In my lifetime, I saw "Sweet Honey" and "Liang Zhu" being criticized, how should I face my children

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The classic Chinese romance film "Sweet Honey", which has touched countless people, was on the hot search again some time ago after 27 years of release. But this time it was scolding.

People who scold it believe that the male protagonist Liming is stepping on two boats, and the female protagonist Maggie Cheung is knowing three when three, and the whole movie has three incorrect views. Some young people shouted that if the film were to be on the shelves today, it would definitely be reported to be taken down.

This is not the first time, just find an old Hong Kong film, old Hong Kong drama, American drama, British drama, Japanese drama, Korean drama, or the current film and television drama, there are countless words such as "one foot on two ships", "junior" and "scumbag" in the barrage. As long as a person faces trade-offs in a relationship, a relationship involves a love triangle, and the male and female characters will be scolded.

Even "Sweet Honey", those who criticize it will not care about the ups and downs of the male and female protagonists in the big time, the underlying story of warming each other in a foreign land, and even the whole movie has not been seen, so they became apologists for the first time.

Many classics have been criticized for this, the theme of extramarital affairs in "Dream of the Covered Bridge" has been criticized, and the male protagonist of "Titanic" has been accused of being a "male junior". Even "Liang Zhu" has not been let go, some people think that Mar Wencai and Zhu Yingtai have a marriage contract earlier, Liang Shanbo and Marven are the same window friends, actually prying the brother's corner, is an absolute "male junior".

This is true of film and television works, and the same is true of literary works, as long as the character has a plot such as changing girlfriends and cheating, it may be scolded. As for whether it can be on the hot search, it depends on "luck".

I watched a film called "Midsummer Future" two years ago, the overall lackluster, and I rarely wrote film reviews in recent years, and I didn't plan to write anything for it. But occasionally when I see the reviews on the Internet, I feel that I can write something - nothing about the film, only the people who watch the film.

The plot of "Midsummer Future" is very simple, the story of two high school students, the girl likes the boy, and the boy has another person in his heart - a DJ. There is a bit of sexual doubt in this part, because from beginning to end, the DJ who was secretly crushed did not show his true face, and he was indistinguishable and could be regarded as the director's edge ball. Later, in order to determine who his feelings really belong to, the boy decides to go with the girl to a music festival in a different place to find a DJ. In the process of getting along, the boy and the girl had a kiss, and the boy, after kissing, said "If only I could like you too".

It was this sentence that triggered a wave of fierce attacks on the male protagonist, thinking that he was a "scumbag". The reason is simple, don't like each other, why kiss.

I don't know when young people's evaluation of a person gradually tends to be a guardian thinking, and it is more like today's old people, that is, our parents' generation, who grew up in sports again and again and became accustomed to black and white.

Whether it is a movie, TV series or book, or reality, a character or a person in their evaluation system, there are only two conclusions, one is "slag" and the other is "no scum".

In my opinion, this is laziness in thinking, but also an intellectual defect.

I was born in the early 80s, and although my childhood was relatively materially scarce and my life was relatively simple, I happened to usher in conceptual diversity, and to some extent I was accustomed to understanding and tolerance.

In "Midsummer Future", the girl Chen Chen was originally a top student, and before the college entrance examination, she learned the truth that her parents had long been divorced, and she fell ill in the rain and swimming at will. Although her illness did not affect her performance, she chose to wipe off the filled English answer cards in the end. The boy Zheng Yuxing was dumped by the DJ for no reason before the college entrance examination, and gambled not to go to the college entrance examination.

This evasion is, of course, willful, but not difficult to understand in human nature. Our youth, even if it is mediocre, no matter how much we follow the steps, will inevitably have such reckless moments.

The relationship between the two teenagers in the movie, from the misunderstanding of the teacher, the ridicule of classmates, to being together as a fake couple, from playing guitar, DJ, bouncing, drinking to escaping, the essence is mutual comfort under youth and loneliness. The phrase "Although the past is false, it can turn the future into reality" is perhaps the best line in the film, full of youthful longing and bravery.

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Such feelings are certainly beautiful, even if they are loved, even if they are not tolerated by the world.

Even that much-maligned kiss happened naturally. It is the confusion and throbbing of a teenager, trying to prove something and trying to deny something. Isn't a person's life spent in trial, experience and even trial and error? Everyone has moments when they don't understand love, and there are moments when they can't really understand what their heart wants. Could it be that the feelings of those who criticize are standardized and standardized? Are they all programs set up by computers? Of course, if your feelings can only happen with the keyboard in your hand, then I don't say anything.

To my surprise, there are many seemingly "positive" comments, such as someone said, "I never thought that premature love could be so fanfare, now the times have really progressed", please, died early in the morning, is your life really lacking and monotonous to the point of watching a movie to feel so surprised?

Similarly, there are TV series. Hong Kong dramas used to be the growing memories of many people, but now when I click on the Hong Kong dramas on major platforms, there are too many words in the barrage that I can't imagine. For example, if a male character breaks up with his girlfriend, the barrage is always a bad evaluation such as "scumbag" and "mistress". It is inevitable that there will be hesitation and entanglement, unpleasantness and squabbles in a relationship, but at such moments, words such as "scumbags" will appear in the barrage, as if people are machines, not only from the beginning, but also in the process can not have any downtime and failures.

Love is the most complex emotion of human beings, there are too many sweetness and sadness, there are desires and unbreakables, there are also lovesick pains, there are passions and dullness, there are two people who are foaming at each other, and there is also a lifetime entanglement. In the love triangle and four-corner love, there is always confusion, hesitation, unwillingness, loneliness and entanglement. Love or not love, feelings disappear, empathy and farewell are all the norm in love.

In my favorite Hong Kong music lyrics:

There is a great alienation: "The sheets are covered with snow, but I feel hot, you sleep next to it, and the void in it cannot be eliminated with love";

There is a sincere "I forgot to tell you, I can't see you old on my way";

There is pathos and uneasiness "or at the feast of the newlyweds of your companions, waiting for you to appear in confusion";

There is a sudden look back: "I was very happy, but I didn't notice it";

There are humble "I will love without your permission, bless each other when my heart is soft, or allow me to kiss it";

There are those who hate each other late: "If you meet three or five years earlier, how can you fight in your heart";

There is a distant "look forward to your happy ending, always remember that the fly in the ointment will be me";

There is a heart-wrenching "I didn't hurt for you, I don't deserve to regret it, you didn't walk thousands of miles with me, not enough plot to continue the story";

There is "who do you worry about the most when you close your eyes, and who is around you when you open your eyes";

There is "witnessing with a third party's identity, the most unreliable is love";

There is "biting your lip, wearing a wedding dress on the road, and asking you for advice for the rest of your life";

There are "Look at the cold world, what year and what life for you to share my bitter love and marvel, for love to rehabilitate";

There is "If I have no luck falling asleep with you laughing, but crying romance, why be afraid".

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These feelings are like the plots in Hong Kong dramas in the old days, touching our hearts, but today, in the cognition of some people, all these feelings are "slag" as long as they do not meet the requirements of feudal rites. In their eyes, people have no complex feelings, no mood at different stages, no joy, anger and sorrow, no mood swings, only "scum" or "no scum".

There is no cure for such intellectual defects and cognitive impairments.

Many people will wonder why in the 21st century, the world civilization is so diverse, but so many young people are like being taken away by the Qing Dynasty, taking the initiative to become guardians, keen to review all kinds of classic literary and artistic works, and every day criticize this is the scum, the other is the junior. What's so surprising about that? There are old people who grew up watching model plays, of course, there are young people who take the initiative to review themselves and take the initiative to create an atmosphere of model plays. Because censorship was everywhere when they were growing up, censorship was the only thing they could learn from their elders.

You just find an old man, and more than eighty percent of the chances are that they are guardians. They will say that many TV dramas, movies and books are harmful, messy, full of all kinds of bourgeois values, and teach children badly - this does not prevent them from holding those anti-Japanese dramas every day, even feeling flawed by lines such as "My grandfather was killed by Japanese devils when he was nine years old." Their examination of literary and artistic works is often also binary opposite, even if they criticize teachers, smash cultural relics, and do not learn or learn from learning from childhood, it does not prevent them from blaming their next generation and foreign countries for the "decline of the world".

My generation is relatively fortunate to rarely see some light, of course, growing up also accustomed to these lights being criticized by the older generation - when I was a child, who had not heard arbitrary speculations such as "reading martial arts novels and running to learn kung fu to do bad things" and "watching Hong Kong movies will become a confused boy"?

It is a real pity that such a light can also be criticized by people younger than us. Last night, I posted a message about the criticized circle of friends of "Sweet Honey", and a friend left a message: "I really can't accept that my children are in the same society as such a group of people, it's too dangerous, it's too scary." ”

This is not the first time that this is the first time, in the face of many public events, when seeing those illogical violent remarks, some friends have asked the sentence, "Do you want your children to be in such a society?" ”

My friend Peng Yuanwen once quoted a sentence from a friend of Tianya in an article: "When we reach the age of forty or fifty, if the society is not as good as we want, don't complain, because this is caused by our irresponsibility." ”

I still have to take out the phrase that I have mentioned many times in this public name: "The more a generation emphasizes adapting to society without a bottom line, the more difficult it will be for the next generation to adapt to society." ”

"Sweet Honey" and even the pop culture of that era once nourished our generation. For Chinese, it was even the most inclusive and open time in history. It's just that if you don't cherish the light you once saw, then the light will also leave.

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Author| Ye Kefei

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