From a netizen's real experience sharing.
A hot pot restaurant in front of a netizen's house. This hot pot restaurant did activities and distributed coupons in a group of more than 300 people.
The details of the content of this activity are clearly written, and the last one is: The coupon of 39.9 yuan contains ten bottles of beer, and if you don't drink alcohol, you can change it to a clear soup pot.
After repeated confirmation, the netizen's mother bought the coupon.
But when a family of three went to the hot pot restaurant to eat hot pot, the owner actually said that there was no such thing, and said that he would make money from the bottom of the pot!
The netizen's mother and netizens naturally couldn't accept it, so they found chat records and promotional videos to confront the boss face to face.
There is nothing wrong with this operation, after all, I spent money. Anyway, you have to ask.
The boss is still arguing on his side, and his own people are starting to fight among themselves.
At first, the netizen's father said forget it, but later said that his wife was embarrassed and made trouble unreasonably in other people's stores.
When netizens opened their mouths to support her mother, her father changed the conversation: People do business. The subtext is that it's not easy for people to do business, so forget it, there isn't much money anyway. But netizens didn't pick up, but went back: because of business, we must be honest.
Seeing that he couldn't make a noise, Dad dropped his chopsticks and left. Later, after negotiating with the owner of the shop, the netizen called his father to come back to eat, and his father directly said: Aren't you making trouble, what to eat!
▼ Netizen's father's way of doing things, if you think about it carefully, you can understand: after all, from his point of view, it is just a clear soup pot bottom, how much can it be worth? As for arguing with the boss? When you go out, you still have to value harmony.
It's just that his wife is embarrassed, why is his daughter also helping on the side, and refuting himself in public, so many people come and go in the store to watch, how much makes him, a father, a little unable to get off the stage.
But the boss can't be scolded if he is an outsider, because a big man is out of grace when he quarrels with people, and people see jokes, so he can only lose his temper with his own family, after all, it's okay to quarrel with his own family.
But from the perspective of the netizens and most people concerned: Dad is dying to save face and be in the nest. Obviously he is fighting for legitimate interests, but if Dad doesn't help, forget it, and he still says that he is unreasonable, which is really turning his elbow outward!
For the sake of the so-called personal face, slap the swollen face and become fat, and attack outsiders and the wind and drizzle, and attack their own people.
This is the nest.
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↓ to the inside ↓
This kind of person is angry because he gives the bad side to his relatives and his own people, but the good side is given to outsiders.
If you have such family and friends, you will have to sulk a lot every day.
Many people know that this is wrong, why can't they change it?
In essence, the reason why people in the nest dare to leave their bad feelings to their families is because they are "fearless".
There is a strong family connection between family members, and they are sure that their family will let them, and no matter how much they do, they will be forgiven by their families and will not leave them.
Many of the people in the nest are people who are not living well in reality.
They don't dare to lose their temper with outsiders because they are not strong and they are not sure if they will be hurt.
Nest Heng is generally an inferior and sensitive person in his heart, and he is more selfish in his bones. On the outside, I care a lot about the evaluation of others, so I try my best to please and satisfy my vanity by getting the affirmation and praise of outsiders.
So the question is, what would you do if you had such a person around you?