Recently, due to the pressure is relatively large, the mood swings are relatively large, after watching "Be a frog escaping the island" written by Kim Eunju, I feel much better, the most impressive thing for me is the part of the opening about emotional management, share with you, if you are also under pressure, resulting in bad emotions or other problems, I believe you can benefit from it.
First, emotions that need to be retained: self-recognition and praise, positive thoughts.
Chinese take modesty as a virtue, and are always unwilling to accept the praise of others positively, half-pushing, half-pushing, and over time, they really think that those other people's praise is just superficial politeness, and they are easily ignored.
But as everyone knows, these praises are precisely the positive energy needed for the stronger nutrition of our minds and the normal growth of good emotions.
Therefore, in the face of others' approval, good words, wise opinions, and positive thoughts, we must learn to chew repeatedly, digest and absorb, and let it become the nourishment of the soul and store it well.
Second, what needs to be discarded: emotional garbage
When I was in the college entrance examination, on the way to the examination room, a friend who was more "straight" asked me, "Can you be admitted this year?" Look at how crazy you play. ”
To be honest, I was very upset, but this unhappiness lasted for a moment, and I easily discarded it before entering the examination room.
Now that I think about it, I was really confident at that time, and I didn't put these negative things in my eyes at all, and I feel that I am much weaker now.
This is one of the sources of emotional garbage: the language of the outside world.
There are many people in the world, and there will always be people who speak without brains, such as "You are fat again!" ”；“ This dress is ugly today. "Wait, in the face of language garbage thrown by others, throw it directly into the trash.
The second source of emotional garbage: brewing it yourself.
1. I definitely can't.
Use bad experiences or memories in the past to torture your current self, amplify your inferiority complex, and imply that you can't.
2. Even if I sign up, I can't pass it.
The future has not yet arrived, but it is trapped by fear and worry, and it hits the self today.
3. What should I do if the company is in a recession and layoffs in the future?
Scare yourself with objective situations that you can't control.
In the face of these dark clouds hovering overhead, we must learn to disperse them ourselves.
You know, yesterday's me may not be perfect, a week ago I may be a little embarrassed, a year ago I may be naïve enough to want to laugh, but these do not represent the present, let alone the future, on the road of life, you will eventually develop in the direction of becoming stronger and more elegant.
Worries about the future that has not yet arrived, that is just your thoughts, ideas are ideas, facts are facts, the future will not change because of what you think, but your steady efforts may be able to change.
The objective situation that cannot be influenced will not change in any way because of your worries, if it does not come, there is no need to worry at all, if it will come, there is no need to worry.
Third, to avoid: negative, world-weary, cynical people and content.
Just as we need to consume things reasonably, our hearts also need to develop the habit of "reasonable consumption".
Everyone's day is 24 hours, and in this limited time, we deal with people, deal with all kinds of things, and think about everything. You will inevitably invite those dispensable, insignificant things into your mind, and then consume your heart in a big way.
Faced with this situation, we need to learn to wisely refuse to bring this garbage into our lives from the beginning. People and things with negative, world-weary, and ironic elements in life are everywhere, for these, we must learn to avoid them, if they are really not avoided, then go back to the second step and discard emotional garbage.
As the saying goes: the toad clings to the surface of the foot, does not bite, and the diaphragm responds to people. We first have to avoid toads, and if we don't avoid them carelessly, throw them off. Don't get caught up in it.
American investor Charlie Munger once said: Don't wrestle with a pig, because then you will get dirty all over and the other party will enjoy it.
In order to attract people's attention, advertisements constantly broadcast exciting content;
In order to win more attention, online media do not hesitate to exaggerate and fake, and even study psychology in order to better attract attention, so that we need to resist its temptation, which really needs to spend some thought;
Pessimistic people always like to chatter, shifting their worries to more people in search of balance.
All of the above is harmful to our lives and must be avoided.
To be the master of your own heart, inexplicable emotions are bad, depressed, sad, do not let it go. We must learn to face them squarely, stand face to face with our inner self, and show enough sincerity and patience to understand ourselves, only by facing ourselves can we comfort and heal ourselves.
When you do your best to explore the world, unknown creatures, and distant universes, you can also give everything to explore your heart, which is equally profound.