He didn't speak until he was 4 years old, and from the bottom of his class to a biologist, the key to his perfect counterattack is
Author: Xiao Tian, the main creative group
At the age of 36, the dream of being ridiculed at the age of 12 was realized
He couldn't speak until he was 4 years old, he was always last in the exam, and he was ridiculed at the age of 12.
If such a child is born properly, what will his future be?
Chen Rui, a scientist in the field of animal evolution at the Institute of Zoology of the Chinese Academy of Sciences, gave the answer based on his own personal experience.
It turned out that Chen Rui was sensory integration disorder when he was a child, and his development was slower than that of his peers, so it was commonplace to be the first to last in the exam.
But he has been interested in nature since he was a child. When he was in the sixth grade of primary school, he wrote his dream in an essay: "In the future, I want to become a biologist and go to the primeval forests of Africa." ”
For this reason, many people ridiculed him, questioned him, and thought that his grades were so poor, which was completely whimsical.
But Chen Rui has never changed his ambition and has been working the road of interest. In his third year of junior high school, he completed his university biology and chemistry courses, and after graduating from his bachelor's degree, he was admitted to the Chinese Academy of Sciences, where he studied for a master's degree and a doctorate, and finally stayed as a researcher, focusing on the evolution of various species.
Now, at the age of 36, he has discovered hundreds of new species, named more than a dozen after him, and personally established the world's largest insect museum, and insisted on shooting short videos for many years to enlighten more young people in science.
In an interview, he told all the children: "Just like when I was a child, no matter how bad your academic performance is, as long as you stick to your dreams, one day your dreams will come true." ”
Because of the love in my heart, the former latecomer and nerd boy finally fulfilled his childhood dream and became a great scientist! This inspirational experience reminds people of the words of mathematician Yau Chengtong:
"The cultivation of interest is the key to determining a child's lifelong career."
For children, interest is always the biggest driving force for success.
And a really good education is never just about grades and grades. Helping children find their own talents and passions, and achieve their unique selves, is the true meaning of education.
How rare is a child with love?
Wu Xiaoli, one of the top ten outstanding principals in Shenzhen, once shared the story of her daughter's dizi.
Dizi has had a soft spot for the accordion since he was a child. She practiced every day from the age of five and has maintained a strong love for the instrument for more than two decades.
When he graduated from high school, Dizi applied to study at Yale University, a world-renowned university. During the interview, the interviewer suddenly asked her this question:
"Little girl, do you have any hobbies?"
Thinking of the indissoluble bond he has formed with the accordion over the years, Dizi was moved to tell the interviewers about his deep affection for the accordion, and improvised a passage.
The melodious melody touched everyone present. In addition to his skillful skills, Dizi's persistence and persistence in interest deeply moved the interviewers.
In this way, with this dramatic episode, Dizi was successfully admitted to Yale University.
Students with high scores in the examination are the same and mediocre; Children with bright specialties are only one in a million, which is unforgettable.
I think of the words of education expert Wang Renping: "It is very important for a person to grow up and work hard, but it is more important to know yourself, find your own talent and passion, and immerse yourself in it, which will not only make our life experience more pleasant and richer, but also make it easier for us to achieve achievements and success." ”
I found that having my own favorite hobbies is an incomparably scarce and valuable quality for today's children.
It is like a huge energy, which can not only enable children to achieve a state of flow and experience the joy of extreme concentration, but also provide a heavy bargaining chip for children to achieve a wonderful life.
Substituting scores for dreams is tantamount to clipping a child's wings
I once saw a post on Zhihu.
The author is a mother. Because she saw her daughter's grades declining in her third year of high school, she burned her daughter's most beloved notebook in a fit of anger.
This notebook is the result of years of creative effort by girls. From the beginning of junior high school, children record the inspiration for the novel on it, preparing to start writing officially after the college entrance examination.
However, the accumulation of six whole years was ruined by his mother in this way. For this reason, the girl was so sad that she went on a hunger strike and refused to forgive her.
Was it just a notebook that this mom destroyed?
Far more than that.
What she destroyed together was the love of the child, the expectation and momentum for the future in her heart, and the originally harmonious parent-child relationship.
In fact, in real life, a considerable number of parents, driven by the concept of "grades first", always easily deprive their children of their interests and dreams.
is just like the mother Song Qian played by Tao Hong in the TV series "Little Huanxi". In her opinion, the most important thing for children is to study, and all hobbies are a waste of time.
When she learned that her daughter Yingzi liked astronomy and wanted to apply for the astronomy department of NTU, she firmly disagreed. As a result, a fierce quarrel broke out between the mother and daughter, so much so that in the end, Yingzi did not hesitate to commit suicide to fight, and shouted at Song Qian: "I hate you!" ”
There is a good saying: "Life is a wilderness, not a track." "The possibilities for a child's future should be endless.
And only grades are asking, which is tantamount to tying a child's future only to scores.
To define a child's success with such a single evaluation criterion and value orientation means to deprive children of hobbies, stifle their talents, inhibit their potential, and wear out their aura.
This kind of growth, even if it seems to be excellent, cannot be happy.
The essence of education is to help children find their own "spark"
In the documentary "Little Boy", the experience of Wu Gangyun, a pork shop girl, is deeply shocking.
She comes from a remote mountain village in Wenshan Zhuang and Miao Autonomous Prefecture in Yunnan Province, where her family sells pork for a living. Growing up, she showed an innate love for ballet.
Despite the limited conditions, Yun'er never gave up training. Relying on watching videos to teach herself, she finally jumped all the way out of the mountain from her mother's pork shop to the big stage of CCTV.
Because of love, the distance has a clear concreteness; All efforts are made without hesitation, and any difficulties are willing. Yun'er's experience has moved countless netizens.
And among them, there is another detail that is particularly memorable, that is, Yun'er's mother's attitude.
Faced with her daughter's interest, she did not hesitate to say: "As long as she (daughter) likes it, adults have to help her." ”
In fact, Yun'er's mother is not highly educated, and she doesn't understand ballet at all, and she works hard every day to make a living. But after seeing that her daughter liked ballet, she did not categorically stop it because the family's economic conditions did not allow it, but chose unconditional support.
She took Yun'er to find a suitable dance school, and when she found that her ability was not enough, she did not give up, but accompanied her daughter to practice repeatedly in front of online videos, and always encouraged her firmly and gently.
All this gave Yun'er infinite confidence, making her like a fish in water and a tiger on the road to chasing her dreams.
The "spark theory" in pedagogy states:
"Almost every child will have a strong interest or passion in some area and show exceptional talent and potential. These include music, drawing, reading, building blocks... There's even nature watching, mud playing, and more. Once captured and stimulated, this kind of excellence of children is like a spark, which will bring them great joy and confidence, and give them more motivation and direction to move forward. ”
What we parents have to do is to find the child's "spark" in time and find a way to make it burn.