The variety show in which Li Jinming was cheated turned out to be a "Guide to Women's Happiness After Marriage"

This ancient program is not just as simple as "poor mountains and bad waters come out of the people", and many truths revealed in it are also applicable to civilized society.

"Li Jinming's leftover food in 14 years has been saved until now" can rush to the hot search, which is enough to show that a certain fear in people's hearts has always been there, so that some small details of old things can easily stir it up and turn it into attention and discussion one after another.

Netizens are angry and accused, presumably not just watching the fire from across the shore and pretending to be righteous people, but faintly worried that one day they will become the prey of ignorance and sinister people.

After all, even glamorous female stars can be bullied like this, so other people under the same blue sky, if one day is not careful, may also suffer this fate?

Let's review first, how unlucky Li Jinming was back then:

In 2014, she participated as one of the guests in a variety show called "Star to My Home" on Jiangsu Satellite TV, with the theme positioning of "New Family Life Experience Reality Show", and the female star will become a member of the corresponding farmer family alone, and accept a new family relationship test in the show.

In addition to Li Jinming, the guests also include Cecilia Cheung, Huang Shengyi, and Choo Ja Hyun, who will "marry" into the farm family as "daughters-in-law", under the same roof with their mothers-in-law, and their families from strangers to mutual support, recording their real food, clothing, housing and transportation through the camera.

The form is probably similar to the adult version of "Metamorphosis", the daughter-in-law is just a temporary identity, and the core is actually "female stars go to the countryside", so that they can put down their pampered posture, take off their glamorous appearance, feel the hard and simple rural life, and take temporary family members (especially mother-in-law) to take a peek at the outside world, so as to achieve a two-way contrast in the collision with each other.

Since it is a show, not to mention that there is a script, there will definitely be an outline and pre-collection, that is, according to the female stars' own experience and personality characteristics, they will be matched with corresponding families, but I don't know what Li Jinming did wrong, but he was sent to such a superb family.

The family configuration includes: father-in-law, mother-in-law, brother-in-law, sister-in-law, and Jin Ming's husband, the youngest son of the family.

Most of the time, men are invisible, and the conflict is mainly concentrated between the three women, the mother-in-law is responsible for singing the white face, and the sister-in-law is responsible for singing the red face.

As soon as she came up, her mother-in-law gently assigned tasks to her new daughter-in-law, such as feeding the chickens and getting up at 6 a.m. to make breakfast for the whole family. The sister-in-law is committed to pushing the new concubine to work in a strong and domineering manner, dirty, tired, and what she doesn't want to do, so she pushes it to Jin Ming mercilessly, for example, cleaning the pigsty.

Xiao Li was hard-working at first, she probably thought that she was working hard, and no one would come to pick on her own fault, but she forgot an idiom called "inch by inch".

In the second round of the bamboo shoot digging competition, the newcomer Li Jinming actually won, according to the agreement between her and her sister-in-law, the person who lost had to wash the family's clothes. At this time, the sister-in-law began to play tricks, first discussed with Jin Ming, saying that she could wash a little every day, and then wanted to pull Jin Ming to wash with herself.

Jin Ming, who was unwilling to compromise, asked her mother-in-law to administer justice, but not only did she not get support, but she was sent by her mother-in-law to carry water, she had no choice but to do it, but she accidentally knocked over the water when carrying the bucket, and the sister-in-law saw it in her eyes, and then turned her head to sue her mother-in-law, and as a result, the lawsuit was done, and Xiao Li became the object of accusation.

She proved herself aggrievedly: I didn't expect you all to come to me, I wasn't idle at home.

Looking at her aggrieved appearance, I directly thought of a sentence: The person who wants to frame you knows how aggrieved you are better than yourself. She's just stepping on your head to achieve her goals.

As a sister-in-law, she is the same generation as Xiao Li, no matter whether the other party has work or not, and how much work she does, she feels that that person has not done enough, and her ultimate dream is that she doesn't have to do anything and can shout five and six, in order to achieve this goal, she will do everything to trick and squeeze. The new you are wronged, because the more unfair it is to you, the better it is for me.

Mother-in-law is equivalent to a department head, it doesn't matter who does the work, it doesn't matter who is wronged, the key is that someone can work, so the right and wrong and fairness between the two daughters-in-law are not so important to the mother-in-law, she doesn't disdain to be the big man, but is more accustomed to fooling around.

In addition, she also has to consider a management cost, and the most brainless way to compress management costs is to "pick soft persimmons and pinch them", bully those who are good to bully, and those who are good to squeeze are generally assigned to newcomers who are unclear and exude a flattering atmosphere.

In short, you treat others as relatives, and others treat you as a big wrongdoer.

But as the saying goes, a rabbit has to bite even when it's in a hurry.

The sister-in-law did not give up, and Li Jinming had a physical conflict in the pushing, pushing and shoving, according to the follow-up revelations, Li Jinming bit the sister-in-law in a hurry, and the eldest brother learned that his daughter-in-law was injured, and threatened to beat Jin Ming, and later asked the program team to compensate 200,000 yuan. Due to the failure of the negotiation, the program team planned to remove Li Jinming's line, and when the machine was dismantled, the eldest brother was forced to relax when he saw that the situation was not good, probably because he was afraid that the money would not be available and the TV would not be available.

It's no wonder that he is a good husband of his sister-in-law, and he can't sleep two kinds of people in a bed. Beating women, extorting money, bullying the weak and fearing the hard, and taking out a random piece is a ruffian.

In addition, there is a more fierce revelation: After the show, the mother-in-law who was called her mother by Li Jinming insisted that Xiao Li was the daughter-in-law sent by the program team, and the avatar of a certain sound was replaced by a photo of Li Jinming's wedding dress, and it seems that she also had a lawsuit with the program team for this...

There is no beating and scolding, but the words "sent daughter-in-law" have already made people gasp and objectify women, so justifiably.

You will feel compassion for the "Chained Girl", but some people are making the "Chained Girl" without guilt. The unevenness of the world is always so surprising and disappointing.

So, the first lesson that this incident gave us is that choice is important.

If you want to have a happy married life, the first step is to choose the right one, not only the object, but also what kind of family, what kind of community, and what kind of city you choose. At the very least, what you see and hear every day should make you comfortable and be kind to yourself, otherwise, you should never get involved. Even if you choose the wrong one, once you find that it is the best, don't hesitate for a moment, run quickly, and run overnight.

The second inspiration is to guide.

People are different, but the same thing is that people have a bright side and a dark side. We must reverse our mentality, words and deeds that are easy to induce the dark side of human nature.

Li Jinming was bullied, in addition to being unladylike, but also because she was too tender and honest.

Before the conflict, Jin Ming was very well-behaved, so obedient that he was too obedient and wanted to satisfy the people around him.

When passing through the door, there was a link, some tools wrapped in red cloth were placed on the ground, and they were placed in front of the bride, and she would dispose of them by herself, Xiao Li didn't want to be too rude, so he directly lowered his head and picked them up, they were tongs, flat poles, brooms, and asked "Do you want to carry this?" "Do you want to sweep this"... She also said in the aftermath that everyone cheered at the time, so this rhythm must be right.

In fact, from Li Jinming's point of view, there is nothing wrong with her, she follows the customs of the locals, and she is not really married when she records the show. But if you are really married, imagine that you are Xiao Li's parents, can you allow the existence of this link?

"What do you mean, I raised my daughter so slippery, with fine skin and tender meat, that is, to cook for you, carry water and sweep the floor? Is she here to enjoy the blessings, not to be a free babysitter for others? The girl in the city married in the countryside, and she has been wronged, so please let your family carry it out! ”

Isn't it? It's clear that you're setting the tone, you pick up these tools today, and you have to take the work as your own responsibility after passing the door, nodding once, it's tantamount to acquiescing in a responsibility and a kind of personality, and then stop work for any reason, slack off, rest assured, no one feels sorry for you, and others will only think you're hypocritical.

The reason is not difficult to understand, in the first episode of the ancient TV series "Mother-in-law and Daughter-in-law", the bride Yu Xiaojiao's mother warned her daughter like this, and said that this was a lesson that she had exchanged for most of her life with blood and tears.

But if you really want to practice, don't suffer a loss, you really can't deal with it freely, when you first arrive, you always feel that sincere efforts must be exchanged for gratitude and cherishment, but the other party's thinking is often, since you can sit back and enjoy it, why do it yourself?

People have inertia and desire for power, pay and please, it is easy to seduce these two bad roots, and solidify the relationship between you, such as "one work, one enjoy", "one service, one is an uncle", and then want to break, but it is not so easy, lazy, dereliction of duty, fuss, vexatious hat, but will be deducted for you.

So what kind of rules and regulations are there? Cecilia Cheung, who was also in this show, made a positive demonstration.

First of all, in terms of mentality construction, never lower your posture, just do what your daughter-in-law does, and her sister's body is still a big star.

The mother-in-law arranged a room for her, and the furnishings of the room are actually quite good in the countryside, but our sister Zhang, who is used to living a privileged life, thanked her in person, turned her head and frowned at the camera.

The next day, when she said that she would get up early to make breakfast, Sister Zhang fell asleep and "died" in that unsatisfactory room, more than two hours later than her in-laws.

finally got up, and I heard that many relatives came over to eat the new daughter-in-law's breakfast, so according to the basic cultivation of female stars, of course Sister Zhang is - pick clothes first and do a good job in image management.

I don't know how long it took to rub it again, my mother-in-law came to urge me again, seeing that the time was really urgent, Sister Zhang finally used Hong Kong Pukua to go to Haikou - three minutes! Wait for me for three minutes!

Then, the instant noodle mat is served!

"Let's eat instant noodles?"

"It's not instant noodles, this one has a different taste, and there's eggs in it!"

"Daughter-in-law, put a little more salt."

"Put, I tuned it all day yesterday." (Most likely not true)

Sister Zhang's inner OS: Hmph, you want to find fault with me, and you want to instruct me, no way.

In this process, the mother-in-law wants to save face, and the relatives want to eat a good meal and educate the new daughter-in-law to do things, does Sister Zhang care about this? Not at all, she cares more about whether she has enough sleep and whether the image of a female star is well.

There's no shame in giving people instant noodles, she probably thinks so - you haven't eaten this, this is for you to see the world.

It seems like... That's right, too.

In terms of vision, wealth, and social resources, Cecilia Cheung is higher than these villagers, so since there is no specific request, just to record a show and earn a notice fee, it is okay to be polite on the surface, why bother to obey and really erect the other party's sense of authority and superiority? Isn't it really married, and you want to live in pots and pans?

For this reason, Cecilia Cheung positions herself as a "courtesan" in this show, soft and weak but long-sleeved and good at dancing, able to move her mouth and never do it, anyway, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is temporary, and the identity of a female star must be consistent;

And Li Jinming hugged his mother-in-law very affectionately as soon as he came up, and shouted "Mom", and then asked his mother-in-law to administer justice, obviously in the case of strangers to each other, he automatically strengthened the relationship between parents and children, and weakened his social identity, and it was almost doomed to suffer.

Establishing rules and standing in a high position does not rely on strong mouths, but by respecting one's own feelings, firming up one's own principles and determining and giving full play to one's own advantages, the first two are mentality construction, and the latter is methodology.

has a mentality and no practical advantages, such as a full-time housewife who has no income and no external aura, so it is naturally difficult to be a shopkeeper in housework; If you have an advantage and no mentality, then it is easy to become the thankless unjust who is tired and tired to make money outside, and cannot spare your hands to do housework, and in the end you will be blamed.

Reading this, you may think, ah, there are so many twists and turns in daily life, and it is so tiring to pursue marital happiness!

That's not true, but maybe God has mercy on you and will open another window for you - good luck.

A typical example is Choo Ja Hyun in the show Be Like, she is not as familiar with Cecilia Cheung as she is in the way of "pretending to be confused", nor does she have Huang Shengyi's ability to pry friends to send money to her family, and she doesn't understand the language, she positions herself similar to Li Jinming, and she is also honest and hardworking, but fortunately she met a good mother-in-law.

Mother-in-law is very good at thinking about her, her mother-in-law will speak for her when others are embarrassed, and the two can still talk for a long time like sisters, hearing Choo Ja Hyun's childhood experience, her mother-in-law also shed distressed tears, and then went to Jeju Island to visit the ama, and saw that such an elderly lady still had to go to the sea to fish to earn money, and she couldn't help but cry many times.

For people with pure nature, it is a habit to be kind to others, and when you become a person by her side, you can naturally feel this kindness and thoughtfulness.

I wish everyone this good luck in marriage~