If you want to harvest an indifferent heart, the only way to live your own sense of relaxation is to live.
For the rest of your life, learn to loosen your heart and live the highest state of life.
The episode of the variety show "Longing for Life" Xu Zhiyuan's visit. The whole process is very comfortable.
When other guests are working hard to perform in order to leave a good impression on the audience, for fear of being complained about by the audience for a little bit of badness;
When there is an awkward chat for the sake of the effect of the show; When you obviously don't like to work but barely work.
Xu Zhiyuan has long run off the camera, and in He Jiong's words, Xu Zhiyuan is a mysterious person who only appears at the dinner point.
Xu Zhiyuan is very independent, likes to stay alone, does not work if he does not like to work, and is particularly unsocial in the show.
But he lived out himself and was his true self.
I like to watch the sea in a daze by the sea or chat with local residents, helping the people to carry their burdens.
He is just so unpretentious, simply not too real, can not see anxiety, emotional stability, let the viewer relax and feel the sea together, and experience the longing life together.
There is a comfortable feeling of relaxation in Xu Zhiyuan.
Relaxation is a state in which many people pursue a feeling of relaxation all their lives.
Relaxation = no anxiety, no entanglement, no screwing, emotional stability, peace with encounters, comfort and naturalness.
Grasp the big and let go of the small, do not get tangled in the minutiae, and do not worry about the small things.
Because 10% of life is made up of what happens to you, and the other 90% is determined by how you react to what happens.
They know how to elevate patterns and insights. When your eyes are full of stars and the sea, you will not care about the frivolities in front of you.
They live in the present, not dwelling on past successes and failures and sunk costs, or worrying about too many uncertain futures.
It's about focusing on the present, doing things steadfastly, and living.
Take life as a huge playground, and you are the experiencer full of curiosity and adventurous spirit, live up to yourself, live up to time, sincerely feel comfortable, and be yourself generously.
As there is such a passage in the book "Mr. Toad Goes to the Psychologist":
"No criticism is stronger than oneself, and no judge is harsher than oneself."
I think so. What can really bring down our lives is never the things we encounter, but ourselves.
Therefore, life to see, think, and let go is a process of reconciliation with oneself.
It is precisely because many of us cannot achieve "relaxation".
We must learn how to see, think, and let go. Because reconciling with ourselves and maintaining a sense of relaxation is something we need to understand.
Only in this way can we face our lives better.
When something can't get worse, then it goes in a good direction.
But to get such a good direction, what we need is to have a good attitude, and this mentality is to see open, want to open, let go.
Write at the end
As the old saying goes: "Don't be surprised when you see flowers, cultivate your heart as little as water." ”
In life, if you try too hard, you will only be confused, top-heavy, and in the end the gain is not worth the loss.
If you can relax and be self-conscious, you can experience the beauty of calm and calm.