Qian Zhongshu said: "Life is just staying at home, going out, and returning home. "The world is so big, what we care about most is a small home.
But a warm and prosperous home does not come out of thin air, but depends on the family's careful management. From ancient times to the present, the most prosperous way is 5 characters: diligence, peace, book, filial piety, and goodness.
01 Diligent
Li Shang wrote in the poem: "After experiencing the former virtuous country and family, success is achieved by diligence and thrift. "Ren Zu left behind thousands of family wealth, gave birth to laziness and slackness, and without the strength to work hard, he will inevitably go downhill day after day, year after year, and finally sit on the mountain.
Only by being diligent and thrifty, maintaining self-discipline, enthusiasm and hard work can we make a fortune and prosper.
He Shaoji, a calligrapher of the Qing Dynasty, prepared a box when his daughter was preparing to get married. On the wedding day, daughter Chunmei and her husband opened the box, but found that it was empty, only to see a "diligent" written at the bottom of the box.
The newlyweds were puzzled for a while, and after pondering, Fang realized his father's good intentions. Since then, the word "diligence" has become their motto for maintaining a family.
As the saying goes, "It's easy to be diligent." "Even if there is nothing at home and life is tight, hardworking people will definitely be able to get out of the predicament."
In this world, all the wealth and happiness are the result of a down-to-earth, hardworking and hard work of a family.
02 and
There are clouds in the Book of Rites: "Father and son, brotherhood, husband and wife, and the fat of the family." "There is a deep affection between father and son, brothers love each other, and husband and wife are kind and beautiful.
A family thinks in one place and works hard in one place, and the family business prospers.
Liang Qichao is good at governing the family, he has a total of 9 children in his life, and the family is harmonious and beautiful, which is a good story.
Liang Qichao has written to his wife Wang Guiquan many times, thanking her for her efforts and understanding her difficulties. Since his wife was not in good health, he wrote to his children to ask them to take more care to comfort his mother's heart. Liang Qichao also never relied on his talents to guide his children in their studies, but fully respected their wishes.
Under the support of a harmonious and enlightened family style, Liang Qichao's 9 children have achieved outstanding achievements.
Home and blessing are self-born. Family harmony is the most precious asset.
The family quarrels constantly, no matter how big the house is, no matter how good the car is, it is just a chicken feather; The family talks and laughs, no matter how hard life is, no matter how tired the days are, they can live hot.
03 Book
As the old saying goes: "The book has its own golden house, and the book has its own face like jade." "Reading is the first good thing in the world, and in the precipitation of books and the blessing of culture, a home will often flourish quickly."
Zeng Guofan said to the children of the clan: "I don't want to be rich from generation to generation, but I hope that there will be talent in generation." "Because he studied hard, Zeng Guofan was able to take the imperial examination, and he became a Tian Sherang and ascended to the Tianzi Hall at dusk. Not only let himself take off and make the family leap.
Under Zeng Guofan's example and teachings, most of the children of the Zeng family read hard since childhood, and poetry books became their profession. Hundreds of years have passed, and the Zeng family has not lost a single family, and there are talents from generation to generation, which has endured.
Using the thickness of books to raise the height of the family is the best family style.
04 Filial piety
In the "Song of Exhortation to Filial Piety", it is said: "If a person is not filial to his relatives, it is better than grass and wood." "Only by being born as a human being and being kind to where life comes from can we take the road home for the rest of your life."
Filial piety to one's parents and elders is a person's greatest blessing and the deepest blessing of a family.
In "Twenty-Four Filial Piety", there is a filial son named Jiang Ge. When the times were in turmoil, he fled with his widowed mother, who had inconvenient legs and feet. On the way, he encountered bandits many times, but seeing that he was filial to his mother, he let them live.
After entering the city, Jiang Ge relied on working as a maid to support his mother, saving his own food and money, and never stingy with his mother. When the local officials heard about this, they recommended him as filial piety, and he was also appointed as an advisor by the emperor, and they all offered condolences every year after his resignation.
Mencius said, "Only obedience to one's parents can relieve one's worries." "Filial piety to parents can make the family prosper."
05 Goodness
Qing Dynasty Shangshu Yao Wentian said: "The old home of hundreds of years in the world is nothing more than accumulation of virtue. "Wealth and wealth are handed down from family to family, but three generations, and only moral heirloom can be passed down for more than ten generations.
The kindness of the heart and the cultivation of virtue are the best family style of a home.
When Fan Zhongyan was young, he hoped that he could become a good doctor in the future. Asked why, he said, "Good medicine heals the world, good doctors heal people." ”
This is Fan Zhongyan's ambition, and it is also the benchmark of Fan's family style: cultivate oneself with a right heart, and accumulate virtue by doing good deeds. In the 800 years of the Fan family, there have been countless adults, and several times they will decline and start again.
"In the house of goodness, there will be Yuqing." Perhaps, luck can make a family prosperous for a while, but long-term blessings are often based on good behavior.
As the old saying goes: "When the fortune of the family rises or falls, the heavens cannot exercise their power and control themselves." "The rise and fall of the family does not lie in the manipulation of Providence, but in its own practice.
With diligence and thrift, harmony, poetry, filial piety, and kindness, the family will not be rich and prosperous.
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