Life, like a book, is open by everyone, some with an end on a page, some with ellipses. Regardless of fame and fortune, they are only momentary passers-by, because in the book of life, apart from death, there is almost nothing that can be called a big event.
However, when friends and family pass away, everyone expresses their thoughts in different ways. At the funeral, people's attitudes and behaviors can better reflect the variety of human nature and show the warmth of life.
In recent years, with the development of society, some memorial services have begun to become unusual, turning mourning into a kind of consumption, tears into flow, and "all the way to good" into "all the way to attention". At the funerals of friends and relatives, people are no longer just silently crying or saying goodbyes peacefully, but have become photographers and posters, trying to turn these moments into topics on social media.
On June 18, Zhang Hengyuan's memorial service made hot headlines and sparked widespread discussion. It is said that more than 1,000 people attended the memorial service, but what is puzzling is that many people took pictures with mobile phones, accompanied by various texts, and posted this moment on the Internet. This made me question, are these people really here to mourn the dead? If it's real brothers, they should be on the spot to help, not busy taking pictures.
What is even more puzzling is that some people actually filmed Zhang Hengyuan's wife Bi Xia heartbroken at the memorial service, and even filmed her secretly wiping her tears during the meal. Is this an expression of sympathy or no emotion?
I don't know much about Zhang Hengyuan because I'm not interested in current music programs. However, through an internet search, I learned that he is a young singer who once won the national runner-up in "The Voice of China Season 2" and won some awards after his debut. Unfortunately, however, he died of cancer on June 13 at the age of 36. It's a sad story.
What is even more touching is that his wife Bixia lost her mother as early as last year, but she still married her sick husband. They just got married last year and their children are less than 1 year old, which makes the whole funeral even more tragic. Zhang Hengyuan's parents also saw off their son at an advanced age, which is one of the greatest pains in the world.
In such a context, some people take mobile phones to shoot the scene wantonly, is this really for mourning? What's even more incredible is that even Zhang Hengyuan's funeral process was filmed and disseminated, is such an act appropriate? What the deceased needs is rest, not this false mercy.
With the popularity of the Internet and the prevalence of social media, some people have moved their funerals to their circle of friends. They donn mourning hats, take pictures and make incomprehensible words. Someone even made contradictory messages at the same moment, one moment sad, the next celebration. Is there a feeling like a cattle in the throat in this alternative way to participate in the funeral?
The Song Dynasty poet Gao Yi wrote in his poem: "If there is wine in life, you must be drunk, and a drop of He Zeng has reached the Nine Springs." This phrase tells us that life is short, and after death everything will turn into nothingness. Therefore, we should cherish the present moment and cherish every day with the people who matter.
Whether it is a loved one or a friend, don't wait until they pass away to start mourning, don't wait until you regret it to start thinking about how to fulfill your filial piety. We should live in the present moment and approach the funeral with sincerity and respect, because it is the best remembrance of the deceased. No matter what happens, understand that life is impermanent and cherish every day. Because in the book of life, every page is worth reading with our hearts, not hurriedly turning over.