Love, sometimes, is not a beautiful fairy tale, but a real triviality and sacrifice in life. The marriage of Zhang Ailing and Lai Ya is a real and complex example.
Zhang Ailing has experienced many ups and downs in her life. After leaving her first husband, Hu Lancheng, she began a single life in discouragement. In middle age, she met Laiya, an American playwright, at McDowell Literary Camp. Both of them are in the trough, life is difficult, and they need to understand and care for each other. They began a journey of acquaintance, acquaintance.
Lai Ya brought Zhang Ailing many feelings that she had never experienced before. He is a funny and humorous man who knows how to take care of people, bringing warmth and care to Zhang Ailing. He accompanied her through many difficulties and illnesses and always guarded her. For Zhang Ailing, he is not only a lover, but also her father, brother and friend.
In their marriage, two writers influenced each other and progressed together. Lai Ya brought Zhang Ailing the essence of Western drama creation, and Zhang Ailing made Lai Ya understand Chinese culture. They achieve each other, support each other, and bring inspiration and motivation to each other.
However, their marriage also experienced many challenges. Lai Ya had multiple strokes and needed the care and support of Zhang Ailing. Eileen Cheung even left Hong Kong to write in order to earn medical expenses. Laiya's dependence on her became even deeper, and he refused to let go of her hand even like a child.
In the end, Laiya died of illness. Zhang Ailing added his name to her surname after his death, always calling herself "Mrs. Lai Ya". She kept the promise between them until her own death.
This is a marriage story full of bitterness and sacrifice, but also a true and moving story. It makes us understand that love is not perfect, but requires tolerance and understanding from both parties. When two people are together, they need to support and tolerate each other in order to create a good life together.
In life, we may encounter various difficulties and setbacks. But as long as we are willing to understand and care for each other with our hearts, and are willing to pay for each other, love will become the most beautiful part of our lives. No matter what we have experienced, as long as we can persist and cherish it like Zhang Ailing and Lai Ya, we can find our own happiness.
The story of Ailing and Ya is really touching, the love between them is not only the spark of talent collision, but also the warmth and support given to each other. Before they met, Zhang Ailing had been frustrated and troubled, unable to find the direction of life and creation. And Laiya's appearance gave her new hope and courage.
Lai Ya is not only Zhang Ailing's lover, but also her confidant and mentor. They influence each other, progress together, and bring each other strength and inspiration. Lai Ya gave Zhang Ailing a new perspective in her thinking, allowing her to re-examine and understand her own culture and life. And Zhang Ailing's talent and wisdom also deeply attracted Lai Ya, making him fall for her.
Despite the difficulties and challenges their marriage, they have always been close to each other and supported each other. Lai Ya's stroke made Zhang Ailing cherish his company and care, and she gave all her love and care, making Lai Ya feel endless warmth and comfort. Lai Ya's death made Zhang Ailing unhappy, but she still insisted on her agreement with Lai Ya and guarded their promise.
Eileen Chang is a talented writer whose works have influenced countless readers, while Lai Ya is her confidant and soul mate, and the love between them is sincere and beautiful. Their stories make people believe that love can be full of understanding, tolerance and common growth, and can help people find hope and strength in difficulties and setbacks.
The love story of Eileen Zhang and Lai Ya has brought us profound inspiration, even in the face of adversity, love and warmth are what we need most. They use their stories to tell us that love is a selfless devotion, and only by truly loving with the heart can we get the best reward. No matter what life is, as long as there is love, it can warm our hearts and bring us courage and hope.
Their stories also give us a definition of love, love is not only romance and passion, but also companionship and support, two people in the common growth and struggle to support and encourage each other. They use their love stories to tell us that true love needs to go through the baptism and test of time, and only after experiencing the grind and test of life can it become more resilient and real.
Their stories make us believe that true love can transcend time and space, and their love still exists in our hearts even after they have been dead for many years. Their story is a beautiful legend that we should remember and learn.
Title: An Ordinary and Beautiful Marriage: The Love Story of Zhang Ailing and Lai Ya
On September 16, 1981, 61-year-old Zhang Ailing wrote to Song Qi: "Both Dacheng and Ping Xintao were sent at the same time on my birthday, and I got 7,000 US dollars and Hu Lancheng's death at the same time, which inevitably felt that it was a birthday gift. The Hu Lancheng mentioned in the letter was Zhang Ailing's first husband who had betrayed her. However, contrary to Hu Lancheng's indifference, Zhang Ailing is full of warmth and love for her second husband Lai Ya. What exactly made Zhang Ailing's heart completely soft and have deep feelings for Lai Ya?
After splitting up with Hu Lan, Zhang Ailing went to the United States to start a new life. However, the beginning was not smooth, Zhang Ailing's works had limited income, and she worried about her livelihood. At her lowest point, she applied for aid at McDowell Literary Camp, a place to take in impoverished literary and artistic figures. It was here that Zhang Ailing met the similarly disadvantaged American dramatist Lai Ya.
The two first met on March 31, 1956, after Lai Ya took the initiative to walk up to Zhang Ailing and introduce herself, the two met. Laiya is a well-known and talented playwright who is popular in Hollywood circles. However, he got into trouble because of his unwillingness to pander to the market and hedonism. At this time, they were all reduced to the situation of needing the rescue of McDowell Literary Camp.
The two are attracted to each other, and soon their relationship develops rapidly. Zhang Ailing found the warmth and love she needed in Laiya, who provided her with a comfortable and safe atmosphere. Under his care, Zhang Ailing's heart was completely soft. In Zhang Ailing's eyes, Lai Ya has the elegance of Oriental and the romance of Westerners, and he always tries his best to create surprises and romance for her, even if they live in poverty.
Under the influence of Lai Ya, Zhang Ailing's creative style has undergone a breakthrough. Lai Ya admired Zhang Ailing's talent and writing, and he spoke highly of her works and ideas. Lai Ya also had a positive impact on Zhang Ailing's emotional growth, helping her reach a final reconciliation with her mother, and thus slowly becoming affectionate.
However, the marriage of the two has also experienced many challenges. Raiya's physical condition began to deteriorate, and she suffered more than one stroke. Whenever he fell ill, Lai Ya's dependence on Zhang Ailing deepened. He needs her company and care, and Eileen Chang does her best to meet his needs. However, the ruthless arrangement of fate forced Raiya to leave this world.
Zhang Ailing is deeply saddened by Lai Ya's departure, she pursues time with him and tries to find opportunities for the two to be alone. She even took Raiya out of college quietly to a place where she could spend time with him. In the end, accompanied by Zhang Ailing, Lai Ya said goodbye peacefully.
After Lai Ya's death, Zhang Ailing changed her name to Ai Ling Laiya and has always referred to herself as "Mrs. Lai Ya". She chose to use this way to commemorate and cherish the good time between the two, and also made up for the regret of "I was not born in Junsheng, and I am old when I was born". Since then, she has never had feelings for any man again, because she has received the best love.
This is an ordinary and beautiful marriage story. Lai Ya gives Zhang Ailing warmth and love, and Zhang Ailing responds with softness and tolerance. They have experienced many difficult times together, but their love is still full of light and sincerity. Their stories tell us that true love is mutual achievement and tolerance, it is not a one-sided need, but a beautiful mixture of mutual foam and common growth.
As Zhang Ailing wrote: "True love is not purely the interweaving of desires and so on, nor is it mutual need, but a beautiful mixture of mutual foam, tolerance and understanding." "Their marriage may not be perfect, but their love and care for each other made them feel the best things in life.
Zhang Ailing eventually passed away, and she fulfilled her promise with Laiya and came to the end of her life with him. Their stories make us understand that true love will not be diminished by parting, it will remain in the heart forever, making people feel warm and hopeful. This story makes us believe that even an ordinary marriage can have beautiful and sincere love.
Source: Toutiao
Zhang Ailing and Lai Ya: A life of love and care
On September 16, 1981, 61-year-old Zhang Ailing wrote to Song Qi: "Both Dacheng and Ping Xintao were sent at the same time on my birthday, and I got 7,000 US dollars and Hu Lancheng's death at the same time. Hu Lancheng in this letter is Zhang Ailing's first husband who betrayed her.
Before this, Zhang Ailing replied very coldly after Hu Lancheng wrote his autobiography "This Life and This World": "Don't write again, please send it when the next volume of "This Life and This World" is published." Such words, from Zhang Ailing's mouth, even Hu Lancheng's wife She Aizhen, who does not understand the mind of literati, understood it: "She doesn't want to deal with you, but the works can still be communicated." ”
Contrary to Zhang Ailing's later indifference to Hu Lancheng, she was so warm about her second husband Lai Ya that she still regarded herself as "Mrs. Lai Ya" for many years after her husband's death. What kind of past did Zhang Ailing have with her husband, who is 29 years older than herself, and why can he become the warmest thought in her life? To unravel all this, we have to go back to the beginning of Zhang Ailing and Lai Ya's acquaintance.
One evening in the autumn of 1955, Zhang Ailing, a young Chinese female writer, stepped on a ship from Victoria Harbour in Hong Kong. This year, Zhang Ailing and Hu Lancheng have been divorced for 9 years, and her love with young director Arc Sang has also ended for many years.
At this time, Zhang Ailing was 35 years old, and at this age when everything should have been available, Zhang Ailing was only left with a body of pain. Even the career that once made her proud was hindered by the drag of her identity as the wife of the traitor Hu Lancheng.
Trees move to death, people move to live, since everything is already going to die, let's try it, perhaps, there can be a turnaround!
However, this "turnaround" was not as easy as Zhang Ailing thought, and initially, even though her English version of the novel "Yangge" was well received by the industry, the novel was only well received in the end, and the work did not bring her the desired income.
Spending a long time writing a work, but in the end did not even earn food and clothing, this result made Zhang Ailing very distressed. But she knows that now is far from the time to be distressed, because she must first solve the problem of livelihood.
The way this talented woman first settled her livelihood in the United States was very embarrassing: applying for assistance from McDowell Literary Camp. It is a pity that after a famous family, a talented woman in the world ended up like this in a foreign country in middle age. Fortunately, everything is still just beginning, and everything still has a chance to turn around. As long as one does not give up hope, everything will be possible.
McDowell Literary Camp is a place of relief nature, and most of the people in the literary and artistic circles are taken in. It was here that Zhang Ailing met the American dramatist Lai Ya, who was also in a state of slump. The first time the two met was on March 31, 1956, when Lai Ya took the initiative to walk up to Zhang Ailing and said, "Allow me to introduce myself..."
Zhang Ailing later learned that this uncle who took the initiative to greet him was a famous and talented playwright in the United States. He was even predicted to win the Nobel Prize in Literature. In American Hollywood circles, his scripts have always been very popular. But because of Lai Ya's pursuit of pleasure and refusal to cater to the market, he had not published works for a long time when he met Zhang Ailing. It is precisely because of this that he will be reduced to living on the rescue of the McDowell Literary Camp like Zhang Ailing.
Unlike Zhang Ailing, Lai Ya has a continuous love history in her life, and after the divorce, the lovers around him have also been constant, but they have not remarried. Laiya's failure to remarry was not because of reality, but simply because he didn't want to. After all, talented men, like talented women, have never thought differently from ordinary people. In Laiya's heart, if it were not for the affection and agreement, he would never think about marriage again.
The day after they met, Lai Ya and Zhang Ailing, who had a good impression of each other, began to shift from public to private. Just over a month later, the relationship between the two developed rapidly.
For Lai Ya, this genius female writer has oriental classical beauty, and although she is not old, her unique insights can always surprise him; For Zhang Ailing, Lai Ya, who can be her father at her age, is mature, talented and unworldly, and the freeness and frankness in him are really something she has never seen in anyone before.
Most importantly, in those most difficult years, Lai Ya, who was humorous and knew how to take care of people, gave Zhang Ailing love like a father and a brother. This kind of care is what Zhang Ailing, who lacks father's love and warmth since she was a child, lacks the most. When people are in distress, they are often more vulnerable and more likely to be hit by warmth. The two fell into love like this.
Under Lai Ya's care, Zhang Ailing's eyes were full of tenderness. But the more tender she was, the more hurtful Raiya's departure would be to her. In April 1967, seeing that Lai Ya's illness was getting worse and worse, Zhang Ailing was anxious, and she prayed that the heavens would give them more time, while constantly trying to find ways to create opportunities to be alone with Lai Ya.
Later, Zhang Ailing simply took Lai Ya to quietly leave the University of Miami and go to Cambridge. Half a year later, accompanied by Zhang Ailing, Lai Ya passed away peacefully.
When she died, Zhang Ailing and Lai Ya agreed not to die in the same year, the same month and the same day, but to die at the same age. After Lai Ya's death, Zhang Ailing was only 47 years old at the time, and since then, she simply changed her name to Ai Ling Lai Ya and has always referred to herself as "Mrs. Lai Ya". Since then, she has not had sex with any man, probably because she has ever received the best love.
In the mid-fall of 1995, Zhang Ailing died in her apartment on Rochester Avenue in Westwood, California, when she died at the age of 75. Zhang Ailing finally fulfilled her promise with Lai Yadi, and they also used this way to make up for the regret of "Junsheng I was not born, Junsheng I am old".
