My name is Ma Xiaoyang, I am 35 years old this year, and I have been a white-collar worker in the city for more than ten years. When I was a child, I grew up in the countryside, and my neighbor Zhang Lin was my best friend.
Last year, Zhang Lin suddenly found me and said that she missed me and wanted to reconnect.
"Xiaoyang, do you remember me? I'm Zhang Lin, we were good friends when we lived in our hometown when we were children! Zhang Lin's voice came from the mobile phone, familiar and kind.
I said excitedly: "Zhang Lin, is that you? My God, great, you've found me! ”
"yes, after so many years apart, I miss you so much! Let's talk about it by video and catch up face to face. ”
"Okay, okay!" I happily agreed.
Seeing Zhang Lin's familiar face in the video, I was very happy. We talked about our childhood, and the scenes of learning and playing are vivid and full of memories.
Zhang Lin said she now works in the city and has a good life. I said I also work in the city and my life is peaceful.
"We should really get in touch more! The people in the city are too indifferent and miss the friendship in our small place. Zhang Lin sighed.
"Yes, yes, friendship is more precious than anything else." I say.
Since I got in touch, I feel that life has meaning again. Renewing friendships with old friends is the happiest thing in my life.
A few days later, I specially sent Zhang Lin a box of fresh lychees from my hometown, hoping that she could also taste the taste of her hometown and enhance the relationship between us.
Sending lychees was not going well. I found someone to bring fresh lychees from my hometown, carefully packed a box, and specially chose same-day delivery to ensure the freshness of the lychees.
Early the next morning, I waited excitedly for her to reply to her thoughts of receiving the goods, afraid that the lychee would be ruined on the road. But Zhang Lin never had news, I called her anxiously, she said that because there was something at home, she was not available, and she would contact later.
A week passed, and Zhang Lin still didn't say anything. I was so disappointed that she didn't take a piece of my heart into her eyes.
"Zhang Lin, did you receive the lychee I sent?"
"Received." She said in a cold tone.
"Does that taste good? Are lychees fresh? I asked cautiously.
"I'm too busy to look at those things." She said impatiently.
When I listened to her tone, it was as if I had fallen from the clouds to the bottom. When we were young, we had such a deep relationship, I sent my hometown Lychee from far away, wanting to catch up with her to enhance my relationship, but she didn't even touch it, which made me extremely sad and angry.
I couldn't help but question her: "I sent it with such a heart, you have this attitude?" ”
"Okay, I won't let you send it, you sent it yourself, what does it have to do with me." She said without care.
I was even more upset, she clearly treated me as an outsider. I remembered when we were sisters when we were children, and now she did this to me, and I couldn't believe that our friendship had become like this.
"Zhang Lin, do you remember how close we were when we were children, I took care of you when you were sick, I was sad that you comforted me, we said everything and kept secrets."
"I couldn't hold back my tears.
"Ma Xiaoyang, the things we did when we were children passed, now everyone is an adult, don't mention the things of that year, I'm very busy now, let's talk about it another day when I have time."
I was so disappointed that I burst into tears. It hurts me very much that our friendship has become so indifferent under the erosion of time.
I was depressed for a long time before I figured it out a little. Perhaps, I still nostalgic for my childhood friendships, but Zhang Lin has already changed.
It seems that I should let go of the past and get on with my life. Thinking about this, my mood also calmed down.
Just when I decided to break off contact with Zhang Lin, I accidentally heard some news from my old classmate Li Yu.
"Xiaoyang, have you contacted Zhang Lin recently? She doesn't look like she's doing well. Li Yu said as soon as he spoke.
"Why do you say that? Doesn't she work in town? I asked in surprise.
"Well, you don't even know that. A few years ago, Zhang Lin failed to do business, owed a huge debt, and was tortured enough by creditors.
The husband is also not very reliable, and she is completely supporting the whole family. Li Yu told me one by one.
After listening to it, I suddenly realized that Zhang Lin has been cold recently because of life. She wasn't really trying to break ties with me, but life had broken her.
"God, she's doing so badly, I don't know anything." I said bitterly.
"In fact, you don't need to blame yourself, everyone has their own difficulties, not all written on their faces." Li Yu comforted me.
"I really shouldn't just think about my feelings, but put myself in her shoes. Life is so ethereal, I can't just break a friendship because of a little misunderstanding.
"Yes, friendship requires both sides to manage and understand with heart. If you really blame yourself, it is better to take the initiative to contact Zhang Lin to see if you can repair the relationship again.
After much deliberation, I decided to call Zhang Lin and take the initiative to reconcile with her.
The call was quickly connected: "Hey, who?" Zhang Lin's voice sounded very tired.
"Zhang Lin, it's me, Xiaoyang. I want to apologize to you about what happened before... ”
"Xiaoyang? Oh, I had a bad attitude before, sorry sorry. Zhang Lin seemed relieved.
"No, no, it's me who only thinks about myself and doesn't understand your situation. I heard that your life is not easy, as a friend I should support you, but I couldn't do it, I'm really sorry.
There was silence on the other side of the phone, and after a long time, there was a faint sound of sobs.
"Zhang Lin, are you crying? Did something happen? I asked anxiously.
"No, it's okay. That is, when you said this, the tears that had been held for a long time finally flowed out. ”
"Zhang Lin, if you have any difficulties, please tell me that friends are used to help you get through the difficulties."
"Xiaoyang, thank you. I've been having a hard time lately, my husband is away, I'm facing all my problems alone, and I feel like I'm about to collapse.
Zhang Lin confided her pain to me, and I listened patiently, often giving encouragement and support. After more than an hour of talking, our relationship melted the frost and friendships were re-established.
"Zhang Lin, no matter what difficulties you encounter, I will support you, because we are the closest sisters in the world." I say sincerely.
"Xiaoyang, thank you for giving me friendship and warmth, which means a lot to me. I'll try to survive. ”
Hanging up, I burst into tears. Life, but with friends you can get through all the ups and downs. This misunderstanding made me understand the preciousness of relationships, and I will cherish every relationship even more from now on.
After this misunderstanding, I took the initiative to contact Zhang Lin and invited her family to stay with me for a while to help her tide over the difficulties.
"Zhang Lin, your family quickly pack up and come to live with me for a while. With someone to take care of the children and home, you can take a break from work and adjust to it.
"How embarrassing is this, it will cause you a lot of trouble." Zhang Lin hesitated.
"What's so embarrassing, we're old friends, it's normal to do a favor." I'm alone in a big house, just enough to liven up.
After my repeated persuasion, Zhang Lin finally agreed. The next day she came to my house with her children and in-laws.
At first, Zhang Lin was still a little uncomfortable, perhaps because she felt uncomfortable living at a friend's house. But I patiently chatted with her, took her around the park, and tried to make her happy.
"Xiaoyang, thank you for helping me so much." One day, Zhang Lin suddenly said to me.
"I'm happy to help you. Stay until your mood is completely relaxed. I said.
"Well, I figured it out, when I encountered problems before, I was prone to self-defeat. Now I'm going to adjust my mindset and start over.
"Yes, setbacks are inevitable, and the key is to have a positive and healthy mindset. With me, you rest with confidence and boldness.
Zhang Lin nodded, with a relieved smile on her face.
Watching her rejuvenate was very gratifying. After experiencing this misunderstanding, I saw her inner struggle, so I understood and supported her more.
After another half a month, Zhang Lin finally picked herself up and was ready to leave my home and start a new life on her own.
"Xiaoyang, thanks to your care during this time, I have regained hope and courage. In the future, when I encounter difficulties, I will not back down, but will face them hard.
"I'm glad I could help you. If anything happens to you in the future, don't tell me. ”
"Definitely. We will always be the closest sisters. ”
I nodded, tears streaming down my eyes. I haven't been so touched in a long time. The most precious feeling in the world, I will always cherish.
I personally drove Zhang Lin's family to their new home. As we parted, we hugged tightly, tears welling up in our eyes.
"Take care! Contact often in the future! "I stood outside the car and watched them leave.
"Definitely! Good bye! Zhang Lin rolled down the window and waved goodbye to me.
I stood there for a long time, watching the car disappear into the distance. This misunderstanding made me understand the value of relationships.
After Zhang Lin's family left, my life returned to its original state. Work, sports, free time to chat with other friends, life is smooth and regular.
One day, my colleague Sun Hao talked to me about his conflict with his family. He said his parents often pointed fingers at him, which upset him.
"But as a son, I also understand that my parents mean well. It's just that the method is not right. How do you say I should resolve the conflict between us? Sun Hao asked me.
I thought about it and said, "Every family will have problems of one kind or another, and the key is to solve them with love and understanding."
"You're right! I had only seen my parents supervise me harshly, but I didn't feel their care and concern.
Sun Hao suddenly realized.
"Just have more communication between families. Don't worry, you'll be able to handle this problem. "I encouraged him.
I suddenly realized that I also learned to put myself in the shoes of others by dealing with the misunderstanding with Zhang Lin.
Recently, Zhang Lin will send me messages from time to time to tell me about her recent situation. She has found a new job, her children are in school, and her days are getting better.
One day, Zhang Lin sent a voice message saying: "Xiaoyang, since living in your house, my mentality has changed dramatically.
And thank you again for your help to me, I will remember it for the rest of my life! ”。
After hearing this news, I was very moved. It turned out that I also helped Zhang Lin through this misunderstanding, which made me feel my own growth.
The warmth of caring and encouraging each other is the most precious force in the world. I will continue to pass on this understanding and tolerance so that more people can feel the hope of life.
This will also be one of the most important goals in my life.
One day, I suddenly received a strange phone call from someone claiming to be a friend of my old classmate Wang Min, saying that Wang Min was in a bad mood and wanted to talk to me.
After meeting, Wang Min's friend told me that Wang Min's business had failed recently, he owed huge debts, and his life was very difficult.
"She actually needs help and support from her friends, but you know she's very strong and won't ask for help.
I nodded, indicating that I understood Wang Min's situation. Back home, I called Wang Min and said straight to the point: "Wang Min, I heard that you have encountered a lot of difficulties recently, as a friend, I want to give you support and help."
There was silence on the other side of the phone. After a while, Wang Min said sullenly: "Thank you, but I don't want to drag anyone down."
"You know friends are there to help you get through this. You don't have to feel ashamed, everyone has difficulties, and supporting each other can live stronger.
After some exchanges, Wang Min finally accepted my kindness. I accompanied her to tell her about the difficulties in work and life, and gave her many valuable advice.
I suddenly realized that taking the initiative to care for others can do a lot of wonders. It not only helps the other person get through the difficult times, but also makes one's heart more fulfilled and happy.
Relationships between people are the most beautiful thing in the world. When I passed on this kindness, I was rewarded far more than I could have imagined.
From now on, I will continue to strive to be a person who actively cares about the people around me. Because a small amount of kindness can change a person's destiny.
This will also be one of my most important goals in this life. Let me pass this understanding and tolerance to every corner of my life.
I organized a middle school reunion and invited a dozen old classmates. Everyone reunited after a long absence, hugged excitedly as soon as they met, and talked about the bits and pieces of their student days.
"Remember the day we organized in your second year of high school? I rehearsed the dance for a month, and finally forgot all about it on stage! ”
"Haha, remember remember, the lyrics we made up were also very wrong!"
"At that time, I was full of youth and I was not afraid of anything, but I miss it now when I think about it!"
Students, you chatted one by one, with a long-lost smile on your face.
"Thank you so much Xiaoyang for organizing this party! Everyone got together and felt like they were back in high school! ”
"Yes, yes, Xiaoyang, this little feminist, has always remembered us!"
I saw the happy smiling faces of my old friends, and I couldn't hold back my tears. A long-lost friendship is the most touching thing in the world.
After that, I connected with other old friends and reunited our precious friendship.
I enjoy the accumulation and sublimation of this friendship from the bottom of my heart, which brings unprecedented fulfillment to my life.
Until one day, my best friend Xiaofang called, choking up and saying that her mother's health was showing signs of deterioration.
I hugged Xiaofang tightly in my arms and comforted her softly. Then I drove her regularly to the hospital to take care of her mom and support her in her toughest moments.
I learned that the true meaning of friendship is not only joy, but also getting through difficult times together. I want to be a strength to my friends when they are most vulnerable.
This will also be one of the greatest meanings of my life.
After experiencing this series of events, my outlook on life and values have undergone profound changes.
I began to focus on maintaining every relationship, often reaching out to old friends and organizing parties. I have also become more helpful in my life and often volunteer to help those who are in difficult situations.
Once, I participated in a volunteer project for the lonely elderly. We cleaned an octogenarian, Aunt Zhang, bought daily necessities, and cooked delicious meals.
I saw her eat the meal I cooked, her face filled with a long-lost smile and tears of emotion.
"Little sister, thank you for coming to help me and reminding me of when I was younger." Aunt Zhang said gratefully.
I couldn't hold back my tears too. It turns out that caring for others can bring the best touches in life.
Since then, I have often visited Aunt Zhang and treated her as my own relative. I also discovered the meaning of life, not only to live for myself, but also to deliver love to every corner of need.
Once, the father of an old classmate was critically ill, and the classmate asked me for advice on whether to give up his job to take care of his father.
Finally, he summoned up the courage to take time off work with my father and thanked me for my advice at that time.
I learned that my value lies not only in my own pursuits, but also in how I influence others and help others find meaning in life.
Life is short, and I can't be driven by my own vanity or self-interest, but to live a meaningful life. In the last moments, we will eventually leave everything and only love will remain.
This will be the greatest meaning of my life.