Female celebrity little boyfriend, poverty alleviation or true love?

The 42-year-old Jin Sha and her little boyfriend, Sun Chengxiao, a 23-year-old graduate of the opera, showed their affection in a variety show, and instantly became the focus of discussion on social media. Even if Jin Sha is not a traffic star in the entertainment industry, the 19-year-old "female and male" relationship still brings huge attention to the couple. Jin Sha said that she "has longed to get married since she was a child", while Sun Chengxiao said that this is "love for the purpose of marriage". But looking at this 23-year-old young boy who has just walked out of school, it is hard to believe that he understands what he means by "getting married".

"Good men don't circulate in the market?"

This program on Jinsha is called "Love's Study Trip", which is a typical emotional observation program created by Mango TV. The guest selection of such shows is usually gimmick-first - to put it bluntly, it is the labels and emotional patterns of couples/couples that are more important than feelings. In this season's program, Zhu Dan Yiwei, who is known for his strong and smiling husband and wife feelings, has Xi Mengyao He Youjun who holds the title of a wealthy couple, and Wang Yanlin Ai Jiani of the active atmosphere group at first glance, and the label of Jinsha's group is of course the age difference.

Jin Sha obviously knows what everyone wants to see, and at the beginning of the show, he exploded on the show that "good men are not circulating in the market", making it clear that he had picked up a treasure. It's just that when she said this, Sun Chengxiao next to her didn't look at her at all, and kept staring at the sidelines (or the staff), obviously he was more nervous about his state in the show than what his girlfriend said.

When Jin Sha leaned on her boyfriend, Sun Chengxiao always remained stiff

Jinsha's limb state is indeed more relaxed

Of course, we can't say that this is wrong, after all, although Sun Chengxiao is said to be a graduate of the theater, his first job from the entertainment industry was to participate in the recording of "Love's Study Trip". His nervousness can be clearly seen in the show, for example, compared with Jinsha in the back recording, Sun Chengxiao sat upright and did not move; Another example is that it is difficult for Jin Sha to relax and look at her when she is talking, and even staring at the camera without blinking.

Later, the three couples had dinner together, and Sun Chengxiao was also very nervous throughout the whole process, almost all of them were Jinsha talking. Some people say that they can't feel the emotional flow of Sun Chengxiao and Jin Sha, and feel that compared with them, Zhou Yiwei loves Zhu Dan more.

also because of Sun Chengxiao's reaction, many netizens said that he was "pretending to be pure", and he also responded on Weibo, saying that he was on the show for the first time in his life, and he was very nervous in front of his predecessors and the camera.

 And if you look closely at the show, you will find that although Jin Sha said that good men are not in circulation, and her words are clear that she wants to "lock" Sun Chengxiao, but the mode of getting along with Sun Chengxiao does not seem to be the "marriage" in her mouth. In the initial emotional relationship test of the show, experts proposed that Jinsha Sun Chengxiao's mode of getting along is "dreamy", the advantage is that the two are full of love and are in a state of love, the problem is that they may ignore each other's shortcomings, and [insufficient readiness for marriage].

To put it bluntly, these two people are still in love, but they came to a marriage observation variety show. This is also the reason why many people are not optimistic about this pair - at first glance, they are in love.

The problems of the two were already expected at the beginning of the show

Faced with the questions of netizens, Jin Sha also posted a response, ridiculing herself for "whether she has a face that is easy to hurt".

However, the biggest obstacle for her and Sun Chengxiao is not just the age of 19, but the state of life. To be honest, when they were alone in the show, Jin Sha and Sun Chengxiao's relaxation was obvious. The audience can also find that the interaction between Sun Chengxiao and Jin Sha is loving.

But Sun Chengxiao has just entered the society and has not yet found her own life model. Now he can fully follow Jinsha's arrangement, but being young means more variables. In the later stage, once Sun Chengxiao has a personal development opportunity, the opinions of the two are likely to differ, and then the romantic bubble will burst, and what will greet them may be a bleak ending.

A female celebrity's little boyfriend, a big gamble on feelings?

It is not uncommon for female celebrities to find young boyfriends, and many of them can successfully enter the palace of marriage. Many people think that a female star looking for a little boyfriend is a big gamble. In fact, there are huge differences in the personalities of actresses, and their needs for themselves and their other halves are also different.

One is those who are indeed dating on the premise of marriage. This kind of actress usually falls in love with a young man and then successfully enters the marriage hall, but the age gap is not too big. For example, Xiao Li Lin and Jing Chao, who are 6 years apart, and Chen Zihan and Dai Xiangyu, who are 9 years apart.

Chen Zihan Dai Xiangyu

Li Lin Jingchao

They are all well-known actresses, and they all have impressive film and television works in their hands. But on the other hand, they are not first- and second-tier actresses, they do not have the ability and resources to continue to supply classic works, perhaps they do not have strong ambitions, and they will inevitably give up the position of the protagonist as they get older. Therefore, family life must be the focus of the second half of their lives.

After entering marriage, such actresses usually choose to focus their lives on the management of life, so that their relatively young partners, male actors, have no worries about their careers. They are more age-free and can go further and more steadily in their careers. With the development of the actor's career, the role of husband and wife in the family has also changed. 

Of course, there is also a risk that with this change of role, the woman's work will be tightened within the family, and the man will see the world outside, and as a result, he may drift away from his wife. Because she has been married for a long time, no matter how beautiful a female star is, she is just an "ordinary pillow person". A typical example is Hong Xin and Zhang Danfeng, when Zhang Danfeng became popular with "Flower Thousand Bone", his love with Hong Xin was praised by countless people, who would have thought that Zhang Danfeng and Bi Ying would break out in a "scandal" within two years.

There is also a category of actresses who are also in love with young men, but the purpose is to enjoy love, marriage is not an inevitable result, and of course it is not the end.

They are the ones who truly embrace the "emotional value" in relationships. This type of actress is usually more successful in her career, such as first-line or continuously popular female stars. The core skill of this type of actress is to "carry it clearly" and know what she wants most.

After Jin Sha's little boyfriend was announced, many netizens said that he was also a singer, and if the woman was Xiao Yaxuan, he didn't feel like he had to worry at all. Because Xiao Yaxuan is a typical representative of getting emotional value from her boyfriend, the frequency of her changing boyfriends also shows her attitude towards feelings to a certain extent, although it can't be said to be completely free, but at least she always has the courage to let go.

Li Bingbing and her boyfriend, who is 16 years younger than herself, also announced their breakup after 4 years of dating, she said that her boyfriend was a very good person, but because of herself, he became an accessory to gossip, and said that her boyfriend would definitely be better after the two broke up. But these words are undoubtedly just a decent expression, her boyfriend can't find her place under Li Bingbing's aura, and Li Bingbing will not change the trajectory of her life, and parting ways is inevitable.

Li Bingbing responded to feelings in the interview

A little more free and easy is also related to Zhilin. She broke up with Huang Jianuo, a model who was 8 years younger than herself, after three years of love, and the reason she gave was that her world was "complicated" than his, but many people said that because Guan Zhilin didn't want to get married, Huang Jianuo, who pursued stability, was not her destination. 

To sum up, it is not difficult to find that whether it is longing for marriage or yearning for freedom, the attitude towards feelings is the key to determining the emotional mode of these actresses. As for the age of the partner, although there will indeed be differences in the early stage, it is still their own quality and personality that continue to get along. From this point of view, there is no significant difference in the cost of gambling between finding a young man and finding a man of other ages.

Why do female celebrities resist the risk of "little boyfriend"?

In the American drama "Deadly Woman", Lucy Lau played Simone fell in love with Tommy, who had an age gap of 28 years, and this relationship initially attracted almost all the audience.

Clip from "Fatal Woman".

In the end, Simone and Tommy didn't go on forever, because Simone knew that the two of them were just a journey in each other's lives, and they each had their own direction in the future.

Clip from "Fatal Woman".

Using this example can explain why many female stars can boldly and bravely choose a "young partner" who is much younger than themselves.

Career success gives them a say in their future, and financial independence gives them more confidence. These actresses can choose not to follow the schedule to arrange their lives, if they want to fall in love, they can always fall in love, and feel that "good men will not circulate in the market", so they start with college graduates.

Of course, in the traditional concept, the public believes that men must be the pillars, and women's "marriage" will inevitably bring bad results. This is also the risk that these actresses who choose a little boyfriend will face, such as lifting their boyfriend may eventually be abandoned, cheating money and sex, and eventually losing both money and money. Even if you enter marriage, there are all kinds of problems of firewood, rice, oil and salt, which fall on everyone's head regardless of age.

Zhong Liti and Zhang Lunshuo's feelings have no impact even if they have appeared on variety shows

But the anti-risk ability of female stars lies in the fact that they can afford it and have the confidence to let it go. They may not be able to keep their eyes open, but they have the strength to prevent endless falls.

And the concerns of the Internet reflect more of the public's distrust of gender relations today.

Evenly matched love is still full of risks, how can a relationship with a huge gap break through the encirclement?

The little boyfriend of a female celebrity, this is indeed a romantic fairy tale in this era, but this is an era that is very good at breaking romance and ending fairy tales.

 Will Jinsha be an exception?