The words "white moonlight" and "cinnabar mole" have long been like old tunes in the topic of love, like the melody in an old song echoing repeatedly. They are often used to describe first love, endowed with a mystical and sacred tinge. However, over time, should we revisit these words to explore the revelations of emotional entanglements and maturation?
Xiao Ya and Xiao Wei's emotional experience
Xiao Ya and Xiao Wei, the names of two ordinary people, carry a dramatic emotional story. Xiao Ya and her husband Xiao Wei have only been married for two months, and their relationship experience is only six months. However, Xiaoya has always regarded her first love as "white moonlight", an indelible emotion.
Xiaoya's first love happened in high school, and the young boy was her classmate. She silently liked him for three whole years, but she didn't muster up the courage to confess. It wasn't until she broke up in college that she understood that her youthful love story had come to an end. The end of her first love did not make her forget, on the contrary, this emotion has been haunting her heart.
However, fate did not give her only this choice. Xiaoya's friends understand her feelings, so they try to match Xiaoya with a new boy. The two began to date, but the relationship was not as Xiaoya wanted. Although her new relationship was not satisfactory, she still couldn't forget her first love.
Xiao Wei: A different choice
Then, Xiao Wei came into her life. Xiao Wei is a gentle, non-noisy man, completely different from Xiao Ya's previous boyfriend. He was considerate and caring for her, which made Xiaoya feel warm and satisfied.
Xiao Ya is not a girl who will fall in love with others easily, but Xiao Wei's kindness and gentleness have won her heart. She felt like she had found a partner she could trust, someone she could spend her life with. So, they got married and started a new life.
The shadow of the "white moonlight".
However, the first love emotion did not disappear because of marriage, but sublimated to some extent. Xiaoya has not only kept in touch with her first boyfriend, but also plans to celebrate his birthday and arrange a birthday party. This move caused her best friend to feel uneasy, and she thought it was inappropriate, so she revealed the situation to Xiao Wei.
Emotional entanglements
When Xiao Wei learned the truth, he felt deeply hurt. He believes that the most important thing in marriage is trust, and Xiaoya's behavior makes him feel betrayed. So, he filed for divorce, and not only that, but he also changed the locks at home and refused Xiaoya to go home.
Fall into the trap of first love
Xiaoya's emotional experience is thought-provoking. She regards her first love as "white moonlight" and keeps this relationship in her heart. Even though she has come out of her first love, she still worries about it and sees it as a part of her life.
However, Xiaoya should also realize that the fond memories of first love originate from the feelings of youth, and are not necessarily the particularity of the first love object itself. This caused confusion in her love life and cost her marriage.
Grow from emotion
This story also teaches us that emotional entanglements are not a burden, but an opportunity to grow. Emotional struggles and pain can give us a deeper understanding of ourselves and a better understanding and response to life's challenges. Just as Xiaoya grew up in the conflict between her first love and marriage, we can also draw strength from our emotions and become more mature and strong.
Hold on to your feelings
Finally, the story also reminds us that we should hold on to our feelings, but we should not use other people to heal. We should learn to deal with our own emotional problems and not bring our own emotional problems to others. At the same time, we should also cherish those around us who truly care and love us, and don't push them away.
"White moonshine" and "cinnabar mole" are beautiful words, but they can also be a trap that gets us caught up in emotional entanglements. However, through maturity and tenacity, we can get out of these traps and embrace a better life.