village, Ah Hua was brutally bullied. The children stripped her of her clothes and made fun of her, and the adults called her a "monster". In the midst of these humiliations, Ah Hua became more and more introverted and sensitive.
At first, her family comforted her, but gradually they became estranged from her. During her school days, her classmates and teachers discriminated against her.
She once asked her father for help, but she was also ruthlessly rebuffed. In this environment, Ah Hua dropped out of school when he was in the third grade of primary school.
When he was in the fifth grade, his father left home after accepting a job transfer, and his mother and grandmother died one after another, and Ah Hua became an "orphan" under the fence.
Despite the ups and downs of fate, she finds hope in despair, and Ah Hua undergoes an operation, but the first operation fails.
But she didn't choose to give up, and Ah Hua later adopted a child and found the meaning of life again.
summary
Everyone is born with their own unique life experience. We should not be overly critical of other people's choices, nor should we impose our own standards on others, and everyone deserves to be respected by others.