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When people reach middle age, filial piety to elderly parents is a matter of course.
Everyone knows the benefits of filial piety, but it seems that some people have a certain misunderstanding about it.
For example, the minister Yoon Gil-boo has become a tragic example.
During the Western Zhou Dynasty, a story was written in "The Story of the Wall": the two sons took turns to take care of their carpenter father, who had raised them for many years.
However, when the "31st" day came, it became a redundant day.
Each rotation can only be placed on the top of the wall, and it can be left to the wind and rain.
The idea of "keeping a hand" really failed! Therefore, while pursuing "100 virtues and filial piety first", please do a good job of long-term planning and filing! Sharing the balance of responsibilities among all siblings should be a more appropriate sustainable development model.
It's so tiring to carry everything by yourself! You need to know that those who are in charge may not be grateful to you; On the contrary, it is likely to pick and choose: "I didn't change my conditions so badly!" In addition, there will be more painful types of decisions that can only be made after careful consideration: "I want to help but am constrained - don't blame me!" However, "keeping a hand" also needs to be done within your means.
For example, if we abandon a person who is filial, we will rebuke him and correct his concept of family. But after all, filial piety is a good thing, and the entire moral standard cannot be negated just because of one example.
Let's talk about health.
"It's important to take care of your parents, but don't break yourself!" Right? Someone will indeed fall into the days of "stormy accompaniment".
Every day, I am busy with difficult tasks such as seeing doctors, going to the pharmacy to buy medicines, and cleaning urine and urine.
After taking care of elderly parents for a long time, there may even be thoughts: "I hope to end all this family cage and not kidnap the next generation."
"Can you still hold on to the same courage and dedication when the age is in front of you? I have not been hindered or disturbed, and I should have counted the motor vehicle and horse-drawn groceries to my elderly parents when I was about fifty or sixty years old! A rotation system should be established regardless of age or physical condition.
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How many clothes have been soaked in the cover and returned to the soil without a word! In this way, "relative balance" is very important.
In general, there is money to pay, but there is no money to have strength; Everyone strives to play a role, and the old age of the parents will not be too bad.
By the way, the "keep a hand" attitude did once fall under the category of mainstream cultural values.
Self-reliant, capable, and the burden of being the owner alone is nothing more than dedication without considering one's own feelings.
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Is that really good? At this point, I must stress again - don't carry the whole burden of filial piety on your shoulders alone.
"What?? Share the responsibility and pressure together?!" Please put down the tissue in your hand to wipe your tears and feelings.
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At the end of the review, I would like to warn readers to learn to plan for the long term, "relative balance", and work with siblings to create the perfect team. Taken together, it can be concluded that the willingness to act according to traditional principles is noble, but giving too much can lead to a breakdown of intimacy or a major physical and mental crisis.
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Middle-aged people who have been taking care of elderly parents for a long time, no matter how kind they are, must learn to "keep a hand", [Disclaimer] The process and pictures described in the article are from the Internet, this article aims to advocate positive social energy, no vulgarity and other bad guidance. If it involves copyright or character infringement issues, please contact us in time, and we will delete the content as soon as possible! If there is any doubt about the incident, it will be deleted or changed immediately after contact.