Is it wrong for children to be introverted? In fact, it is not introversion that destroys children, but prejudice

Some time ago, I met a neighbor and her child at the door of the community, and the moment I saw me, the child was obviously a little cramped and uneasy, and the neighbor kept urging him to say hello to me, and the child whispered "Auntie is good" and went home first.

The neighbor looked at the child like this and complained: "This child has been introverted since childhood, and he doesn't know what to do when he enters society in the future..."

Listening to the neighbor's words, I thought of a video I watched, which was a self-report of an inner child growing up:

When I was a child, I was always told by my family and relatives that I was too introverted, did not like to talk, and could not deal with relationships, because you were sensitive since childhood, and realized that these people were neither intimate nor understood that you were just some fake sexual relationship, they wanted the emotional value that a child provided to him ...

People do not have any distinction between introversion and extroversion, but are aware of the texture of the relationship and choose to open the connected antenna. You are a good idea, don't believe their nonsense, please be yourself...

When a child is labeled as introverted:

For example, sensitive and inferior, withdrawn, shy, timid, and even some people equate introversion with social phobia and depression.

Do you know what these labels mean to children?

Every negative label may hurt the child's self-esteem and heart, and may become an invisible shackle that shackles the child.

Children are helpless, and parents are not confident.

However, this is not the case.

According to a survey, 70% of the world's successful people are introverted.

Einstein, Bill. Gates, Buffett, Jobs, and President Putin are all introverts.

Introversion is a talent, a child's innate temperament, not a defect.

What makes children worse is not introversion, but prejudice

In the first performance of the variety show "Talk Show Conference" Bird Bird, we can find that introverts have "a lot of drama" in their hearts.

Bird is a master of Peking University, but because of her introverted personality, she has severe social anxiety. Whispering, always worried about disturbing others, stiff smiles, evasive eyes... The heart is also very sensitive, and a little thing can be cranky for half a day.

Bird Bird talked about a small incident when she went to wash her hands, she mistook the switch faucet for a sensor faucet, and did not respond for half a day after reaching out, she was very sad and felt that she was ignored.

Bird Bird also gave an example of "Wusong and Tiger", saying that he was bitten to death by a tiger and did not dare to ask for help, after all, no one saved him, just a death; Once someone rescues them, they have to say hello to each other.

For introverts, saying hello is particularly difficult, and after thinking about it, you may not be able to reach a conclusion, you can only turn your head and run away, as if you don't know.

Introverts also pay special attention to the evaluation of others, and always feel that others are just as sensitive and entangled as themselves. They are sensitive and have a low sense of self-worth, so they are not friendly to the outside world.

"You will suffer when you grow up with this kind of personality." "You are so introverted, it will be difficult to have a big career in the future." Similar words often appear in the ears of introverts, some people have listened to since childhood, and some people use them to talk about their children.

Because of the introverted sensitivity, many people's subconscious has long determined that introversion is a disadvantage, and it is not okay to change it; Introverts are not welcome; Excellent children are very good at expressing themselves and playing with anyone.

Growing up, "introvert" seems to have become a shameful label in a culture where social and extroverts are highly regarded. In fact, it is not introversion that makes children bad, but prejudice.

Introverted children are better than you think

Maybe you remember that remarkable highlight moment in The Strongest Brain: the Fragment Hunt.

Countless colored fragments of different shapes confuse vision, and the contestants must pinpoint all the fragments that make up the target figure in the shortest possible time.

The teenager Sun Yidong beat Qingbei Xueba in 29 seconds and stood out.

So good, how many parents are envious.

Introverted children are not good at words, but they are very observant and always keenly able to grasp the main points or subtleties.

Once he sees his way, he constantly seeks to explore the depths. Therefore, the understanding and study of hobbies and interests often exceeds that of peers, which also diversifies cognition.

It is the super concentration and observation that give introverted children careful logical thinking ability.

Introverted children, whether playing games or telling stories, are more serious than extroverts.

The less they communicate with the outside world, the more time and energy they can devote to introspection and reflection.

The scientist Newton, extremely introverted and shy when he was young, could comprehend the profound law of gravitation from the natural phenomenon of "apple landing".

When introverted children's judgment and thinking skills gradually mature, if they can continue to study in a certain field, they are likely to become the best and leading figures in the industry in the future.

Discover the potential strengths of introverted children,

It is the unshirkable responsibility of parents

Understand the potential strengths of introverted children, and you will find that there are countless treasures in children.

How to help children grow better, parents should attach great importance to several aspects:

01

Never label your child

In the subconscious of some parents, introversion represents not being good at talking, not being sociable, not being confident, etc.

Psychology has a "label effect":

When a person is labeled with a certain label, he will make self-image management and eventually become the kind of person that the label designates.

As a parent, please do not define and label your child at will, beware of tearing it off.

02

Do not try to change your child's personality

Psychologist Li Zixun said:

"When an introvert tries to become extroverted, he may lose his inner peace and the favor of fate."

Do not force the child to change, but learn to accept him and recognize him;

When the child focuses on his own field, parents should not interfere with him, interrupt him, let alone force the child to do things he does not like;

Positive cues and encouragement will have a good effect on the child's psychology and intelligence.

03

Stimulate your child's inner potential

Children's talents are often expressed in interest, parents should pay attention to their children and discover what they really love;

Every child has its own shining points, parents should guide and stimulate their children's potential;

Observe attentively, when the child performs well, timely appreciation, let the child build up self-confidence and self-esteem;

Once his or her mind is responded to and recognized, the child can play to his or her strengths.

04

Adapt to your child's growth rhythm

Children not only have an exclusive growth rhythm, but also need enough space and time;

Parents should not be overly anxious and disturbed, but more patient and high-quality companionship;

Parents should give introverted children more understanding and adjust their pace to adapt to them if necessary;

Please create a relaxed and pleasant environment and atmosphere for your child to grow up regularly.

In the movie "The Elegance of the Hedgehog", it is said: "We are all lonely hedgehogs, and only people with the same frequency can see the unknown grace in each other's hearts." ”

Introverted children often have a delicate and rich heart. This movie will make children realize how precious it is to be at ease in their own world.

There are many things that people have to know in this life, and one of them is very important, that is, to recognize themselves, know themselves, and achieve themselves. What these schools don't necessarily teach is a compulsory lesson that we, as parents, have to teach our children.

The poet says that only mountains and rivers that are calm enough can give birth to synesthetic gods.

And our children, they are gentle and calm, silent but warm, they are the immature gods.