High school parent-teacher conferences, dads suddenly increased? The truth is here

Your parent-teacher conference,

Mom and Dad, who participates?

Recently, a joke circulated on the Internet:

There are few fathers in the junior high school parent-teacher association,

There are few moms in high school parent-teacher conferences.

When I went to high school, I found that

The number of fathers who came to the parent-teacher conference suddenly increased.

Why is this happening?

Netizens ridiculed:

At different stages,

Has there really been a change in the percentage of moms and dads attending parent-teacher conferences?

Are the claims circulating online true?

Today

Let's talk about parent-teacher conferences.

How much are dads involved in high school parent-teacher conferences?

Probably not more than half

Are the rumors true on the Internet? We conducted random surveys in some elementary, middle, and high school classes in Hangzhou.

Primary school teachers generally reported that there were indeed more mothers in parent-teacher meetings, with mothers accounting for three-fifths in some classes and two-thirds in others. I usually communicate with teachers, and I am basically a mother.

In junior high school, there are still more mothers at parent-teacher meetings, but the proportion of fathers has increased. A junior high school class just had a parent-teacher meeting, and the head teacher carefully counted the group photos, and there were 13 fathers and 25 mothers. There is also a class teacher who said that in the most recent parent-teacher meeting in his class, the parent-to-parent ratio was 3:7.

After surveying several high school classes, the class teacher generally reported that there were quite a lot of fathers who came to participate, and the higher the grade, the more fathers would appear.

"In the first year of high school, mothers basically come, and later the school will also suggest that fathers should come more, and will emphasize that fathers should also participate in parenting; in the second year of high school, fathers can account for one-third; in the third year of high school, fathers will participate more, almost half. The high school homeroom teacher is also a parent of a kindergarten child, and she found that since kindergarten, the parent-teacher meeting is basically attended by the mother, "My daughter is in the big class, and the father went to the parent-teacher meeting, and it turned out that out of 30 parents, only two fathers went, basically mothers, and even grandmothers and grandmothers." ”

Compared with kindergarten and elementary school level 1, the participation of fathers in high school parent-teacher conferences has indeed increased. However, she has also observed the situation of parent-teacher meetings in other classes in the school, and the Internet rumor that "there are few mothers in the high school parent-teacher meeting" is obviously not accurate. "No matter how many dads there are, it's basically not more than half. ”

In a senior class of another high school, the head teacher also sent a photo of the parent-teacher meeting, and the proportion of parents in the photo was almost half.

Go to the wrong classroom and find the wrong teacher,

Dad held a parent-teacher meeting and made a lot of jokes

Why are there more fathers in high school parents' meetings? Regarding this question, netizens' answers are funny with a little "contempt" for their fathers.

"Because when I got to high school, my father suddenly realized that he had a child, or no matter anymore, the child didn't recognize him. ”

"My husband's children didn't add children to the group before high school, and the children said that they are the same as divorced families, and now they are actively involved. ”

"Because dads need more and more to have a number of their future economic balance. ”

"The fathers went to pick the fruit. My colleague's husband is that he cooked for his daughter in his junior year of high school, and proudly said to my colleague, you were good to your daughter before, and she didn't remember when she was young, but she only remembered that I cooked delicious dishes for her in her senior year of high school. ”

In contrast, the teachers' analysis was more rational.

"A family needs to assume a variety of roles according to each person's strengths, and when it comes to high school, it involves the selection of exams, filling in volunteers, etc., and there are many things in the direction of strategic and tactical decision-making, and sometimes my mother will sigh that my brain is really a little unable to keep up. A head teacher said frankly that relatively speaking, the father in the family will assume the role of external communication, and the pattern and vision are more open, so the father of the high school parent-teacher meeting will participate more, "and now many mothers have to take care of the second child at home, and let the mother come, which is really not energetic." ”

There are also class teachers who said that in primary school and junior high school, generally speaking, the life of the mother will be more meticulous in taking care of the child, and in the high school stage, the child's self-care ability becomes stronger, and more consideration is given to the future development direction, and the fathers will pay more attention to current affairs and changes in the college entrance examination situation, so it can better match the theme of the parent-teacher meeting.

Of course, there is another point, which is that schools and teachers continue to emphasize the importance of fathers in family education.

"When I first started high school, there were very few fathers coming to parent-teacher meetings, and we would also do parental work to get fathers involved. Chen Hong, the senior head teacher of Hangzhou No. 7 Middle School, said that adolescent children will encounter some problems such as interpersonal communication, boy-girl interactions, and academic pressure, "The children also reported that mothers are prone to emotional anxiety if they can't move, and fathers have big hearts, so in the nervous third year of high school, I also hope that my father can accompany me more." ”

Combining the different thinking of men and women to consider and manage multiple aspects, Ms. Chen has repeatedly emphasized the importance of father's participation in education with parents, "In the past three years, in the third year of high school, fathers will really come to participate in parent-teacher conferences. ”

However, because Dad rarely attends parent-teacher conferences, he occasionally "flashes" and makes a lot of jokes.

Some netizens shared that Dad didn't even know whether he was in junior high school or elementary school. "One time my mom was too busy to take a break and had to let my dad who was playing cards go, and he went to elementary school, but I was already in junior high school. ”

The head teacher of a junior high school in Hangzhou said that once the school also organized a "parent-teacher meeting", and the fathers came to participate in suits and leather shoes, but some went to the wrong classroom and some found the wrong teacher. ”

In order to get dad to participate more in parent-teacher conferences,

Many schools in Hangzhou have thought of a way

Over the years, in order to let my father participate in the parent-teacher meeting more, in addition to the class teachers' appeals again and again, many schools in Hangzhou have also come up with ideas.

Last year, at a parent-teacher meeting for new students in Hangzhou Dinglan Experimental Middle School, Mr. David, the head teacher, specially invited fathers to hold a parent-teacher meeting. At the scene, Mr. Dai asked fathers who attended the parent-teacher meeting for the first time or attended the parent-teacher meeting no more than 3 times to raise their hands, and more than a dozen fathers raised their hands.

Xu Xiaoli, a senior teacher at Hangzhou Jiangnan Experimental School, said that a few years ago, the school organized a parent-teacher meeting for fathers, and the original intention was to hope that fathers would participate in parent-child interaction.

"Each family has a different division of labor, and there is no rule on who will attend the parent-teacher conference, but it is indeed recommended that the father can take the initiative to accompany the child's growth and take on the responsibility of 'education partner' with the mother. Teacher Xu said that women are delicate, but it is relatively easier to be anxious and anxious when encountering problems, "The absence of the father in the education will make the mother physically and mentally exhausted, the emotional state is not good, and it is easier to hurt the parent-child relationship, so we advocate parents to cooperate and participate in family education in a measured manner." ”

Who is more suitable for mom and dad to hold parent-teacher conferences?

You can listen to the suggestions of the class teachers

Mom and Dad, who will have parent-teacher conferences? Different families may have different considerations.

In the interview, some parents said that after the family discussed it, if the child did well in the exam, let the mother participate in the parent-teacher meeting, and let the father go if the test did not well. "As a result, children usually don't do well in the exam, and I have the impression that my mother only went once..."

Who will hold the parent-teacher conference, and are the teachers tendentious?

"There is no tendency, it will not be advised, it mainly depends on which parent is available. A junior high school homeroom teacher bluntly said that as long as the spirit of the parent-teacher meeting can be conveyed in place, in fact, everyone will come, "It's just that sometimes I am surprised, I usually communicate more with my mother, but my father came to the parent-teacher meeting that day." ”

Teacher Chen Hong introduced that in combination with educational psychology, human development and needs are multi-level, and fathers and mothers are managed at different levels and from different angles, playing a role in coordinating and complementing each other. "For example, girls, although they will talk to their mothers about private topics, but if they are accompanied by their fathers, they will increase their courage and be more decisive and generous; ”

Teacher Chen also mentioned that if family education is a mother's business, taking too much responsibility and managing too carefully, it is easy to lose control of emotions after being tired. "In family education, dad should play the role of an adult male role model. ”

Source: Chao News reporter Zhu Lizhen

Editor in charge: Ni Wangzhen