Preface: Wang Lin and Li Yan have been married for three years, and the relationship between the little two is very good, but she has a deep opinion of her mother-in-law.
The mother-in-law had a pension of 6,000, and not only did she have no bride price before marriage, but she did not even prepare a marriage room, and asked them to live with herself after marriage. In the second year after marriage, when Wang Lin's younger couple bought a house and wanted to take 100,000 yuan from her, she refused. And when Wang Lin gave birth, she ignored it and was not close to her own grandson.
Until her mother-in-law was ill and hospitalized, she called her son and daughter-in-law to come and serve her, Wang Lin was kind enough to take care of her, but her mother-in-law was picky, and even loudly reprimanded her daughter-in-law in front of her patients.
After this scene was seen by Li Yan, he said something to his mother. Li Yan's words made her mother-in-law confused, calling her wrong!
So, what exactly happened between them? Let's take a look at their stories together!
Narrator: Wang Lin
I am the only child in the family, and my parents have never let me suffer any grievances. When I chose to marry my husband Li Yan, it was precisely because he was obedient to me and took good care of me, so I ignored the opposition of my parents and was desperate not to marry him.
Li Yan and I are college classmates, and we are both outstanding people in the class, so we often participate in various campus activities together. Over time, we became attracted to each other and fell in love.
Later, we encouraged each other to go to graduate school together, and after getting our master's degrees, we all entered the company of our choice. When the work problem is solved, we are naturally ready to talk about marriage.
In my opinion, Li Yan can handle both appearance and conduct, and I originally thought that my parents would approve of this marriage very much, but I didn't expect them to advise me to be cautious.
My mother said that she was very satisfied with everything about Li Yan, and the only thing she was not optimistic about was his family. Because Li Yan's father died when he was in elementary school, Li Yan's mother did not choose to remarry but pulled him up alone.
"This kind of family origin, generally mother's possessiveness is particularly strong, we are afraid that there will be a conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law after you marry him."
At that time, I didn't care too much about my parents' words, but repeatedly emphasized that the main thing for two people to get married is to see each other, as long as Li Yan is kind to me and listens to me.
In this way, I persuaded my parents to agree to the marriage.
But when the two sat together to discuss marriage, Li Yan's mother immediately gave me a problem.
"It's not easy for me to support my son alone, so I can't get a bride price, and I don't have the ability to buy you a wedding house, so you can live with me after marriage."
Her words made my parents turn their faces on the spot. My mom just said "too much deception" and then dragged me away, and the conversation broke up.
When I got home, my mom cried, "What did I say?" He doesn't want you to get married at all! Our family didn't plan to ask for a bride price, but how could we live with her after marriage? Before she retired, she was a manager of the company, and now her pension is more than six thousand a month, how can she not even afford the down payment of the marriage house! ”
I'm not stupid, of course I understand what the means. But I have been dating Li Yan for so many years, we are more in love than Jin Jian, and I want to get married no matter what.
Later, Li Yan would come to my house every day to beg my mother and father to agree to the marriage, and promised that he would work hard to make money and would definitely buy a house and move out of the house within two years.
Because of my resolute attitude and Li Yan's sincerity, in the end, they had no choice but to agree.
In this way, after getting married, I lived with my mother-in-law, and over the next year, I kind of learned the importance of having a good mother-in-law.
My mother-in-law's pension is more than 6,000 a month, and she has money in her hands but is reluctant to spend a penny. Since we got married, all the expenses of the family have been funded by Li Yan and me.
Not only that, my mother-in-law who is retired at home does nothing on weekdays, and she will instruct me to do such work as laundry and cooking. Fortunately, Li Yan feels sorry for me and will take the initiative to share most of the housework for me.
In this regard, my mother-in-law was very dissatisfied, and more than once reprimanded Li Yan in my face for not showing up, a big man does housework every day is not like words.
There was a time when I was busy with work and often had to work overtime until 90 o'clock at night to come home. As a mother-in-law, not only did she not care about me, but she complained about me leaving early and returning late, and even said something ugly.
"When a woman gets married, she has to take care of her family, come back so late every day, who knows what you are doing outside!"
My mother-in-law's words made me very embarrassed, and a wave of grievances surged in my heart, but fortunately Li Yan helped me solve the siege in time.
He said to his mother-in-law dissatisfied: "Mom, what do you say! Linlin works so hard every day, if you are not considerate, forget it, how can you still say such words? ”
Seeing Li Yan talking to me, my mother-in-law was even more unhappy, and her face was ugly: "My silly son, mom, this is not for your good?" Your daughter-in-law comes back so late every day, and you are not afraid to wear a hat on your head! ”
Hearing my mother-in-law say this, the grievances in my heart instantly exploded, and I retorted loudly: "Mom, what are you talking nonsense? Didn't I take on this project to make more money! ”
Yes, since we got married, Li Yan and I have been actively working hard to make money, in order to save up a down payment to buy a house as soon as possible.
Li Yan was very angry, and he accused his mother-in-law: "Mom, you are too much!" Is it interesting that you bully my wife so much every day? How can you do this mother-in-law! ”
Then my husband pulled me back to the room, he hugged me and kept apologizing to me, I finally had something to rely on, and cried aggrievedly.
"Husband, I don't want to live with your mother anymore, I really can't stand it!"
Li Yan nodded firmly and said: "Okay, I'll look for a house tomorrow, let's rent a house first, according to the progress of our current savings, we can buy a house in half a year!" ”
Therefore, we wanted to move out and live alone despite our mother-in-law's objections. On the day we moved away, my mother-in-law cried and made a fuss, and I was worried that my husband would be soft-hearted, but he was firm.
Li Yan said: "Mom, I know that it is not easy for you to raise me as an adult, and I will definitely be filial to you as always in the future." But my wife doesn't owe you, it's just not right for you to bully her like this. Since you can't see us so well, then we'll move out, it's good for everyone! ”
Li Yan's words moved me very much, I have suffered a lot of grievances for most of the past six months, but at that moment I was very sure that I had not married the wrong person.
After living in a rented house for half a year, we finally bought our own house. When I bought the house, my parents helped to contribute 100,000 yuan, so when Li Yan was decorating, he went to his mother-in-law's side and wanted to ask her for 100,000 yuan.
To our surprise, my mother-in-law refused and said to Li Yan: "You know that I am against you buying a house, and now you want to take money from me to decorate, don't even think about it!" ”
Later, there was no way, Li Yan had to borrow money from a friend to decorate with an IOU.
After experiencing this incident, Li Yan also had a lot of opinions about his mother-in-law, but he was always a filial person, and although he was dissatisfied in his heart, he would still go back to visit his mother-in-law often. And I, only go back during the New Year's holiday.
In the second half of last year, our little baby arrived, and to my great disappointment, my mother-in-law did not say anything about it, from pregnancy to childbirth, she only took the initiative to come to our house once after the birth of the child and forget it. And through her expression, I could feel that she didn't like my child.
My confinement mother-in-law did not contribute or pay, let alone help us with the children. Fortunately, my mom just retired and had time to help me with my children, so that I could continue to work without any worries after maternity leave.
Although my mother-in-law didn't help me in any way, now I don't have to look at her face every day and be called by her, I am already very content. Until last week, Li Yan said to me with a worried face: "Wife, our mother had a car accident!" ”
After receiving this notice, we did not dare to delay to the hospital, fortunately my mother-in-law only had a broken leg, and the rest were abrasions.
After seeing Li Yan, her mother-in-law immediately cried: "Son, my mother is going to die of pain, now that I am hospitalized, you have to serve me!" ”
Li Yan looked at me with a look of embarrassment.
I know that Li Yan has recently prepared to run for department manager, and now is the most critical period. In order for him to be able to prepare with peace of mind, I offered to take care of my mother-in-law.
In this way, I served my mother-in-law with all my heart and soul in the hospital. Originally, I thought that my mother-in-law would have no energy to toss when she was injured, but she still held her parents' shelf, not to make me do this, but to make me do that. Especially when there are many people in the ward, she especially likes to count me.
For example, when I peel apples for her, she thinks the apples are too sour. When she ate, she knew she could eat, but she had to feed her. When I wiped her body, I was even more careful, but she would viciously say that I deliberately tortured her.
Once, the aunt in the ward couldn't see it, and helped me speak: "Big sister, don't be satisfied, your hospitalized daughter-in-law is really envious of the dead to serve you, you look at my daughter-in-law, don't say come to serve me, you haven't come to see me!" ”
But my mother-in-law didn't think so, she said: "She is my daughter-in-law and should serve me. You don't see her clumsy and can't do anything, I have to teach her how to serve people when I get home! ”
I looked at my mother-in-law's smug look and was angry, I stood up suddenly, frowned and said: "I am your daughter-in-law, not your slave, how can I serve you?" If it weren't for my husband, do you think I'm coming back to serve you?! ”
My mother-in-law didn't expect that I would contradict her in front of others, and she was so angry with me at the moment, she said angrily: "Do you have a good upbringing, did your mother teach you to talk to your mother-in-law like this?" ”
At this moment, Li Yan suddenly appeared, he pulled me behind him, and said to his mother-in-law: "Mom, you really go too far every time." My wife came to serve you kindly, if you don't say she is good, forget it, why are you still bullying her? From today she won't come to take care of you anymore, and I don't have time to come to see you, just watch and do it yourself! ”
The mother-in-law was immediately dumbfounded when she heard Li Yan say this, and she said dryly: "Son, don't be like this, my mother is in a bad mood because she is too painful, so she spilled her anger on Linlin." Mom is wrong, it won't be like this in the future! ”
Li Yan shook his head and said disappointedly: "Mom, you promised me more than once that I would treat my wife well, but what about the truth? I won't believe you anymore. I'll hire a caregiver for you in a moment, so take care of yourself! ”
With that, we left the hospital together.
On the way back, I really showed a smile, I was happy that Li Yan could protect me so much. At the same time, I feel very relaxed. Because I have worked hard to improve my relationship with my mother-in-law, but I still can't touch her, which makes me recognize the reality, and I will definitely not stick my hot face to my cold ass in the future.
My mother-in-law is just my husband's mother to me, and I won't stop my husband from being filial to her, but I won't give her anything anymore.
Friends, do you think I'm right? If it were you, what would you do?